tiki Posted January 5, 2005 Posted January 5, 2005 Isn't it amazing how after being in a relationship for a while, the kisses go away?! I want open-mouth kissing here. Hell, even a peck kiss on the lips would work. But nooo, it's all about the sex and other crap, whatever happened to kissing?! My ex-husband and I quit kissing well into our marriage. I went over a year without kissing him. Not even could I fathom peck kissing his lips after some time. Kiss your mate. Letting this go can do unrepairable damage, you guys. Just because you're together for a long time, doesn't mean that you should stop passionately kissing. That's what gets the juices flowing. Now if I could just get some for myself.
mr wonderful Posted January 5, 2005 Posted January 5, 2005 Trouble in your new marriage? Sex now kissing? Do you ever kiss him? Or do you expect him to kiss you?
tattoomytoe Posted January 5, 2005 Posted January 5, 2005 yeah tiki...i am sure if you kissed him he would kiss you back. no, it is not like the surprise of him kissing you, but maybe he will take the hint after you kiss him all the time!
Author tiki Posted January 5, 2005 Author Posted January 5, 2005 Originally posted by mr wonderful Trouble in your new marriage? Sex now kissing? Do you ever kiss him? Or do you expect him to kiss you? I'm just pointing out something that is so easily overlooked. Kissing is vital, in my eyes. Why do you kiss so much at the beginning of dating and then stop?! Because you're used to that person? I do kiss him some, but I mostly expect him to take the lead.
mr wonderful Posted January 5, 2005 Posted January 5, 2005 I was just trying to clarify. I thought if you had kissed him then backed off maybe he was feeling like you weren't interested.
Pocky Posted January 5, 2005 Posted January 5, 2005 My husband and I give "kisses" a lot, but the slow sensual kisses died off a long time ago. I'm always yelling at him that he kisses me like they kiss in porn when we're having sex. Lips barely touching and tongues going all over the place. I hate it. It's like we're playing the thumb game with our tongues..
savethedrama4allama Posted January 5, 2005 Posted January 5, 2005 Amen to this thread, and everyone remember to pay attention to your mouth during sex, the grossest thing is when your partner latches on you with mouth open, shut, or tongue out, preoccupied with whatever else is going on.
RowanRavyn Posted January 5, 2005 Posted January 5, 2005 I had too many LS pages open and posted to the WRONG thread!
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 5, 2005 Posted January 5, 2005 Porn is like the regular movies: 99.99999% of the stuff in them don't work in real life. As for the kissing, if I'm getting a lot of pecks and I want more - I'll up it a notch. I'll gently grab his face when he pecks to keep him from pulling away too quickly and sort of softly suck in and nibble on his bottom lip. I get a sexy kiss then! Have you tried something like that?
Naive Posted January 5, 2005 Posted January 5, 2005 This happened to me with my bf a long time ago before we took our break. I would want to kiss him, even a small peck, but he would not want to. He would tell me, "that is so jr. high"!!!!!! I was like WTF????? so after some time I got used to it and we never kissed and when it was time to get intimate it was weird to kiss. After some time he actually wanted to kiss me and I would not want to, it would seem gross to me and it was his own fault because he made me feel this way!!!! THAT REALLY HAD A LOT TO DO WITH OUR BREAK-UP. Kissing is a big thing in a relationship.
ThumbingMyWay Posted January 5, 2005 Posted January 5, 2005 After what I and my wife have been through....I realized were not meeting eachothers emotional need...one of which the need for affection. What I try to do every day is this... While still in bed when we wake up....I give her a kiss and say good morning. I give her a compliment on what she is wearing or what she has done that morning... I help get the kids ready for the day and I will start her car on cold mornings... Then before we leave for work, we give a hug, a good passionate bye kiss, say I love you and say a nice thing to each other to start of the day. At some point during the day, at least once, we call eachother just to say hi and I love you. When I get home from work, we hug and give each other a kiss hello. I usually make dinner and then we talk about how eachothers day went. Conversation is crucial. After dinner, i help with the dishes and then we try to do somethings with the kids or housework TOGETHER... I or her read to the kids and help put them to bed at night. Then we settle into bed and talk about things and our day and future. We read our daily devotional bible reading and then discuss how it pertains to our marriage relationship and how we can make it better. Before we turn down for the night....we give another passionate kiss and say I love you and good night, then snuggle a bit before we fall asleep..... What we are trying to do...is show affection, give conversation and show companionship to eachother. All of these "little" things are bringing the LOVE back into our marriage....and by continouing these small little actions...we are growing our love for eachother and bringing it back and beyond were it used to be.
HokeyReligions Posted January 5, 2005 Posted January 5, 2005 Even though the sex and intimacy went out of our marriage many years ago, we have always kissed goodbye each day at least. Our whole "sexual experience" is strictly kissing. It never leads anywhere, but we do still kiss - including some long and passionate kisses. I have learned to be fulfilled with that. And, being the only sexual contact we have with each other, we are both pretty good kissers! During one episode some years ago when I had someone else interested in me and hubby and I were apart, I kissed the other guy a few times and he, knowing the celibate history of my marriage, was rather, uh, surprised and responsive to my kisses. Hubby knows about it and it did not cause any problems between us and it never got beyond those few kisses with the other guy. Hubby even realized that I needed some affection and appreciation and saw the 'non-fling' I had with the other guy as a positive for my own person self-confidence and ego and has not resented it or been angered by it. But that is due to our open and honest communication. Yes, kissing is very important!
Just Visiting Posted February 4, 2005 Posted February 4, 2005 I am currently struggling with this as well. For the past month, things have been stressful for my bf which in turned put some strain on our relationship. Especially in the physical aspect. Lately, he hardly touches me. I have been the initiator and it is really starting to bother me. He doesn't kiss, hold my hand, hug, etc. as much anymore. I have been his emotional supporter during the stressful times, and I would like some physical reassurance. For instance, last night, his son wasn't with us for the night, so I thought maybe we can make love. Bedtime, he rolled over to his side and started to fall asleep. So again, I initiated sex. And I feel sad about it. Nothing would have happened if I didn't initiate it. I want to talk about this with him. But I don't know how to approach it without making it sound like I am whining, or without him getting defensive. Lately, it seems to be one issue after another for us. I have come to see that I need that reassurance daily. It doesn't necessarily mean sex (it would be nice though), but I would appreciate more physical gestures. Spontaneous hugs, kisses, hand holding, etc. Can you give me suggestions, advice, stories on how to handle this issue? I haven't been very good at expressing my needs (comes from childhood experiences) and can use some help. Thanks everyone.
alicia24 Posted February 4, 2005 Posted February 4, 2005 I think a good, passionate kiss is the most intimate gesture you can do with your mate. I even think its more intimate than making love. I would prefer to be passionately kissed rather than having sex. THere is something about the way a man looks you in the eye and grabs your face and runs his hands through my hair all the way down to small of my back while kisiing me that just drives me crazy.
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