Play lab Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 I went on a date with this guy I met in the Summer and stayed over his one night, but nothing happened because I didn't want to do anything on the first date. Since then he moved away but we still talk a lot. At first it was me initiating most of the conversations but now it is more two-way. Even though nothing happened, I saw him everyday so got close to him. We've both expressed that we would like something to happen and are flirty and sexual with each other through text. I have been sexting him some pictures of me too. He keeps mentioning that he will visit me - for sex basically. He was supposed to visit this Month but put it off because he was sick. It was then mentioned that he'd visit in January, but the date hasn't been discussed in detail since. Anyway, during these Months that we haven't seen each other I discovered through social networking that he was engaged - he isn't aware that I know this. I was upset at first but then felt I could be accepting of this if he just admitted it to me. I know that makes me sound like a hideous person though. Basically, I'm confused. I think I get attached to people really easily and he is quite a lot older than me which I don't think helps. Does it sound like he really does intend to come up? How could I in a round about way get this engagement thing out of him? I don't want to say that I found out about it on social media.
Nothisgirl Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Just run in the other direction...please don't get involved anymore then you are..believe me when I say you will end up more confused then you are now...wish you luck 2
ElectricTangerine Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 I would just ask him about his engagement directly. He sounds interested in spicing up his life with sex behind his fiance's back. I think plans he to keep his engagement a secret and I seriously doubt he has serious intentions with you. If you feel like being his piece of ass on the side, go for it. But you're possibly in for a lot of heartache down the road. 2
mrs rubble Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Is the fiance named in social media? If so, contact and ask her.
stillafool Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Why are you intentionally getting involved with a man you know is taken? Aren't there any single guys in your area to date? Do you really want a man who just wants to use you for sex?
whichwayisup Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 I went on a date with this guy I met in the Summer and stayed over his one night, but nothing happened because I didn't want to do anything on the first date. Since then he moved away but we still talk a lot. At first it was me initiating most of the conversations but now it is more two-way. Even though nothing happened, I saw him everyday so got close to him. We've both expressed that we would like something to happen and are flirty and sexual with each other through text. I have been sexting him some pictures of me too. He keeps mentioning that he will visit me - for sex basically. He was supposed to visit this Month but put it off because he was sick. It was then mentioned that he'd visit in January, but the date hasn't been discussed in detail since. Anyway, during these Months that we haven't seen each other I discovered through social networking that he was engaged - he isn't aware that I know this. I was upset at first but then felt I could be accepting of this if he just admitted it to me. I know that makes me sound like a hideous person though. Basically, I'm confused. I think I get attached to people really easily and he is quite a lot older than me which I don't think helps. Does it sound like he really does intend to come up? How could I in a round about way get this engagement thing out of him? I don't want to say that I found out about it on social media. I don't understand why you're even bothering, one date in the summer and we're now in December and he's made no effort to see you, but only will for sex...And that hasn't happened yet either. You flirt and sext together. That's NOT a relationship at all, he's playing you! Stop sending him pictures of yourself, even more so now that you know he's engaged! Forget him, seriously, just tell him that you are done with him and move on. he isn't a friend at all either. And, think of this, neither of you owe each other anything since it seems this hasn't been a real relationship, just flirtation over texts. 2
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