Mario79 Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 I am not doing well today. I know there is a thread for how you are feeling, but I just feel like total crap today. Have been going down hill this week. I have been struggling with myself, just feel completely alone. I have my family but I feel so much sadness, like there is no way of feeling better. Work is just becoming even harder, and have to spend my time alone there as well. I have been in therapy, and have taken anti depressants. I think of work and it just brings me down. I have been trying to meet people but they remind me of how inadequate I am. Lastly I think of my ex. I realize I havent let her go. I feel afraid, I feel tired, I want it to get better. What do I do?
loveiswar101 Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Mario, I feel the same today, lied in bed for last 2 hours letting the emotions get hold of me. We need to snap out of it buddy. Best Wishes.
ponchsox Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 You need to get angry and say "**** this crap, I'm strong" and not let someone else drag you down. Sorry breeds sorrow. Best of luck.
AnyaNova Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 I seem to be mildly.backsliding over the Holidays and trying not to let it become major. It is odd. I slide between on one end thinking about a crush I really shouldn't have, and on the other, my ex. But for me, this season would feel warmer with someone to hold me. It is too bad I'm so picky in regards to personality. I need depth, substance, intelligence, introversion, and someone who has a strong understanding of the sacredness of touch and physical love. Sometimes it is hard not to get cynical about my chances for another relationship. And I think it is then that I get in the most danger of sliding back into really missing my ex. I am sorry. Try to do something for you today. Something special that you enjoy. Take care of yourself. I think we who were dumped have to remember that if our exes really cared they would get in contact with us. Or at the least, whatever impediments there are for them, they don't care enough to remove them. I hope you feel better soon!
Author Mario79 Posted December 23, 2013 Author Posted December 23, 2013 Its just so hard. I just need friends. Yeah if she cared. I am masochist. It was such a beautiful day today. All I felt like doing was slumping in my chair and feel tired. Just feels like there is no end to feeling this. Its no longer just my ex, its my life. I dont want to slide into a darker place. But I just dont feel that motivation to pull myself up. Dont like the holidays much either.
ponchsox Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 Its just so hard. I just need friends. Yeah if she cared. I am masochist. It was such a beautiful day today. All I felt like doing was slumping in my chair and feel tired. Just feels like there is no end to feeling this. Its no longer just my ex, its my life. I dont want to slide into a darker place. But I just dont feel that motivation to pull myself up. Dont like the holidays much either. You need to pack your bags and go on a self journey somewhere in the world for 10-14 days. Go somewhere you always wanted to go. This is for YOU and you will come back a new person with a fresh prospective on life. You need to get out of the rut your in now and location makes a big difference. 2
Author Mario79 Posted December 23, 2013 Author Posted December 23, 2013 You need to pack your bags and go on a self journey somewhere in the world for 10-14 days. Go somewhere you always wanted to go. This is for YOU and you will come back a new person with a fresh prospective on life. You need to get out of the rut your in now and location makes a big difference. A romantic idea, but no, just no. I spend too much time alone to want to keep spending it in a different place alone. But I can see in my words, I just want a friend.
robbysurfs Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 I am right there with you buddy suuuuuper sad today I actually got on my knees and prayed for my ex to come back to me and its not the first time ....dude you are not alone its all good tho. Your perception is your reality the thing I forget is how I am doing and how I am feeling are two different things. How I am doing is I am a good looking guy I got a 2 great jobs a lot of friends and I live in the greatest city in the world. How I am feeling is ****ty but that is my fantasy I keep reliving and telling myself life sucks poor me poor me poor me a drink. My day started like hell but I called some friends talked about it went to the gym and I feel better. Take a action any action it works even if it temporary it only has to work for today because thats all I got...
heartshapedrocks Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 Honestly I had to force myself to go out and do things. I had to ask for help from co-workers & in turn helped them if they needed help. Volunteering or doing service work is a great way to help and meet people. Where I live there is a newspaper that has lots of activities listed on a calendar so I would pick things that I like to do. You can look around on bulletin boards at colleges or coffee houses. There is always something going on. You really have to put yourself out there and it will feel uncomfortable at first (at least it did for me). I discovered to have friends you have to be a friend start small it works.
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