Christmas hopes

[experiencethedevine]

I wondered how you felt about being unable to share the festivities with your married man?

 

 

I recall at least one Christmas (my husbands affair was over nearly four years) while H was at work feeling decidedly uncomfortable and restless (not knowing why).

 

 

Is it the same for you?

[blue963]

Holidays are so so hard for many people. It is the fantasy that is created around it and our feeling of lack. Perhaps it was things in him that was causing him to be uncomfortable, not necessarily your marriage or his affair.

[experiencethedevine]

Holidays are so so hard for many people. It is the fantasy that is created around it and our feeling of lack. Perhaps it was things in him that was causing him to be uncomfortable, not necessarily your marriage or his affair.

 

 

 

They most definitely are, and I fully understand how difficult it must be.

 

 

Perhaps I should have been more clear. I meant it was me feeling restless and uncomfortable without really knowing why. Of course, 3 months later all was most emphatically crystal clear.

 

 

I just wondered if you girls were feeling similar...............

[ElectricTangerine]

It was very ****ty. I had lots and lots of time and I couldn't spend even a minute with him. I felt sad and uncomfortable, I felt like I didn't matter enough to him and that I was second. All of my friends had partners, so they were spending the time together. It was difficult explaining to everyone I won't spend any time with him because of some bull**** excuse he made. It was a lonely, crappy time.

[experiencethedevine]

It was very ****ty. I had lots and lots of time and I couldn't spend even a minute with him. I felt sad and uncomfortable, I felt like I didn't matter enough to him and that I was second. All of my friends had partners, so they were spending the time together. It was difficult explaining to everyone I won't spend any time with him because of some bull**** excuse he made. It was a lonely, crappy time.

 

 

 

I do hope this year will be better for you.

[ElectricTangerine]

I do hope this year will be better for you.

 

Thanks. It is. I ended it almost 3 weeks ago.

[Summer Breeze]

During the A I treated DMM like any other guy I would date. Nothing more and nothing less. I always spent the holidays with family out of state so we would never have been together. We talked and texted through the day so it wasn't really any different than any other day. We would always have either the weekend before or after for our celebration.

[GreySkyMorning]

I wondered how you felt about being unable to share the festivities with your married man?

 

 

I recall at least one Christmas (my husbands affair was over nearly four years) while H was at work feeling decidedly uncomfortable and restless (not knowing why).

 

 

Is it the same for you?

 

It sucked. I hated it. We kept in close contact throughout the days with texting and he always called me on the holiday, but it wasn't enough. I was lonely and wanted to be with him.

 

Things change though...I'm having family Xmas at my own home for the first time this year and asked my bf a few days ago if I'd get to see him on christmas. His answer was "if I'm not having to be somewhere with the kids or out on a train, I will be by your side!!". What a difference.

[Britain]

Putting effort into a bad investment, unwise, the MM is a bad business venture. Slack, dismal returns. Some may get a shoddy return, most will probably not even get a breadcrumb of a Merry Christmas message.