SpiralOut Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 This has improved over time as I learn to view myself better, present myself in a better light and recognize red lights right away. For example, I've been on a date with someone who asked to look at my feet, someone who kept randomly insulting me until I got fed up and dumped him, another guy who admitted to being a misogynist. My last few dates were much closer to normal though something still wasn't quite right. Most recently? The guy seemed super nice, interesting smart, and acted like a gentleman. He acted interested in me too. He invited me on another date, then cancelled. He responds and converses with me if I text him but he acts vague when I ask about meeting. I have no idea what that is about so I told him to message me if he wants to meet again. The ball is in his court now. I doubt I'll ever hear from him again. He is the second guy this year to act extremely interested in me then suddenly not care anymore. I'm getting so tired of this. 1
AnyaNova Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 This has improved over time as I learn to view myself better, present myself in a better light and recognize red lights right away. For example, I've been on a date with someone who asked to look at my feet, someone who kept randomly insulting me until I got fed up and dumped him, another guy who admitted to being a misogynist. My last few dates were much closer to normal though something still wasn't quite right. Most recently? The guy seemed super nice, interesting smart, and acted like a gentleman. He acted interested in me too. He invited me on another date, then cancelled. He responds and converses with me if I text him but he acts vague when I ask about meeting. I have no idea what that is about so I told him to message me if he wants to meet again. The ball is in his court now. I doubt I'll ever hear from him again. He is the second guy this year to act extremely interested in me then suddenly not care anymore. I'm getting so tired of this. I think I have an idea where you are coming from. The guys that I have attracted have certainly all been unique. Some in better ways tha. Others. But you know what? I don't care about normal. Healthy enough to not have major issues break my heart? Yeah. I care about that, but normal? Who needs it. It's not a bad thing, but hardly a requirement for me either. I prefer deep, true, profound, loyal, and lasting over normal any day of the week. Although to be fair, there are oddities that I just can't do! And someone asking to see my feet on a first date would be one of them. It can seem impossible to find someone, sometimes.
Disillusioned Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 I know the feeling. I've attracted all the wrong kinds of women (rude, too wild, nothing in common with me, etc) so many times, that's why I took myself off the market for years at a time.
HokeyReligions Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 I think we all attract, or are attracted to 'weird' people. Thank God. How boring otherwise. I dated a mime once. I finally gave up on him. I wonder if he's still stuck in that danm box? From him I dated a corporate attorney. BORING. He liked dipping his vegetarian pizza in egg drop soup. That was the only interesting thing about him. Then I dated a wanna-be movie director who was totally in to science fiction - including wearing costumes, uh I mean 'uniforms' to sci-fi conventions. I ended up with a United Federation of Planets ID card and a 'uniform' to. And I got to work on some PSAs with several TV celebs and as a best-boy's assistant and once as a best-boy, on several movies - the segments shot in the area. . Oh wait. I MARRIED that one! Lol 2
theothersully Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 Aren't we all so different? I can't find a weird enough girl, no matter how long I keep looking. Normal=boring to me. Bring on the quirks!! 2
felicity1 Posted December 26, 2013 Posted December 26, 2013 (edited) I think we all attract, or are attracted to 'weird' people. Thank God. How boring otherwise. I dated a mime once. I finally gave up on him. I wonder if he's still stuck in that danm box? Talking about wierd people and mimes, there is this guy working in the cafe I frequent. He often ogles and gesticulates(just like a mime) at me from across the room. He is very good-looking so I flirt back at him. A few months ago I handed him my number while paying. Although he told me he had a girlfriend he put my number in his pocket. I never heard from him, but he continues to flirt at me and his stares are now more intense. So last friday I had another go and I gave him a note(as he's always so busy) explaining that I find him so intruiging and that I'd really like to know who he is. He's probably just enjoying the flirt or perhaps is actually a performance artist practising his miming! Edited December 26, 2013 by felicity1
Author SpiralOut Posted December 27, 2013 Author Posted December 27, 2013 Haha. I guess by weird I meant someone I cannot connect with no matter how hard I try, the guys I do not understand at ALL. They are wrong for me in so many ways. Quirks are fine so long as we are still able to understand each other.
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