Holidays are tough

[Eddie007]

For those that don't know my story I'm just over 4 months out of a 4+ year relationship and engagement. We lived together as a married couple for most of the time together. We have not seen or spoken to each other since the day she said she was no longer happy. I just packed my things and walked out of her and her daughters life that very same day. No fighting, begging or crying, I didn't even really say goodbye. I never asked for a reason as all she said was she wasn't happy but didnt know why she felt that way.

 

I've made good progress in my recovery. I've lost considerable weight by going to teh gym 6 days a week, got a new apartment and lived on my own these past 4 months. I also have been spending weekends with my children (from a previous marriage) and I still have monthly visits with my therapist.

 

My ex fiance no longer consumes my thoughts, but there has not been a day go by that I have not thought of her and her daughter. I don't know if its because of the time of year but I've been thinking of them a lot lately.

 

I've been on dates but nothing too much has come from them. The dates were fun but I didn't seem to make a connection with anyone.

 

I don't have an urge to reach out as I know I'm not ready for that, but I do still wonder if she thinks of me like I do her after these months.

 

Christmas was always a special time with her and her family. My parents divorced when I was young so I never really got the family Christmas like I had with her family. Her parents and brothers all treated me like one of their own. I miss the relationship with her brothers as well. I don't have any brothers and I really enjoyed being one of the boys.

 

I had my Christmas with my kids and family this past weekend as they will be with their mom on Christmas Day. I'm just ready for it to be 2014 already.

[chris21422]

You're doing good man. Just stay no contact for now till you are completely healed..

 

Just give her and yourself time and space from each other.. For sure she thinks about you from time to time. 3 yrs is not a short time to just forget someone so easily.

 

Yea holiday will be tough also don't rush on looking for the right one.. It's good that you are back on the dating scene. The right one will come in time.

 

And when that day comes you won't make the same mistakes you might did in the past.

 

 

 

For those that don't know my story I'm just over 4 months out of a 4+ year relationship and engagement. We lived together as a married couple for most of the time together. We have not seen or spoken to each other since the day she said she was no longer happy. I just packed my things and walked out of her and her daughters life that very same day. No fighting, begging or crying, I didn't even really say goodbye. I never asked for a reason as all she said was she wasn't happy but didnt know why she felt that way.

 

I've made good progress in my recovery. I've lost considerable weight by going to teh gym 6 days a week, got a new apartment and lived on my own these past 4 months. I also have been spending weekends with my children (from a previous marriage) and I still have monthly visits with my therapist.

 

My ex fiance no longer consumes my thoughts, but there has not been a day go by that I have not thought of her and her daughter. I don't know if its because of the time of year but I've been thinking of them a lot lately.

 

I've been on dates but nothing too much has come from them. The dates were fun but I didn't seem to make a connection with anyone.

 

I don't have an urge to reach out as I know I'm not ready for that, but I do still wonder if she thinks of me like I do her after these months.

 

Christmas was always a special time with her and her family. My parents divorced when I was young so I never really got the family Christmas like I had with her family. Her parents and brothers all treated me like one of their own. I miss the relationship with her brothers as well. I don't have any brothers and I really enjoyed being one of the boys.

 

I had my Christmas with my kids and family this past weekend as they will be with their mom on Christmas Day. I'm just ready for it to be 2014 already.