CalvinM Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 I've been seeing someone for just under a month, but our last date (dinner at my place) didn't go as I had hoped. Things were maybe a bit too serious, she said she wasn't ready for a relationship. I'm ok with that.. Today I sent her this: "Hey.. I've dated quite a bit and it's been a while since I felt a connection to someone. I know you probably need time to sort stuff out and readjust to your new life and I'm totally ok with that. I really enjoy spending time with you and feel like we maybe shouldn't cut things short because of bad timing." She replied with this: "Hey x.. Thanks for understanding. And I definitely agree, we do get along and seem to have a lot of things in common! I just don't want to string anyone along when I don't know what I'm looking for.. So if you are ok with that maybe we can see what's going on in the new year.. I know, even more vague :)" What's my next move here?
d0nnivain Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 Keep connecting with her. . . see how she feels in 2 weeks. Then make a decision about whether if it's enough if she can't give you the commitment you want.
writergal Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 (edited) Are there any other women you're interested in going out on some 1st-2nd dates with in the meantime? She's told you she isn't looking for a long-term commitment right now, so I'd believe her. There's nothing to interpret here. She doesn't know what she wants and doesn't want to string you along. That's pretty direct, don't you think? Sounds like she wants to keep you as an option, not a priority. Meh, if you want to keep her an option, go for it, just lower your expectations to be ready if/when her interest level fizzles out. Edited December 23, 2013 by writergal
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