Did your ex turn out to be someone different than you thought?

[LadyM]

The funny thing with my ex is that he told me some of his flaws upfront, but he was so charming, generous, handsome, funny, smart and loving at the beginning, he completely swept me off my feet, anyway. (he was also mean, rageful, arrogant, critical and controlling)

 

Being a serial monogamist was one of his flaws, so he already had his next girl lined up when he dumped me.

Edited December 24, 2013 by LadyM

[MoooOinkBaaa]

Your ex is still in her 20's. You're allowed to go crazy when you're in your 20's, but my ex is in his 30's. Anyway, stuff like this is just a turn off for me, so in a way he's doing me a favor.

 

I think your ex is dealing with everything she's feeling and trying to discover who she really is after being in a relationship for sooooooooo long.

 

At least, in a way they're helping us get over them

 

She's like 25, hangs around with teenagers and acts like them though. Yeah it's a turn off for me too I don't support it.

 

I dunno, me and my ex were long distance, we spent more time apart than together. She had plenty of time and space alone to find herself.

[lil hoodlum]

My ex suddenly changed overnight into someone who was sweet and thoughtful, kind and affectionate, into being a cold stranger who absolutely refused to communicate with me.

 

One day things were perfectly fine. The next day she gave me a break up talk. The following day she might as well be dead. Two weeks after the breakup I was able to provoke her into answering some questions over text, from then on, absolute silence.

 

We either were with the same girl or they may be sisters.

 

I would have NEVER believed in a million years this sweet, caring, outgoing woman could be so cold-hearted.

 

Two things she said kind of rub me the wrong way sometimes.

 

Early in the relationship she asked my to tell her if she was doing something that I didn't like. Never had to have that talk until a little over 4 years later. Seems that I didn't deserve the same treatment, for her to tell me if I was doing something wrong. I even asked a few times if I had done anything to her or not done something right. Her response was it allways something else on her mind. She coundn't find the courage to be honest with me when I asked her what was going on.

 

Second thing, a week or so before she just walked away and never looked back, she told me I was the perfect boyfriend, was too good for her, I deserved someone better than her, and that she was holding me back. Really? If I was all that, why not take the time to talk to me if you were so unhappy about things? Why just walk away and say as little as possible?

 

Like your girl, mine has also refused to communicate with me about what the real issues were. I guess I need to learn how to be a mind reader.