CarrieT Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 Were you living in Napa Country? Public transportation SUCKS in all that area. I don't know you your ex survived there without a car. Yes, exactly. I was in a hospital up-valley (St. Helena) and for him to get there would have been 2+ hours on a bus when it was really a 20-minute drive. A person can be supportive in time of need without a car, he didn't come because he was lazy? There are busses, bikes, he's got legs it wasn't the car it was him. Id walk an entire day away to see a injured lover<3 We were living together so it wasn't a matter of him visiting me. It was a matter of keeping our collective life together; getting me home and to subsequent doctor appointments and physical therapy all involved me taking taxis -- in Napa -- when we had THREE cars sitting in our drive-way; one of which was given to him because one of his excuses was that he couldn't afford a car even when/if he got his license. Please don't get me wrong. This was simply the straw that broke my camel's back. There were lots of other reasons the relationship wasn't working. The whole inability to move forward in life due to his functional illiteracy -- that he hid so well. He was a very bright person, but I see in retrospect how much he must have struggled without being able to write. He could read, but couldn't write at all so he struggled with job applications and explains why he never bothered with an email account. Because I was the one who would "take care of things" involving day-to-day existence (check books, groceries, laundry), I never saw that he couldn't really take care of himself. It all came to a focus when *I* was the one who was laid-up and he couldn't keep up with stuff like paying bills, etc.
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