dreamingoftigers Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 He has been changing his mind the whole time on whether he wanted to pursue anything sexual or relationship wise the whole time I have known him. I found this very confusing. His confession that he is bi polar and is unmedicated and in the past has tried to commit suicide three times explains a lot of his erratic behaviour and ideas . The friend that was called by the hospital and asked to verify that I am sane before they would release me thinks that I am wasting my time trying to make sense of a madman. That there is no rational explanation for someone who is irrational. When he called the ambulance and they came to my house, after 10 minutes they were quite happy that I was fine and that he had misjudged the situation. And they went back to the van. They called him back and said don't worry she's fine. And he then must have talked them into taking me to the hospital and 5 mins later when I was getting dinner that were at the door again telling me ii have to cone to the hospital.Total change of tune based on him. It was a total waste of time just based on drama he was perpetuating. Actually, Funnily enough. After you mentioned he wasn't Filippino I went back and reread everything (up to this point) and though, "holy cow this guy is really more dysfunctional, reckless and impulsive than I first thought. Reminds me of my ex in some parts and my Dad in others. I wonder if he has a personality disorder." My father is a narcissist with certain bipolar traits. My ex was bipolar, unmedicated. You are taking his crap personally, when really he's been nutso and untreated for a long time. It also explains the extra happy, social energy he has. It's quite infectious I know. But it's also quite damaging to be around someone like him.
dreamingoftigers Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Mishy, this is highly probable, as I've sated before. What really worries me is that he, who is unrelated to you, was able to make a phone call and have cops show up at your door and take you to the hospital (based simply on your comment about needing to sleep and taking a pill to do so). What kind of guy has that power? Anyone who has a phone that can claim "so and so said they were going to kill themselves" The police have to respond to every single one. And of they feel anything is slightly off or they can't verify that someone WON'T kill themselves they get brought down to the hospital. When I was 19 I WAS suicidal and so I was "formed tenned" three times in one week. I was able to talk myself out of the first two, then the third one was the same doctor as night one in the other hospital. So I was committed for 72 hours. Now, even though I am 31 and those days are long, long behind me, if anyone calls me in, it's an automatic overnight at the hospital. I had an ex pull that on me once. Prick.
Author mishy Posted December 30, 2013 Author Posted December 30, 2013 (edited) Actually, Funnily enough. After you mentioned he wasn't Filippino I went back and reread everything (up to this point) and though, "holy cow this guy is really more dysfunctional, reckless and impulsive than I first thought. Reminds me of my ex in some parts and my Dad in others. I wonder if he has a personality disorder." My father is a narcissist with certain bipolar traits. My ex was bipolar, unmedicated. You are taking his crap personally, when really he's been nutso and untreated for a long time. It also explains the extra happy, social energy he has. It's quite infectious I know. But it's also quite damaging to be around someone like him. you are right, his social energy is really very attractive to me, its really drew me in to him. It was only just before christmas that he did tell me he was diagnosed bi polar, and so now i can kind of see that that extraverted energy might be related to that. The mannerisms etc. he rang me yesterday and blasted me. He said he isnt angry that i said i love him, he was angry that i was trying to talk him out of the philipino woman, when the whole time i was in love with him. Said he felt manipulated. Really though he only ever said BAD things about her so i was just reflecting what he was saying right back to him. I dont know anything about her beyond what he was telling me and all of that was bad. He twists everything, she doesnt know that we slept together so he wasnt honest either with her. Anyway thats that. they can have each other. Messy Edited December 30, 2013 by mishy 1
Author mishy Posted December 30, 2013 Author Posted December 30, 2013 Anyone who has a phone that can claim "so and so said they were going to kill themselves" The police have to respond to every single one. And of they feel anything is slightly off or they can't verify that someone WON'T kill themselves they get brought down to the hospital. When I was 19 I WAS suicidal and so I was "formed tenned" three times in one week. I was able to talk myself out of the first two, then the third one was the same doctor as night one in the other hospital. So I was committed for 72 hours. Now, even though I am 31 and those days are long, long behind me, if anyone calls me in, it's an automatic overnight at the hospital. I had an ex pull that on me once. Prick. yeah i was amazed at how easy it was. I was released after about 8 hours. In all of that time spoke to a psych nurse for 30 minutes, The rest was taken up by them doing hours of paperwork, and me trying to keep my cool so i could get out of there. It was terrifying to think that if they couldnt get one of my friends to answer their phone at 2:30am to verify i was sane, then i would be committed. Just thinking about being trapped like that, possibly for days, like a prisoner made me nearly hyperventilate. I have cats and was worried about them. It was just crazy, i couldnt believe i was there. And when i was saying look i really am ok i have to go, i have responsibilities, the person in the nurse station would talk to me in hushed tones like i was a mental case. It was teh weirdest experience. I really had to make a conscious effort to keep it together just so i looked sane enough to get out of there. By about 430 am though i started to cry, simply because i didnt know what was going on and no one would tell me when i was leaving. I hadnt slept as i wanted to stay awake to watch what was going on, and not look like i was happy to just stay and sleep. It was a nightmare. And yeah anyone can do this to you.
dreamingoftigers Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 yeah i was amazed at how easy it was. I was released after about 8 hours. In all of that time spoke to a psych nurse for 30 minutes, The rest was taken up by them doing hours of paperwork, and me trying to keep my cool so i could get out of there. It was terrifying to think that if they couldnt get one of my friends to answer their phone at 2:30am to verify i was sane, then i would be committed. Just thinking about being trapped like that, possibly for days, like a prisoner made me nearly hyperventilate. I have cats and was worried about them. It was just crazy, i couldnt believe i was there. And when i was saying look i really am ok i have to go, i have responsibilities, the person in the nurse station would talk to me in hushed tones like i was a mental case. It was teh weirdest experience. I really had to make a conscious effort to keep it together just so i looked sane enough to get out of there. By about 430 am though i started to cry, simply because i didnt know what was going on and no one would tell me when i was leaving. I hadnt slept as i wanted to stay awake to watch what was going on, and not look like i was happy to just stay and sleep. It was a nightmare. And yeah anyone can do this to you. Makes you wonder how many people haven't been able to get out because a manipulative family member has pushed to keep them in.
dreamingoftigers Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 you are right, his social energy is really very attractive to me, its really drew me in to him. It was only just before christmas that he did tell me he was diagnosed bi polar, and so now i can kind of see that that extraverted energy might be related to that. The mannerisms etc. he rang me yesterday and blasted me. He said he isnt angry that i said i love him, he was angry that i was trying to talk him out of the philipino woman, when the whole time i was in love with him. Said he felt manipulated. Really though he only ever said BAD things about her so i was just reflecting what he was saying right back to him. I dont know anything about her beyond what he was telling me and all of that was bad. He twists everything, she doesnt know that we slept together so he wasnt honest either with her. Anyway thats that. they can have each other. Messy Go no contact with him. You don't have the relationship context (I.e. "hes your brother, best friend") To try to get him help and honestly, with unmedicated bipolar everything just fires off like a jumble of wires. Under SPECT scan, bipolar looks like a patchwork quilt. I suspect I may have certain traits myself but they've been tucked underneath PTSD/BPD triggers so no one bothered to look after I stopped getting myself hospitalized for suicidal behaviours. However, impulsivity and lack of focus still reign supreme in my life.
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