Author jefermelesyeux Posted December 27, 2013 Author Posted December 27, 2013 To put it bluntly, I'd say you don't know this guy at all. All you know is a bunch of crap he's spewed at you online. Lets look at facts here. 1. He's sweet talked you into being so smitten... meanwhile 2. Thinks it's perfectly acceptable to fall off the earth and completely ignore you... all while... 3. Never apologizing for blatantly ignoring you and then... 4. Gives a super vague response of being "so super busy..." and then... 5. Has probably plans to be in near you during the holidays and doesn't even ask you to get together. Nothing about this screams "I'm so into you!" I think it's your ego. It's basically a case of, "I can't have what I want!" While you're stomping your feet and acting desperate to gain the attention of someone who's barely casting one eye your way. I feel you're more into having the guy you're so into reciprocate, rather than it being a case of him being so super amazing. Focus your attention on the local guy, this online dude seems like a complete waste of time. it's interesting how i could be so blinded by one potentially "good" thing that i don't even pay any attention to the rest of the bad. but it's true! your 5 points really got me thinking. and what you said about how i'm more concerned with him reciprocating than him being amazing, also rings true. thank you for your objective viewpoint and brutal honesty. i need it. there's been somewhat of an "advancement" in the case. last night, i happened to log on to the dating website we met on and noticed he'd sent me a message, of his own free will without a prompt. he asked how my christmas was and we exchanged a few messages before i went to bed. during the conversation, i asked if he was going to be in town during his break. he said it wasn't likely but that he'd let me know in anticipation. then he said we will talk sometime this week. i guess it's good that he initiated contact last night, but thanks to you guys and your input, i'm still remaining weary. i'm trying to focus more on my vacation and spending time with my friends and family, and less on some lame guy. it's working and my mood has lifted.
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