Author singledad1964 Posted January 10, 2005 Author Posted January 10, 2005 sarcasm is lost on this group- at least the 19 year old gets my dry sarcastic wit
Elmo Posted January 11, 2005 Posted January 11, 2005 Okay...I not 19, but I get the joke. Hey, it's legal. Sometimes life is wierd and you fall in love and screw everyone else for looking down upon your choices. However....a 19 year old that goes for a 40 year old (doesn't matter that she "looks 30" and you "look 30") will, eventually grow up. Problem is that you are already grown. I don't want to rain on your parade but I'm guessing that she likes that you are older and a father figure. This will wear very thin for her VERY QUICKLY. I speak from experience. Have a great fling...but don't even think this is going to be long term. ...Unless it is one of those weird "wonderful" love stories. I think you both will know pretty soon, when the new wears off.
Mtn_Girl Posted February 5, 2005 Posted February 5, 2005 Hey there. I'm in my twenties and my boyfriend is in his 40s. And things are working out just fine for us. And no, I'm not looking for a sugar daddy or a father figure. It just happens that I fell in love with my biking buddy, who also happened to be nearly 20 years older than me. At 19, I wouldn't have been in a position to date him - I was just too inexperienced, but everyone is different. So my advice, is to go with your feelings and enjoy what you have. Just keep your eyes open and be aware, as you would getting into a relationship with anyone. Take it slow, and develop a strong friendship (advice for any healthy relationship). People of all ages marry for money, or whatever - it's not age-related. People in the same age bracket can be emotionally, mentally, and physically generations apart. You know, people also at one time objected to inter-racial couples.
masked_man Posted February 6, 2005 Posted February 6, 2005 This is a topic I can relate to. A friend of mine is 41, but looks 30. He is often hit on by women in their early 20's. He gently deflects most of this attention, and besides has a girlfriend, who is 30 btw. A lot of people here have been suggesting your girl is looking for a sugar daddy or a father figure. OTOH if you're a 40yo who stills scrubs up well, and she initially thought you were only "about ten years older", the attraction may be more physical than anything else. In your case singledad it'll probably be a matter of time before your girl starts doing the math and realises she will be with a 50yo in ten years time! That said though, so long as you are open about the age gap you may as well go for it. I wouldn't expect a long term outcome or relationship though. Again so long as you are cool with that, then go for it. Incidentally my friend also has a 21yo daughter from an earlier marriage. Given the attention he receives from woman 20 years his junior, I once asked him what he would think if she was dating a much older man. He said while he wouldn't be comfortable with it, he also felt it wouldn't be right to be getting that involved in her life, unless of course she asked for his advice first. He believes that so long as she all the facts, then she is quite capable of making her own decisions in life.
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