RevCal Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 (edited) Hey, my names Cal and im new to these forums and i really would like some emotional support right now. here's my story. Please take the time to read this i could really use some advice. So we broke up two weeks ago and agreed to no contact, we had been drifting apart and things were pretty ****ty. We had both just stated university and are still currently attending the same university. So she got in with a new group of friends and basically stopped seeing me, we would maybe see each other once a week as opposed to three + times a week at college. Anyways we broke up on the monday, it got to the thursday and i saw her at university with a damaged leg so i had to go see her, she told me she went out drinking and that she fell and injured it. We then went our own ways, later that day i broke down, i had fallen behind in my university work and everything was looking bleak, i rang her, begged for her back. she said no. So now here's where things get interesting. It's been two weeks since the break up now, and she rang me at 2am this morning. I answered and she said she was missing me and felt really sad. So i humoured her and stayed on the phone. I then went to sleep after not much was said, the next morning i felt really bad again ( i had been feeling alright the last couple of days ) so i went on to her facebook becase i was feeling weak, i saw her new profile picture and she looked stunning, she looked beautiful so i messaged her and asked her why she rang me last night. She then rang me again, we talked for two hours and things were really going well it was looking good, and then she told me she needed to tell me something, that she had made out with a guy and almost slept with him. I said well thats fine we werent together i can look past that. I then told her that i had also made out with a girl on saturday in the club. (this was true i wasn't just saying it to annoy her) she started laughing and said she didn't believe me, i then told her who it was and she then did believe me because she knew that this girl was into me. She said she couldn't look past it, and that we were done and never going to get back together. So ladies and gentleman i am now heartbroken for the second time in two weeks, i feel like im back at square one. I love this girl so much and i confessed my love for her and she just threw it in my face for the second time because she wasn't willing to look past a stupid thing i did. Please can anyone give me some solid advice on this? I forgot to add she is going out on new years again with the guy she made out with, and she probably will sleep with him this time. This is killing me what should i do! Thanks - Cal Edited December 23, 2013 by RevCal Additional information
lostsoul4286 Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 Its always easier to see things when your on the outside. I just got out of a relationship that was pretty much a one way street, and naively want her back as well. Its not correct that you can be the only one that swallows your pride and is willing to look past the pain.
David87 Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 Hey, my names Cal and im new to these forums and i really would like some emotional support right now. here's my story. Please take the time to read this i could really use some advice. So we broke up two weeks ago and agreed to no contact, we had been drifting apart and things were pretty ****ty. We had both just stated university and are still currently attending the same university. So she got in with a new group of friends and basically stopped seeing me, we would maybe see each other once a week as opposed to three + times a week at college. Anyways we broke up on the monday, it got to the thursday and i saw her at university with a damaged leg so i had to go see her, she told me she went out drinking and that she fell and injured it. We then went our own ways, later that day i broke down, i had fallen behind in my university work and everything was looking bleak, i rang her, begged for her back. she said no. So now here's where things get interesting. It's been two weeks since the break up now, and she rang me at 2am this morning. I answered and she said she was missing me and felt really sad. So i humoured her and stayed on the phone. I then went to sleep after not much was said, the next morning i felt really bad again ( i had been feeling alright the last couple of days ) so i went on to her facebook becase i was feeling weak, i saw her new profile picture and she looked stunning, she looked beautiful so i messaged her and asked her why she rang me last night. She then rang me again, we talked for two hours and things were really going well it was looking good, and then she told me she needed to tell me something, that she had made out with a guy and almost slept with him. I said well thats fine we werent together i can look past that. I then told her that i had also made out with a girl on saturday in the club. (this was true i wasn't just saying it to annoy her) she started laughing and said she didn't believe me, i then told her who it was and she then did believe me because she knew that this girl was into me. She said she couldn't look past it, and that we were done and never going to get back together. So ladies and gentleman i am now heartbroken for the second time in two weeks, i feel like im back at square one. I love this girl so much and i confessed my love for her and she just threw it in my face for the second time because she wasn't willing to look past a stupid thing i did. Please can anyone give me some solid advice on this? I forgot to add she is going out on new years again with the guy she made out with, and she probably will sleep with him this time. This is killing me what should i do! Thanks - Cal Dude I'm so sorry for you, but she's long gone.. You have to accept that. First off all your acting like a doormat and that isn't atractive. Every time you text her back she is getting an ego boost, and you suffer... for what? I know you love her, I love my ex too, but right now there is NOTHING you can do to bring her back. Change your number, block her on FB and other social media and go NC. This the only way you can heal and build your confidence.
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