BePatient Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 Hello everyone. I'm a bit lost so I decided writing down my situation hoping to get some advises. I was going through a really painful breakup half year ago. I wasn't considering getting in a relationship too soon but I knew deep inside I'm hoping to find someone. I gave myself times and spaces to heal. Good thing is I've been doing a lot better. I know I'm a better person now. Weeks ago I met this guy,I knew we liked each other a bit at very first place . Soon enough we started seeing each other. The thing is,I'm on vocation and he's working in this city temporally. I think we both knew that we don't have much time since we are all leaving in a month .So we see each other a lot, pretty much like everyday. He asked me once if it's too much stresses to see each other that often. I said it feels good so far and I would tell him if it starts getting stressing. Surprisingly,I thought it's just a holiday romance, won't go any further. But the more time I spend with him the more I realise I really like this person. I clearly know that it's not because I was getting over the break up and it's easier to get through it while date with someone. I mean,I was meeting a couple of guys before I met him,I knew even if I started having relationship with them it would just be a rebound. But with this guy,I think I do want to have something with him.Not because I feel lonely and want someone to be there for me. The past few days he keeps on asking me if anything is okay cause I look upset. I haven't told him I've been thinking that maybe I shouldn't be meeting him,I'm afraid I'll fall in love with him and be sad when we have to part in a month. The thing bothers me most is I don't know what is he thinking?does he think I'm just someone he briefly date with nothing will happen after we both going back home? Is he considering something more serious? I got a feeling that he doesn't want to talk about it now,Until we really have to part,Or he's thinking if its worth it. I don't know if I should ask him straight away,Maybe I'm even afraid to know the answer. I really enjoy the time we share and his company.If he tells me he doesn't want a relationship now I might just stop meeting him. It will hurt once I get too emotionally involved with him but we have to part and pretend nothing happened. I know it will be a long distance relationship even if we decide to have something more serious. But almost all my relationships were long distance. I'm always flying for work and often live in some city briefly. I don't mind having long distance as I can always manage to fly everywhere or even live there for a while. But ofcourse,We won't be able to see each other as much as couple who live in same city/country. I just want to know what he thinks but not sure if I should ask since it might ruin everything and I do want to spend more time with him. I'm not sure what to do now Please give me some advices,anything will be appreciated. Thanks for reading.
d0nnivain Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 LDRs are really hard. After the only one I had, I promised myself I'd never do it again Some people are like me & won't even try. I'd consider this a holiday lark with an expiration date -- your return home. I'd enjoy the time you do have but guard your heart. If you want more, you are going to have to discuss this with him.
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