liloldlady Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 Greetings to my favorite cynics! Back story: ex left me high and dry in the middle of a crisis, but I got through it. Silent treatment for months, began to communicate about business. Months later, talks turned to starting our relationship anew, and doing things differently this time around. That fell apart. Ex says he needs my professional expertise. OK, great! I'll meet him in the area where he's most comfortable. No problem and far preferable to pretending like we never knew each other. I emailed him about one deal on Friday, and a separate, more exciting one this morning. Crickets! So tomorrow, I have to hit the ground running, and then I get on a plane. I need to see if we're on the same page about this business deal, and my reputation is on the line (I can't look like a flake). And the thing is, I know I need to call him tonight because tomorrow, my time constraints are intense. But I get knots in my stomach thinking about calling him. This man is an expert at the silent treatment. I have tried to give him what he's asking for: professional collaboration. I'm really not too pressed about personal stuff or reconciliation since it was so long ago & I'm actually quite happy in that department. I am dreading calling him. He's an expert at rejection and a king of pain. A hurt man who hurts knows how to hurt others. I suppose I could drop it and leave the ball in his court... Or woman up and call him and (likely) leave a voicemail and get the answers I need eventually. Not easy to love, not easy to work with. Sigh. Anyone with advice besides "drop him, he's an ex, leave him alone": more than welcome!!!!!!!!!!
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