Mondmellonw Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 I'm working on it. And I mean it. I'm avoiding all those "sad tunes" and songs he made for me, or even the ones I made for him. However, we shared a lot and I'm getting tired to feel weird (memories go back to my head) while listening to almost anything I like... Any suggestions?
innocentbutterfly Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 I didnt listen to any music for a week, I spent all days sleeping/eating. Literally. I was a mess, I slept like 15 hours out of a day. Then I listened just fine without memories, but I had friends online to talk to me and constantly remind me why it wasn't exactly end of the world for me. So surround yourself with friends. Hang out too. Which I still didnt after one month, but either way. Just avoid music if you know it hurts you too much and if you tend to read into lyrics deep like I do. 1
Mariposa10 Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 For me ANYTHING that involved seeing/hearing about romantic love made me sick to my stomach at the very beginning. I remember whenever I would see a romantic status of a married couple I'm friends with on Facebook, I'd get so pissed off I couldn't watch romantic movies or listen to romantic tunes because I'd cry my eyes out. Now, I feel better. Now I can listen to all that, but I try not too... What has become hard for me is watching a sex scene in movies. I think of my ex having sex with his new friend But I'm getting better now. It's all about letting time do its thing. I still don't like seeing couples in public. It reminds me of what I don't have anymore. However, I loove seeing people getting to know each other, the early stages of dating. When they are not a couple yet, but you can tell they like each other Maybe it reminds me of my bright future?
Author Mondmellonw Posted December 24, 2013 Author Posted December 24, 2013 It's not the fact that the lyrics remind me of him. Some of this songs don't even have a singer on it. It's the fact that I was convinced of that we were compatible at many levels. Listening makes me think about it, and makes feel like crap. I'll try to hang out more... To me it's been a month now and I feel much better, but there are some "points" I still have trouble dealing with. Thanks!
Author Mondmellonw Posted December 24, 2013 Author Posted December 24, 2013 For me ANYTHING that involved seeing/hearing about romantic love made me sick to my stomach at the very beginning. I remember whenever I would see a romantic status of a married couple I'm friends with on Facebook, I'd get so pissed off I couldn't watch romantic movies or listen to romantic tunes because I'd cry my eyes out. Now, I feel better. Now I can listen to all that, but I try not too... What has become hard for me is watching a sex scene in movies. I think of my ex having sex with his new friend But I'm getting better now. It's all about letting time do its thing. I still don't like seeing couples in public. It reminds me of what I don't have anymore. However, I loove seeing people getting to know each other, the early stages of dating. When they are not a couple yet, but you can tell they like each other Maybe it reminds me of my bright future? The thing about thinking on... Well, sex between my ex and a new girl also makes me sick, even when I haven't been that intimate with him. Haha and I also share the feeling about the dating phase... You'll be soon out of it
theothersully Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 Listen to new/different music. There are several artists I can no longer listen to because they are reminders of my ex: Natalie Imbruglia Shawn Colvin Liz Phair and I can't remember a few others, so.... that's a good thing! 1
Sparky9 Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 I did my best to steer clear of music we listened to together. We are both big country fans...NOT the music to listen to. I actually made a playlist on my phone of some of the older hip hop/rap. Not a whole lotta love songs there ...seemed to help me quite a bit! 1
ks0985 Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 This is one thing i struggle with, certain songs definetly remind me of her. Songs i heard when we first started dating, or just songs that she told me were her favorites or made her think of me. I know it eventually goes away but right now its hard. Too stubborn to break NC but some days its harder than others thats for sure, but like how i quit smoking ( 1 year 6 months to date) you just gotta take it day by day 1
Author Mondmellonw Posted December 24, 2013 Author Posted December 24, 2013 Listen to new/different music. There are several artists I can no longer listen to because they are reminders of my ex: Natalie Imbruglia Shawn Colvin Liz Phair and I can't remember a few others, so.... that's a good thing! Lucky you. If not for the progressive metal, which I do not really like at all (he does)... Everything else was common to both of us.
Author Mondmellonw Posted December 24, 2013 Author Posted December 24, 2013 I did my best to steer clear of music we listened to together. We are both big country fans...NOT the music to listen to. I actually made a playlist on my phone of some of the older hip hop/rap. Not a whole lotta love songs there ...seemed to help me quite a bit! I tried to do something like it, and I re-started to listen music I used to listen years ago, when he wasn't a part of my life. Makes me feel better.
Author Mondmellonw Posted December 24, 2013 Author Posted December 24, 2013 This is one thing i struggle with, certain songs definetly remind me of her. Songs i heard when we first started dating, or just songs that she told me were her favorites or made her think of me. I know it eventually goes away but right now its hard. Too stubborn to break NC but some days its harder than others thats for sure, but like how i quit smoking ( 1 year 6 months to date) you just gotta take it day by day Congratulations for leaving that stuff. I agree with you. Sometimes I have this urge to let him know I still listen to "our songs", that's a very stupid feeling. He's too a very stubborn guy, I guess if it wasn't for it, we could talk... But no. Keep going with that.
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