My girlfriend won't compromise

[Janesays]

Meh, sounds like you are having more fun than me. In the end it will be the fun we remember not the fact that we paid our credit cards on time, every time.

 

You know what's fun? Having a great credit score, getting lower interest rates and more credit extended to me, more financial freedom, and being able to spend more money doing things that I love because I've proven myself financially responsible.

 

Stuff that comes from paying my credit cards on time, every time.

[Green Light]

You know what's fun? Having a great credit score, getting lower interest rates and more credit extended to me, more financial freedom, and being able to spend more money doing things that I love because I've proven myself financially responsible.

 

Stuff that comes from paying my credit cards on time, every time.

 

 

Being financially responsible hasn't made much difference in my life. I have never missed a credit card payment, zero debt, owe nothing to nobody but I have known many people who were horrible with money but still lived fun lives and survived just like the rest of us. I guess it's all relative.

[Omei]

Thanks for the replies. I figured it was me who jumped off the deep end, not her. This Thursday, I have an appointment with my banker to see if I can take out another loan, or get a line extension, so I can pay her back. I agree that I'm skating on very thin ice with her and I'm really lucky to have someone like her in my life.

 

After you say sorry and talk out your plan to pay her back, stick to it or even pay her back in small amounts if needed just for good measure 20$ here 20$ there so it looks like an effort.

 

And its likely she's giving 2nd thoughts about the relationship she hasn't left you yet now's a good time to do a little ass kissing as well, be sweet say kind things, make her breakfast, clean up for her offer help with anything just something.

 

Good luck.

[Phantom888]

Thanks for the replies. I figured it was me who jumped off the deep end, not her. This Thursday, I have an appointment with my banker to see if I can take out another loan, or get a line extension, so I can pay her back. I agree that I'm skating on very thin ice with her and I'm really lucky to have someone like her in my life.

 

I don't know what kind of woman would put up with you. Assuming this is a real post and not a troll, I feel really sorry for your woman. First off, a man would have to be a real failure to borrow money from his girlfriend. I mean, it's almost like losing your balls and have to ask your girlfriend for replacement balls. Second, you broke a promise to pay back a loan, and instead went to Vegas and blew all that money. On top of that, you got a DUI. I mean, any one of those occurrences would be a deal-breaker for most decent women. If she stays with you, she really doesn't deserve respect. Sorry.

[dreamingoftigers]

You know what's fun? Having a great credit score, getting lower interest rates and more credit extended to me, more financial freedom, and being able to spend more money doing things that I love because I've proven myself financially responsible.

 

Stuff that comes from paying my credit cards on time, every time.

 

I have no idea what this is like but it sounds so, so nice!

[dreamingoftigers]

Thanks for the replies. I figured it was me who jumped off the deep end, not her. This Thursday, I have an appointment with my banker to see if I can take out another loan, or get a line extension, so I can pay her back. I agree that I'm skating on very thin ice with her and I'm really lucky to have someone like her in my life.

 

At least you recognize the pattern and are willing to rectify it with her. (Even if it means kicking yourself further in debt).

 

Now, often these things aren't singular.

What else has she been mentioning that you are pushing aside in favor if avoiding it?

[ja123]

This past spring, I ran into some financial problems. My girlfriend lent me enough money to fix the problems; we agreed I would pay her back in full within four months. At the four month mark, I had the funds to pay her back, but my boys wanted to go to Vegas and I wanted to go too. I didn't tell her I was going, so when she texted me asking if I could stop by the bank and make the payment into her account, I told her I was busy at work and would call her later. Well, she later found out through a friend's Facebook where I was and she was very angry. She called me some very inappropriate names and I was very hurt by that. I ended up losing all the money in Vegas and had to tell her. I sort of tried to blame it on her, that if she hadn't upset me, it wouldn't have happened. But I know it was my fault. She didn't make me gamble and take risks. I've just never seen her that angry before and didn't know what to say.

 

I promised her I would pay her back by the end of December and things were okay. Well, last week I got a DUI. My mom picked me up at the jail because my girlfriend refused to when I called her. I get it, but she should be supporting me during this stressful time in my life, not making me feel like scum.

 

I'm not going to be able to pay her back this month. The fines, costs, and attorney's fees are just too much. Plus with the holidays, there are gifts and extra expenses. She said that I'm immature, I make too many bad decisions, I'm not serious about her. That when you are in debt, you don't take trips, you don't spend needlessly, you do everything you can to pay back the debt. That if I was really serious about paying her back, I would have gotten a second job or taken a cash advance on my credit card. I didn't tell her these weren't options because I have other commitments on my time and my credit cards are maxed out. She doesn't know how bad my financials are because I've never told her, I hide all the papers when she comes over.

 

My girlfriend now doesn't want to see me and I don't know what to do. I've asked her to let me take her out for dinner, but she says she'd rather me pay her back than take her out. I asked her if I could buy her a Christmas gift and she said no, that if I have money to buy a gift, then I have a little bit of cash to start chipping away at my debt. I want to make this better, I want to make this right with her, I just don't have the money to pay her back right now. I thought we were a team and she isn't acting like a teammate.

 

I think she really just doesn't understand how hard this is on me. She has the money to travel to Europe with her sisters every year. When her car needs work, it's no problem to pay for the repairs. She loves to shop. If she has the money for all these things, I don't think she really needs me to pay her back ASAP, so why won't she just let this go?

 

Reading what I wrote makes me sound like a loser, and it's making me really depressed. She has a good job and works hard and makes good financial decisions. I guess I just keep making bad decisions, but I really don't mean to.

 

How can I get her to see that it's just money? How can I get her to see that I love her and we'll work through this?

 

 

 

I think this is a troll post.

[TB Rhine]

I agree. This guy says absolutely nothing in his entire post that makes his position the least bit sympathetic. 'I borrowed money from this chick, haven't paid her back (twice) due to my own malfeasance, and now she's acting all pissed. What gives?' Really?