wargrrl Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 i have had thoughts about breaking up with my boyfriend whom ive been with for almost 2 years we are good to each other for the most part, we're comfortable with each other and we care about each other. but some days i don't know if love is enough he is 22, i am 20 im considering to breakup with him because he's very immature- doesnt wanna get a job, or at least broaden his interests to lead a more fulfilling life instead ofplaying WoW and smoking weed almost 24/7. he literally cannot go a few hours without smoking a huge j to his facehe's lied to me twice about not going on escort sites on our shared computer. i dont believe he actually hired an escort, but he told me he viewed those sites to get off. first time he promised me he wouldnt go on them and eventually i found it in our history again. the reasons listed above have made it really hard for me to not think of him as pathetic and helpless. i shouldnt be seeing my own partner that way, but his laziness and immaturity has become a growing turn off. what's holding me back? i have debt and i can't afford to move out just yet. if i had all the money in the world, im pretty sure i would leave just like that and have my own place. we currently split rent. and im comfortable with living with him but i dont know if i can stand him much longer. idk what to do. like, i have to save up to move out but even so, it takes a while to find a place. and the longer i stay with him i feel like the harder it is for me to breakup because i start to doubt my decision has anyone been in this situation? what should i do?
lil hoodlum Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 Have you communicated clearly what your issues are with him and about the relationship? If you haven't, you should. If you have, and he is unwilling to change, it might be time to chart a new path for your life. Question though, if he doesn't work, how does he pay half of the rent?
David87 Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 i have had thoughts about breaking up with my boyfriend whom ive been with for almost 2 years we are good to each other for the most part, we're comfortable with each other and we care about each other. but some days i don't know if love is enough he is 22, i am 20 im considering to breakup with him because he's very immature- doesnt wanna get a job, or at least broaden his interests to lead a more fulfilling life instead ofplaying WoW and smoking weed almost 24/7. he literally cannot go a few hours without smoking a huge j to his facehe's lied to me twice about not going on escort sites on our shared computer. i dont believe he actually hired an escort, but he told me he viewed those sites to get off. first time he promised me he wouldnt go on them and eventually i found it in our history again. the reasons listed above have made it really hard for me to not think of him as pathetic and helpless. i shouldnt be seeing my own partner that way, but his laziness and immaturity has become a growing turn off. what's holding me back? i have debt and i can't afford to move out just yet. if i had all the money in the world, im pretty sure i would leave just like that and have my own place. we currently split rent. and im comfortable with living with him but i dont know if i can stand him much longer. idk what to do. like, i have to save up to move out but even so, it takes a while to find a place. and the longer i stay with him i feel like the harder it is for me to breakup because i start to doubt my decision has anyone been in this situation? what should i do? Comunication is key here. You must tell him that those things are bothering you.
Mariposa10 Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 You're too young to be dealing with stuff like this. Tell him all this, and if he doesn't change, which I don't mean to be negative but I don't think he will, save money or ask your family to help you by letting you hit the couch or something.
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