butterfly319 Posted January 5, 2005 Posted January 5, 2005 Ok here's the link: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t53182/15-2 Here's the update: ON christmas eve, I decided go against you all lol; So i sent him this text message: Hey what's up? It's been a while...I just want to apologize for back then. I know I was childish and annoying. Sorry for stressing you out. Ok, Merry Christmas. About 2 hours later, he called. He asked me if I still had my old number and wished me a merry christmas. I left him alone after that....BUUUUT, I've had missed calls from him 3 days in a row now! He hasn't left a message so I haven't called. Should I call? I don't want to seem desperate. Should I let him keep trying until he's able to get a hold of me (i work 2 jobs so I can hardly get to my phone). I noticed something though....all three of the calls are after 11 pm. Booty call? lol or do Booty callers give up after the first call? lol i don't know! help.
SilentPrayer Posted January 5, 2005 Posted January 5, 2005 OK, I went through this only a fiew days ago. It is a booty call. If you call back and initiate the booty get together. It is NOT HIS dutey to call the next time. Its in your court. If he calls and initiates the booty get together he is the guilty party who has to call ( thats if the sex is good and you want him to call) If you are both on good terms the next time you speak together and your both happy and excited and are equally the faulty guy of "makeing the get together". BOTH of you is guilty. That ONLY if you both agree on PLANS! Since you texted first. You are kinda guilty. It seemed harmless but you and I both know that if you do , do the call or text etc. You are asking for CONTACT. BUT since you didnt exactly CALL him...and He CALLEd YOU! He is the one asking for the physical CONTACT...you were only wanting a SMALL form of contact. Since he is the CALLER...he is asking for the IMMEDIATE contact. I suggest you send him a text message and Say: Sorry I missed your calls. I have been buisy with work. I am so glad I get the next 2 days off. ( Even if you dont have the next fiew days off...just say so...to make him thin.."she has spair time to be with me") then its in his court... perfect game play.. to be less complicated...just call him and ask him out for a damb cup of coffee... seeya
Author butterfly319 Posted January 12, 2005 Author Posted January 12, 2005 I finally called him, he didn't answer so I left a message (I didn't mention anything about him calling me back). He called back about 1 hour later. I told him I got all his calls last week and he said he was just calling to say hi. We talked for about 15 minutes....catching up on stuff and joking around. Then he said, "hold on" and clicked to the other line. I waited for about 10 minutes! And he didn't click back! How rude. So I hung up and went to sleep--all hurt. I'm guessing it was his new girl (who else would call him at 12:15 am?). Well that told me a lot. Cmon, it's our first time talking after 6 weeks....that's how important I am to him. He did that before-right before we stopped talking (around the same time). Probably the same chick. Arrgh. I didn't think it would bother me this much. Maybe I shouldn't have called. At least I would still feel some sense of victory...considering the fact HE was the one who called 4 times and I hadn't called back. Maybe I'm overreacting. Somebody read me please. I secretly had hope. I hope we would get back together and now I'm hurting again
unreal Posted January 12, 2005 Posted January 12, 2005 Originally posted by butterfly319 I finally called him, he didn't answer so I left a message (I didn't mention anything about him calling me back). He called back about 1 hour later. I told him I got all his calls last week and he said he was just calling to say hi. We talked for about 15 minutes....catching up on stuff and joking around. Then he said, "hold on" and clicked to the other line. I waited for about 10 minutes! And he didn't click back! How rude. So I hung up and went to sleep--all hurt. I'm guessing it was his new girl (who else would call him at 12:15 am?). Well that told me a lot. Cmon, it's our first time talking after 6 weeks....that's how important I am to him. He did that before-right before we stopped talking (around the same time). Probably the same chick. Arrgh. I didn't think it would bother me this much. Maybe I shouldn't have called. At least I would still feel some sense of victory...considering the fact HE was the one who called 4 times and I hadn't called back. Maybe I'm overreacting. Somebody read me please. I secretly had hope. I hope we would get back together and now I'm hurting again Can I ask you something? Why do you care? Why do you put yourself through this pain? This a guy who obviously has NO RESPECT for YOU. A guy who only wants sex from you. Can this be any more obvious? I am not sure, but I would be willing to bet, you only want him because he is a challenge and you can't understand why he isn't conforming to what you want him to be. Or you cannot understand why he doesn't want you totally. I am a guy and I can read this out of your posts. If you really want this guy, make him jealous! He needs to see that you are NOT waiting around for him, you don't have to have him, and he is replaceable. If I were you, I would make plans with him and tell him you will call him, and not call or show up. Then apologize later and say, well something came up. And DO NOT tell him what it was. Make him think and wonder. If you do this, you will get more response from him than ever. There is only one way to play a player, ignore them and act like you don't care.
7on Posted January 12, 2005 Posted January 12, 2005 Well, on a personal note I've never gotten the hang of putting someone on hold. So he might have accidentally hung up on you, but thinks you hung up on him. I don't know, just offering a glimmer of hope I guess.
Author butterfly319 Posted January 13, 2005 Author Posted January 13, 2005 lol. thank you so much unreal. that's the best advice I can get. I pretended I didn't care by not returning his 4 phone calls last week. So I thought that he would want me this time I called lol. He gave me hints that he wanted to see me but I'm guessing just for sex. If it's just a challenge, why do I cry? I probably am a booty call to him....that hurts so much. My eyes are getting all teary....darn it. I hate feeling like this. I brought it all to myself. He doesn't seem like that type of guy...but we aren't together anyway...he can do whatever he wants. It just hurts because I'm starting to realize what I really meant to him....nothing.
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