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What is the difference between having feelings for a man and liking him? What would you do if you liked him vs had feelings? Would you kiss and make out? Go out on dates? In a situation where a woman has strong feelings for me but doesn't know if she like me as of yet.

 

when I got her a gift for Christmas she said "Boy you really are something else :) :) :)" not sure if this is a friendly or a liking gesture

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Language is imprecise. I can tell you what those words mean for me but that might not be what they mean to her.

 

 

Telling you that you are "something else" is a good thing. You stand separate & apart, possible above the other guys.

 

 

For me, when I like a guy it's the 1st stage. He's somebody I want to get to know better.

 

 

Having feelings for is starting to fall in love (but I'm too chicken to say it 1st so if I start off soft with these kinds of hints, I'm hoping you will be brave & say it 1st).

 

 

Just because those are my definitions, does not mean they are hers. There is no dictionary for this.

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Language is imprecise. I can tell you what those words mean for me but that might not be what they mean to her.

 

 

Telling you that you are "something else" is a good thing. You stand separate & apart, possible above the other guys.

 

 

For me, when I like a guy it's the 1st stage. He's somebody I want to get to know better.

 

 

Having feelings for is starting to fall in love (but I'm too chicken to say it 1st so if I start off soft with these kinds of hints, I'm hoping you will be brave & say it 1st).

 

 

Just because those are my definitions, does not mean they are hers. There is no dictionary for this.

 

Not a girl, but I think this makes a lot of sense and generally, what my experience has been and my understanding.

 

Interesting that you say that you're too chicken to say I love you first. Afraid to be hurt/rejected? I always hear that women should wait for the guy to say it first, but how valuable is that when men seem to be "looser" about the love word than women??? Just thinking out loud....

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To me liking is higher on the ladder than having feelings for. But I guess you are right, it depends on the girl. I would like to her more opinions from other women

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I would say the trend is like this:

 

Liking (weakest) < having feelings < love (strongest)

 

Liking is where you like a person but you're still getting to know them and you're testing the waters. Having feelings for the person is a stronger term, because this is where you're beginning to fall for them. And love comes last, when you've known the person for a while and are aware of their flaws and accept them for who they are.

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So when a girl says that have strong feelings for me but can't say if they like me or not, are they just in denial that they will fall? This is coming from a girl that has her guard up immensely

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I am female...

 

I have absolutely no idea what the difference is or if there is a difference.

 

I think my only time I would say I 'had feeling's for' would be when I did but I wasn't 'feeling it' and I was splitting up with them.

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Feeling what exactly? The feeling of liking them? Sexual feeling? What is "it"?

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For me, having feelings for someone is a lot more intense than liking. Liking is quite casual in my opinion, if I'm at a club and I like a guy, it means I think he's nice looking, and have maybe chatted to him a little and think he seems like an okay guy. If I liked a guy, I would most likely agree to go on a date and get to know him, and would probably kiss him.

 

If I have feelings for someone, that's a whole different ball game. For me, it comes with only a good emotional connection with someone I've spent a lot of time with/talked to a great deal and feel that I know well.

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So when a girl says that have strong feelings for me but can't say if they like me or not, are they just in denial that they will fall? This is coming from a girl that has her guard up immensely

 

 

 

there is a man in my life I say this to as well. I have very strong feelings for him, but I'm not sure I like him. I don't know what it means for her, but for me it means there are things about him that bother me and that (perhaps) I will not be able to tolerate in a dating relationship. maybe it's clothes, hair, etc. - it's usually something superficial, because if someone likes you and has strong feelings then they probably like your inner qualities more than your 'look.' could be that sincere attraction for you is missing on her part and she's hoping more time spent with you/liking you will turn to more. but it usually doesn't :-) if there is a lot of heat/attraction you rarely back away from it, so I'd guess that is what's missing

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Isn't 'like' a feeling?!

 

What's wrong with people being too afraid to say what they feel. Its like everyone's stuck in junior high mode. Lol

 

"Have feelings for" is generally undefined. "I feel something for you but I don't know yet what I feel."

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there is a man in my life I say this to as well. I have very strong feelings for him, but I'm not sure I like him. I don't know what it means for her, but for me it means there are things about him that bother me and that (perhaps) I will not be able to tolerate in a dating relationship. maybe it's clothes, hair, etc. - it's usually something superficial, because if someone likes you and has strong feelings then they probably like your inner qualities more than your 'look.' could be that sincere attraction for you is missing on her part and she's hoping more time spent with you/liking you will turn to more. but it usually doesn't :-) if there is a lot of heat/attraction you rarely back away from it, so I'd guess that is what's missing

 

But she has made out with me multiple of times. No sex yet however but we have had "dry" sex. She just wanted to wait. Would a woman not attracted be so phyiscally intimate with a man?

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