Mws Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 I gotta say, this year was probably the hardest I have ever experienced. I have been through ****ty and hard times before. But nothing compares to losing who you thought the love of your life was. To go from having a best friend to nothing. And then to find out they where cheating on you for months then to end up and be in a serious relationship with that person to this day. I have never been happier with myself and in the path my life is going, but damn there are just those days like today. Where it just hurts and its unbearable. I havent cried in 3 months. But damn I miss her sometimes. Which is a mystery to me because she hurt me so bad. Is this normal 9 months later?? We dated for 5 and a half years. 1
Mondmellonw Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 5 and a half years is a lot of time, and you had the feeling about her being "the love of your life", so, yeah, it is totally normal. You say you've never been happier with yourself.... Good luck and keep going.
mikejensen3355 Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 I gotta say, this year was probably the hardest I have ever experienced. I have been through ****ty and hard times before. But nothing compares to losing who you thought the love of your life was. To go from having a best friend to nothing. And then to find out they where cheating on you for months then to end up and be in a serious relationship with that person to this day. I have never been happier with myself and in the path my life is going, but damn there are just those days like today. Where it just hurts and its unbearable. I havent cried in 3 months. But damn I miss her sometimes. Which is a mystery to me because she hurt me so bad. Is this normal 9 months later?? We dated for 5 and a half years. Dude, you're doing awesome. I was in a 1 and a half year relationship where I also thought she was the one and I loved her 2 little kids. It's been 6 months post-breakup for me and I still feel horrible on a pretty consistent basis. And I don't see any way I'm going to be where you sound like you are in 3 more months. Be proud of where you are. Yeah, you might not be fully healed but it sounds to me like you've made some awesome progress, especially coming out of a 5 and a half year relationship. Keep it rollin man, and keep in mind that a lot of us envy where you are right now.
David87 Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 I gotta say, this year was probably the hardest I have ever experienced. I have been through ****ty and hard times before. But nothing compares to losing who you thought the love of your life was. To go from having a best friend to nothing. And then to find out they where cheating on you for months then to end up and be in a serious relationship with that person to this day. I have never been happier with myself and in the path my life is going, but damn there are just those days like today. Where it just hurts and its unbearable. I havent cried in 3 months. But damn I miss her sometimes. Which is a mystery to me because she hurt me so bad. Is this normal 9 months later?? We dated for 5 and a half years. I still think about my ex who cheated on me , and she left me in 2012. this year I got dumped again , 3 weeks ago, think about that, you are not the only one that is hurting. 1
loveiswar101 Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 Doing well buddy, 9 months is fantastic. I BU 3 weeks back and struggling myself, this will be way worst than my 10 yr marriage BU, due to we just split on reasonable terms. My first big BU was after 10yrs, I was cheated on, not nice but she cheated dude and once I found that out it was alot easy to take on board I think and that was a choice she made, same for you and your not in their mind at that time when they cheat, so they don't need to be in ours now. When down maybe think about she cheated and it's her loss, 9mth buddy, get to that 1 year, rooting for ya..
Christ is Love Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 Healing is a process that takes time. If someone tells you that they are totally over someone that might not be 100% true. We learn to readjust and live with our new realities. Missing her is completely normal. You may even miss her a year from now but that's the healing process . I am proud of where you have come in 9 months. Remember healing is a process that takes time. Continue moving in the right direction. . I know from experience. I am a divorced woman who has been through a lot of hurt and pain. Good luck.
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