mortensorchid Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 Last weekend I went out on an Internet date. We had a pleasant time chit chatting and things, but I just knew in the middle of it that I was never going to hear from him again. It ended well, I knew for sure that I was never going to hear from him again when we were standing across the street from his parking lot. He simply said "nice to meet you", we shook hands, and then I went to my car in another lot. I'm not angry or disappointed with it, he wasn't rude by any means. We just were never going to see or talk to each other again, and that's fine. Ever wonder what the point of it is? What if OLD never came into the picture at all and you somehow met the person outside of Internet access? Why did this man and I ever make a connection at all? Why does it even happen at all? The world's full of lonely people, I guess. Anyone else feel the same?
writergal Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 (edited) I gave up trying online dating 5 years ago after 2 quasi-relationships that ended badly, and many 1st-3rd dates that went nowhere. The time and money and energy I invested to find "the one," left me in the red, both financially and psychologically (as in, not happy). I view OLD as the fast track to hookup-ville. No one wants to take the time to actually build a relationship. They just want to rush into things, make false promises so they can keep you as an option while they search for their priority. It's rare that people meet their marriage partners via online dating. Sure, some do, but for the most part it's a waste of time. I didn't like the pressure put on me by the men I met for 1st-3rd dates. As though I had to pass their invisible check-list of "must haves," within 10 seconds or else no second chance. Or the awkward "nice to meet you's" at the end of the dates, or worse, the really awkward, "you're not my type's" to the "uh, I don't see this going anywhere's" to the "you look much different in your photo's" excuses to not schedule more than one date with me. I grew up in the 70s and until my mid-30s had no problem finding dates through my social networks. But then, I got unemployed and went into grad school and my social networks dried up or got so musty that when I tried to reconnect after grad school, most of those people disappeared into their own married family lives and had no time for their single friend. So, out of desperation I tried online dating for 5 years and it was less than fun. It was misery-inducing, self-esteem eroding, financially draining to the point where I deleted my online dating profiles in the hopes that Mother Nature still worked. So far, I've had some short relationships from my new social networks. So, I'm single, but much happier b/c I don't have to deal with all that drama that comes along with online dating. Edited December 23, 2013 by writergal
Cinnimon Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 (edited) Sorry starting a new thread Edited December 23, 2013 by Cinnimon Moved to start new thread
deathandtaxes Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 Just a means to an end. A way to find and meet people that you might never run into via your normal routines. It's going to be as much fun as you put into it. It's not magic. Don't be jaded. Just find some other things to busy yourself with. OP - so you didn't get anywhere with this guy. Did you at least learn anything? Did you have a good time?
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