iworthmore Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 after fighting the urge to check social media. i find myself surrounded by reminders here and there. all of the things that remind me of her suddenly started showing up. movies, songs, people we know and her family. even the gym is a huge reminder of her cuz we used to go together, the bar and parties. i even found a hair of her in my car and that almost broke me. even women i meet appear to use the same perfume she used. i mean WTF!. what should i do?. i know i look pathetic and maybe over reacting but this is my weak moment and i can say that my weak moments r getting less with every week passing. but when it happens it really sucks and i find myself back to square 1 for cpl hours. i cant believe she totally forgot abt me and i mean nothing to her, not a single contact from her been 3 months, she doesn't look like missing me at all. i became afraid after reading abt some ppl still not moved on after 1 year and more post BU. no way im gonna stay like this, no ****ing way!!. i feel like having an emotional storm in my head. love, hate, missing her,grudge,sadness and pain and its all hitting my head like a tornado. wow... never imagined my self this weak, but its a chance to prove something new to myself. its real challenge. maybe i lost the battle today but im gonna win this war. we all gonna be great. merry xmas.
maturityassets Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Chill out dude lol. You don't have to forget her to move on... You just bolster yourself up. I went to visit my friend who works at the mall and while there I see my ex's best friend who told my ex to break up with me also working there. I got dumbfounded for a minute and stare to make sure it was her.... Yeah it was. But who cares?! It has been 8 months and I'm dating someone else and I proceeded to buy a Christmas gift for my current GF. So yeah you won't forget but you will move on! You'll be reminded and it might be the topic of your thoughts for a few minutes but then you shrug and remember there are other things to think about! Best of luck man! Merry Christmas!
d0nnivain Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Make some small changes in your life. Rearrange the furniture. Get your car detailed so you won't find any more hairs. Reorganize your closets. Just do things differently than you did when you were together. 1
devilish innocent Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 You can't help having some setbacks. It doesn't make you weak, just human. Things are moving in the right direction for you though. As long as the difficult moments get less and less, that's where you should be. You shouldn't let yourself get discouraged by how long it took others to get over their exes. Every situation is different. Some of these people might have been with their exes much longer than you were with yours. Others might have continued to see their exes for a while after the break-up. Some might have allowed themselves to get stuck on the idea of getting their exes back rather than trying to move on sooner. Other people aren't you. Don't let their situations worry you. Just do your best to move on. Focus on the other things in your life- friends, family, work, hobbies. Try to stay optimistic and appreciate whatever you have going on at the moment. If you have setbacks where you mind wanders to wanting her back, don't beat yourself up for it. Just do your best to redirect your thinking as soon as you feel able to. Good luck! With the positive attitude you ended your post on, I know you'll make it through. 1
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