my gf of 3 years broke up

[newestusers]

we had been together for 3 years.. i love her and so did she.. we used to fight a lot over petty things and to be true i was rude and often got angry about her talking to guys.. she lied to me that she didnt tok to her ex but after i found out she was sorry for it..she too was rude at times but at the end of the day we were together.. i called her cheat at times when i lost my cool but she too did the same.. now this year we joined a new high school.. she dumped me this month and reasoned that i was bad to her.. i really feel guilty about how i treated her but then, i myself received the same treatment.. last week i fpund out she has fallen for another guy..

now i am socially very alone.. she was the one whom i shared everything with.. i cry like about 3-4 hours a day.. i tried everythin from apologizing to chasing her through the city to cooking her fav dish and surprising her.. i really cant live without her and she wants me away.. i know i am wrong but wasnt she? i have begged for a last chance butall that happens is that her brother calls me up to stay away from her

Now,have i lost her? will she come back ever? am i too selfish and bad? how to get out of this depression? i regret my mistakes but i do love her truly and she says she has no feelings for me

[TylerDurdenn]

I was in the same boat, but she didn't move onto anybody else.

 

You are better than this, it's all in the mind.

 

Just let go, you miss somebody that just isn't there anymore, she doesn't love you and she doesn't want you.

 

You've got to face the facts, take a step back and plan life without her.

 

I know it's hard but you have to do it.

[David87]

we had been together for 3 years.. i love her and so did she.. we used to fight a lot over petty things and to be true i was rude and often got angry about her talking to guys.. she lied to me that she didnt tok to her ex but after i found out she was sorry for it..she too was rude at times but at the end of the day we were together.. i called her cheat at times when i lost my cool but she too did the same.. now this year we joined a new high school.. she dumped me this month and reasoned that i was bad to her.. i really feel guilty about how i treated her but then, i myself received the same treatment.. last week i fpund out she has fallen for another guy..

now i am socially very alone.. she was the one whom i shared everything with.. i cry like about 3-4 hours a day.. i tried everythin from apologizing to chasing her through the city to cooking her fav dish and surprising her.. i really cant live without her and she wants me away.. i know i am wrong but wasnt she? i have begged for a last chance butall that happens is that her brother calls me up to stay away from her

Now,have i lost her? will she come back ever? am i too selfish and bad? how to get out of this depression? i regret my mistakes but i do love her truly and she says she has no feelings for me

 

Prove to her that you are not selfish by going NC for atleast a month, then try again and see what happens.

[newestusers]

all these years,there hasn't been a single day that i haven't talled to her.. trying NC is too difficult.. i really love her and this guilt of mine is eating me up

[David87]

all these years,there hasn't been a single day that i haven't talled to her.. trying NC is too difficult.. i really love her and this guilt of mine is eating me up

 

Unfortunately that is the only thing you can do for her and for you, by doing NC you will start to heal and you will prove to her that you respect her decision.

[newestusers]

but the fact that she no longer cares about me just tears me.. i just want time to turn back and i give her the princess kinda treatment.. i am happy to know she is happy with the other guy but truly I hate the feeling i am not the one to make her happy.. the guy she'a fallen for neither likes her nor loves her.. only flirts with her throughout..

 

won't a miracle happen some day and she would come back to me..

[newestusers]

i know i am going to sound stupid but what if she leaves me forever?

i have planned my life with her.. i am too afraid to lose her.. and i really do not want to accept the fact that she is gone..it always brings a tear when i think about life without her.. i dont feel like facing light.. darkness sooths me so well and i just hope she somehow returna to me..

[David87]

i know i am going to sound stupid but what if she leaves me forever?

i have planned my life with her.. i am too afraid to lose her.. and i really do not want to accept the fact that she is gone..it always brings a tear when i think about life without her.. i dont feel like facing light.. darkness sooths me so well and i just hope she somehow returna to me..

 

My ex dumped me 3 week ago, se said that se loved me, we talked about marriage, kidds and we planned our whole life together, one and a half weeks later (after BU ) she started flirting with a new guy, and now she is spending Christmas with him... How do you think I feel? You should read my thread it will help you.

[Jmk21]

Your not the only one who has felt like that after a breakup. I think a lot of us have felt that way, I know I sure as hell did.

 

She's already left you, denied you, found a better match for herself. Nothing YOU can do consciously will change her mind. You take care of YOU now. Better yourself by making more friends, box up everything that reminds you of her. Do not harbor resentment for this girl.

 

You will eventually become numb to the pain, The dreams will subside. I still think about my ex about everyday so that's not really a condolence to you But it's no longer of sadness as I once felt. I can't be mad at her for wanting to be happy. She just wasn't the right one for ME. Realize your bad traits and improve them. Become THE CATCH.

 

Cliffs:

Ignore her and your impulses to contact her, it's OVER

Remember your still a man with a pair of balls. Sack the hell up

There's somebody better than her out there

Take your time to grieve and then get off your butt when your tired of feeling sad and depressed and start over again

[newestusers]

but i dont just want to move on.. seeing her smile every morning makes me weak.. she said she would talk to me only as a friend.. what shall i do?

i really want to hear her voice everyday but i want to be the closest person to her

and not just another friend..

[Chi townD]

i know i am going to sound stupid but what if she leaves me forever?

i have planned my life with her.. i am too afraid to lose her.. and i really do not want to accept the fact that she is gone..it always brings a tear when i think about life without her.. i dont feel like facing light.. darkness sooths me so well and i just hope she somehow returna to me..

 

 

Dude, get a grip! She's only one girl and there are millions out there that would love to date you. From what you're telling me, you were all about her and she was all about you....and anyone else that she was interested in. She always had one foot out the door. She was always talking and probably flirting with other dudes, her Ex....how was that fair to you? How is that an indication that she was all about you and ONLY you?

 

Funny how she dumps you and a short time later; she's with some other dude. No time to mourn the loss of you or the relationship. Why? Because she was probably cheating on you with this dude. If not physically then emotionally. So, my point is, she was never 100% your girlfriend. She was for a little while and after a period of time, she was just cooling her heels with you while she was window shopping for the next guy to be with. I think, deep down, you knew this and it drove you to act a little insane and say and do things. But, that's not your fault. If she was a trustworthy girlfriend, I can assume that there wouldn't have been any insanity on your part. So, DO NOT take any blame with her being a flirt and possibly a cheat.

 

So, what do you do? Get angry and ignore her. You are not her friend. Start making positive changes in your life and go complete NO CONTACT on her. Do not respond to texts or emails. Let all calls go to voicemail. If she gets bold and approaches you to start a conversation. Be nice, be calm and all business. Limit your answers to one or two words, then excuse yourself.

 

Time to move on dude. Remember, she made the choice to have you out of her life, not you. Therefore, you're just giving her exactly what she asked for.