ruby77 Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 Is there something about this time of year that brings back all those old feelings for anyone else?? Its been 8 months since I broke up with my boyfriend and the last couple of months i have been doing well, very nearly back to my old self. The last week or so i have been feeling crap again, really depressed and tearful and im so disappointed as i thought i was done. I just wonder if its this time of year, reminding me im alone. All my friends are snuggled up in their homes with their partners who they will wake up with on Xmas day :-( Anyone else feel like this?
Softie Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 Yeah of course, this time of year is always harder, it's such a line in the sand for everyone. Recalling past events of the year, families getting together, lots of love flying around all over the place. It can be a very lonely time of year, I love Xmas and have lots of friends/family but I've still been more lonely the last couple of weeks. 1
CYBER77 Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 (edited) well well i don't know but this year when i thought i was doing pretty good too some unwanted thoughts are back like stuck in my head i'm feeling like shi... i just want to feel good again,there are some people you know you are better without them in your life,but then when you think you are doing good, memories start pissing you :/ well i hope you'll get better and myself too good luck Edited December 23, 2013 by CYBER77
AlphaC Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 Is there something about this time of year that brings back all those old feelings for anyone else?? Its been 8 months since I broke up with my boyfriend and the last couple of months i have been doing well, very nearly back to my old self. The last week or so i have been feeling crap again, really depressed and tearful and im so disappointed as i thought i was done. I just wonder if its this time of year, reminding me im alone. All my friends are snuggled up in their homes with their partners who they will wake up with on Xmas day :-( Anyone else feel like this? Hi Ruby, i read some of your prior posts, seems like you have been down for quite a long time. Let me ask you the question that most of us dumpees would have liked to ask, if you dumped this guy and are feeling down about it, why didn't you try to reconcile with him?? Was there something that could have been worked out? I mean 8 months of misery, obviously this guy was special to you, why did you dump him and why didn't you try to work things out? Did he move on already? As for your xmas question, I don't feel down anymore, it's been 3 months since she left, I have learned to live without her, I am occupying my life with friends, dancing, exercise, ski trips, etc. Life is exciting, I got a date tonight with a very, very, very hot and mature woman. So no, I am not sad my ex left me, maybe she feels the grass is greener on the other side, good luck to her either way, she lost a good one - FACT!!!
LifeWithoutMiMi Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 Is there something about this time of year that brings back all those old feelings for anyone else?? Its been 8 months since I broke up with my boyfriend and the last couple of months i have been doing well, very nearly back to my old self. The last week or so i have been feeling crap again, really depressed and tearful and im so disappointed as i thought i was done. I just wonder if its this time of year, reminding me im alone. All my friends are snuggled up in their homes with their partners who they will wake up with on Xmas day :-( Anyone else feel like this? Same here, I felt better during the last few weeks, but I started to feel down in the last few days. I also believe it's also due to the coming holidays. To remain positive, I have made a list of resolutions for 2014. It's a list where I set up myself some goals to achieve, and I also I listed some new activities that I may want to try next year! Hope this helps
Tayla Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 Its normal, its common and its curable. Go thru the missing the person, the love and the memories...then create a way to move on....the season distorts the reality of real life.....it magnifies things.... I personally find that some moments of accepting that I'm sad and missing that person helps move me thru it and validate that there are good memories and moments to be had in my days....I hope you find some peace ....
robbysurfs Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 (edited) Thank you for your post ruby you are not alone... My on and off girlfriend 9 months ago one day we stopped contacting each other. And at first I was like Im the man I got pride and I am taking a stand I am not gonna call or contact her anymore. I am guessing she said to herself nooo I am the man and I am not gonna contact you. this past month I gotta tell ya has been very hard because we never had good closure and I cant let go of her in my mind. I still miss her and think about her everyday and wonder if she thinks about me. And my mind goes to the worst possible places and I replay our relationship over and over. I wonder will she come back I prayed wished and hoped she would reach out. I know its over and it hurts but it helps me to write about it and put my energy out into the universe and try and stay positive. It only christmas there will be other great days....I just read this it helped me stay in the day... “What day is it?" It's today," squeaked Piglet. My favorite day," said Pooh.” ― A.A. Milne Edited December 24, 2013 by robbysurfs
kindofsad Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 I feel the same, I have been trying to be positive about the christmas but today have broken down as I just miss her. I know its just a day etc. etc. and I am around my family and people who want to be around me but I feel more like I did at the time of break up, my heart is just broken. I think we just need to get through it until Jan 2nd, then hopefully by next christmas this time and feeling will be a dim memory! This holiday season really does suck :-)
Mr. Nibbles Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 xmas is the season for disappointment. Just keep telling yourself that and then lower your expectations. 1
TheBladeRunner Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 It is tough, but it is better than last year when DDay was only 4 months old and I was still hurting so bad. Don't get me wrong, I have had my moments this year as well.....I can't even watch a "family" oriented movie without getting that hurting, teary feeling. I am now D'd and been away from her for 16 months. My daughter helps being here, but she's going to her mom's for Christmas tomorrow. Rather than sit here by myself, I am making dinner for friends.
Author ruby77 Posted December 25, 2013 Author Posted December 25, 2013 It sucks that we all feel like this but just have to hope it will pass as the holiday season does. I know I for one should be thankful of what I do have rather than what I don't. I have a family that love me that I get to spend Xmas with. Happy Xmas all! 1
Author ruby77 Posted December 25, 2013 Author Posted December 25, 2013 Hi Ruby, i read some of your prior posts, seems like you have been down for quite a long time. Let me ask you the question that most of us dumpees would have liked to ask, if you dumped this guy and are feeling down about it, why didn't you try to reconcile with him?? Was there something that could have been worked out? I mean 8 months of misery, obviously this guy was special to you, why did you dump him and why didn't you try to work things out? Did he move on already? As for your xmas question, I don't feel down anymore, it's been 3 months since she left, I have learned to live without her, I am occupying my life with friends, dancing, exercise, ski trips, etc. Life is exciting, I got a date tonight with a very, very, very hot and mature woman. So no, I am not sad my ex left me, maybe she feels the grass is greener on the other side, good luck to her either way, she lost a good one - FACT!!! In answer to your questions, yes I dumped him but only because I felt I had no choice. He was cold, unloving, selfish and lied. I felt unhappy, lonely and unloved and noone should be made to feel like that in a relationship. I put all this to him before breaking up and nothing changed, I dont think he knew how. After the breakup there was no contact from him, he didn't try to make things right ot win me back or even see how I was. All of this added up to make me feel like the one being rejected. I hurt because he was special to me but I had to let him go, becuase I was never going to be as special to him and that still breaks my heart.
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