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brokeNlost

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brokeNlost Established Member

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So yesterday would have been me and my ex 4yr 4m anniversary. Being the idiot that I am, I texted her. The conversation went like this:

 

me: just remembered what today would have been ;)

her: Yup 4 years and 4 months anniversary

me: u working today?

her: Yup I'm at work right now. So busy and tired

me: me too

her: Well it's almost Christmas so yeah busy busy

me: take care of yourself (THIS IS WHERE I TRY TO END THE CONVERSATION)

her : I try... Lol

her: U still miss me or something?

me: i told u what today is

her: So u do missed me

me: :)

her: Question. "If" me and him doesn't work out for some reason... Do u still want me?

me: why do u ask

her: Just answer my question

me: I have never stopped loving you.

her: awwwwwww

 

and then she continue to talk to me about her problems with her new bf. My question is did I just become her backup plan or is she really wanting to come back to me? I don't want to have false hope..

JDPT Established Member

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What a slap on the face

 

Live and learn

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TylerDurdenn Established Member

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You just boosted her ego, you're not even a back up plan, if she wanted you she'd be with you.

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lauri Established Member

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Wow...some girls just want to be loved. Essentially she feels like what she did was OKAY now... what a joke.

 

Don't worry about it dude - it happens. Never show your cards to your ex as they'll eat it up and use it to their advantage. The minute she finds out you found another girl she will go crazy.

 

Let her drown in her misery with this new "man" and don't ever ever again listen to her problems - she doesn't deserve your emotional support.

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Yep, you're her safety blanket now. She has nothing to worry about now. If her current relationship fails she can just come running back to you with open arms. Congrats.

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brokeNlost Established Member

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yea I know what I did was stupid but I was vulnerable and still missed her. I shouldn't gave her emotional support because now I'm feeling like ****.

JDPT Established Member

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Of course you are not her backup plan you are now her doormat.

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lauri Established Member

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Yep, you're her safety blanket now. She has nothing to worry about now. If her current relationship fails she can just come running back to you with open arms. Congrats.

 

Honestly, its a blessing in disguise he is doing this now and shooting himself in the foot. Anytime a girl ends it with you her interest level is so low it can never be raised to the point it once was before - no point of having that false hope.

 

Who cares what she thinks anymore...I would just redeem yourself by deleting her number / blocking her in every way or form. Spend your energy and time on someone worth it - not someone who will be using you.

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brokeNlost Established Member

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I was actually doing good with NC until recently she started to tell me that her parents like and preferred me over her new bf. She been complaining about him for a couple of days already. Which was why I got a moment of weakness and texted her on our would be anniversary.

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I was actually doing good with NC until recently she started to tell me that her parents like and preferred me over her new bf. She been complaining about him for a couple of days already. Which was why I got a moment of weakness and texted her on our would be anniversary.

 

Tell her to shut up and stop disrespecting her new boyfriend.

 

Don't be her punching bag.

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Plus she told me that the reason they are arguing is because she have trust issue.. which is true because when we were dating she was the same way with me. One part of me want her back, the other part remember the arguments we had because of her trusting issues.

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I was actually doing good with NC until recently she started to tell me that her parents like and preferred me over her new bf. She been complaining about him for a couple of days already. Which was why I got a moment of weakness and texted her on our would be anniversary.

 

Man don't worry.

 

Of course her parents prefer you... a lot of the time this happens. They leave you for some loser and regret it down the road. She does things / says things to breadcrumb you and make sure she has you whenever she wants. She would respect you more if she knew she couldn't walk all over you.

 

Her loss. 100% her loss. Your gut is probably telling you what we are telling you - listen to it and don't talk to this selfish girl. If she messages you again, respond "I'm sorry, who is this?" and never respond again.

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chris21422 Established Member

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Man just stop it. cut off all contact now.. and delete her off everything

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brokeNlost Established Member

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Yes, deep down I know what my guts is telling me. It's just so hard since my head is telling me one thing but my heart is telling me another thing.

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Always follow your head not your heart..

 

If you follow your heart it won't do you any good. I know it sucks man but that's the reality is..

 

Yes, deep down I know what my guts is telling me. It's just so hard since my head is telling me one thing but my heart is telling me another thing.
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Yes, deep down I know what my guts is telling me. It's just so hard since my head is telling me one thing but my heart is telling me another thing.

 

so what if it doesnt work out with her new bf and she runs back to you and youre back in a relationship with her.

 

do you think YOU could trust her again and that everything would be back to normal, or even better?

 

yeah, been there, done that. and lets just say theres a reason i dont believe in second chances anymore..

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Lmao the audacity!

 

Shoulda ended it with

 

" hell no , you're damaged goods now"

 

 

 

 

 

Barky

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Good point barky! Haha

 

She complains to you but shes happy with him or she wouldn't complain to you she would just leave him and go back to you. This is just a game they play to make them feel less guilty.

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Backup plan.

 

" I wonder if he's still there"

 

New guy might have farted in his sleep last night and she didn't like it to much.

 

Pay it no mind.

 

Be a jerk.

 

 

 

 

 

Barky

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lauri, was right. Usually when break ups happen and you were close with the family they tend to be on your side. Most of the time, they would rather have you then some other guy. Broke up with my ex (she cheated) Her family was soo pissed what she did. Her family wanted to stay in contact with me still, they told me I was one of their kids. Sucks, but just move on. If anything, tell her new BF what she's doing. Girl sounds like a b###, what makes you think she won't do that to you if things don't go right.

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Honestly, If a girl ends it with you her interest level is so low it can never be raised to the point it once was before - no point of having that false hope.

 

 

This is a huge eye opener for me...after reading it...and thinking about it, that statement is so true.

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So I decided to confront her because I'm tired of her emotional games. I ask her when did she stopped loving me and she have the guts to look me straight in the eyes and tell me she never stopped but yet she won't leave him for me.

She even says she plan on spending the night at his place.

What the f*ck is that??? How can somebody fill you with so much hope one day and destroyed you the next day?

 

Then I told her that I refused to be her backup plan and at least now I know where I stand in her eyes. I feel somewhat relieve knowing that there is NO MORE hope with her anymore. I don't even feel anything anymore.

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Once you let go of hope is when you start making true progress.

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BigGirlPantiesOn Established Member

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She will never truly desire you until she can respect you.

 

She will never respect you until YOU respect yourself.

 

Respect yourself by DISAPPEARING from her world. Fall off the face of this earth. Find out why you allow yourself to be her emotional tampon.

 

You will find your respect when you cut the string to her doucebag self.

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her: Question. "If" me and him doesn't work out for some reason... Do u still want me?

me: why do u ask

her: Just answer my question

 

What a bitch.

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