fortyninethousand322 Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 This is true. In much the same way I remember the dog that bit me when I was a child. Painful events make clearer memories. There isn't a single difficult game-playing woman who jerked me around who I have ever forgotten. But I'm happy to have that misery out of my life. There is a difference between being remembered as the one who got away and being remembered as the one who should have gone away sooner. Maybe. But, you'd be better served learning how to play the game than not. Better to play than be played.
fujidabruin Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 Maybe. But, you'd be better served learning how to play the game than not. Better to play than be played. I am saddened that a considerable amount of people truly believe this philosophy..... Personally, I think that game-playing disciples are nearer one end of the spectrum and some of us that strive towards mutually empowering relationships are closer to the other end. Perhaps, it has much to do with the agenda each person has when dating that equates with where you exist on this spectrum. "To each their own" - I will always accept this idea. However, the idea that it is necessary to play games in matters of the heart? - You are gonna have better odds "trying to sell ice cubes to an eskimo" than gettin me to buy into that story.....
fortyninethousand322 Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 I am saddened that a considerable amount of people truly believe this philosophy..... Personally, I think that game-playing disciples are nearer one end of the spectrum and some of us that strive towards mutually empowering relationships are closer to the other end. Perhaps, it has much to do with the agenda each person has when dating that equates with where you exist on this spectrum. "To each their own" - I will always accept this idea. However, the idea that it is necessary to play games in matters of the heart? - You are gonna have better odds "trying to sell ice cubes to an eskimo" than gettin me to buy into that story..... Look, I don't play games. I'm pretty straight up, though a bit nervous/shy/scared around women. However, look at where I am, and look at where others who do things the same way typically are. What's the definition of insanity?...
fujidabruin Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 Look, I don't play games. I'm pretty straight up, though a bit nervous/shy/scared around women. However, look at where I am, and look at where others who do things the same way typically are. What's the definition of insanity?... Hey fortynine..... I think I see your point in better context now. I also wondered in my younger years if I was using the wrong strategy. My buddies liked to play the game and count notches on their bed posts and that just wasn't my goal. Perhaps, they did get laid more often and enticed an abundance of sexy women. Yes, perhaps I did get friendzoned more often than they did. But, if the "grass is actually greener" where the game-players live, then I am still happy that I stayed on my side of the fence. At least I know that I have been sincere and do believe my partners have been the same. Yeah, when you see a player get his way with a hot girl it is hard not to be envious. But, if a happy LTR is what you want..... the games become irrelevant years, months, or even weeks after connecting with that special person. Good Luck dude
Imported Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 Dating and relationships are games. Either you play, or you get played. Learn this, and don't take things too seriously. People will say they don't like people who play games. But you know what? They never get over those who played games with them. You want to be someone they'll never forget, learn to play the game... People who say this also play games, but are oblivious to what they do. Anytime someone you are pining for doesn't do as expected/desired...."they're playing games". How best to "play"? Don't sweat the small stuff. Be happy, let people do what they need to do for themselves and don't judge it. Most people really just don't know what the **** they are doing.
johan Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 People who say this also play games, but are oblivious to what they do. Anytime someone you are pining for doesn't do as expected/desired...."they're playing games". How best to "play"? Don't sweat the small stuff. Be happy, let people do what they need to do for themselves and don't judge it. Most people really just don't know what the **** they are doing. Good points. Not everyone accused of playing games really is. But either way person getting the short end of the stick will think they were jerked around, unless they are generally good natured about dating and are careful not to build their expectations too high. You do have to know your boundaries. Not everyone is going to do things the way you think they should. The more you can keep your attitude positive, the better things will go for you. 1
Author nerdlingZA Posted May 12, 2014 Author Posted May 12, 2014 Hey fortynine..... I think I see your point in better context now. I also wondered in my younger years if I was using the wrong strategy. My buddies liked to play the game and count notches on their bed posts and that just wasn't my goal. Perhaps, they did get laid more often and enticed an abundance of sexy women. Yes, perhaps I did get friendzoned more often than they did. But, if the "grass is actually greener" where the game-players live, then I am still happy that I stayed on my side of the fence. At least I know that I have been sincere and do believe my partners have been the same. Yeah, when you see a player get his way with a hot girl it is hard not to be envious. But, if a happy LTR is what you want..... the games become irrelevant years, months, or even weeks after connecting with that special person. Good Luck dude Good points. Not everyone accused of playing games really is. But either way person getting the short end of the stick will think they were jerked around, unless they are generally good natured about dating and are careful not to build their expectations too high. You do have to know your boundaries. Not everyone is going to do things the way you think they should. The more you can keep your attitude positive, the better things will go for you. Bumping this thread
bluegreen Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 And man cheat, lie, abuse, play games, get insecure, jealous possessive and so on now you will say see am right !!! No actually you are wrong some of the most nicest guys I met actually did all this and am not talking about myself only. People deserve who they wanna get both genders simple as that let them ....
KatZee Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 (edited) Honestly, the only woman that's going to chase after a "man" like this is a woman who lacks confidence, self-esteem, and has low self worth. I just had a guy pull this with me. Acted all interested, we spoke daily for 3 months, and then poof. Gone. I reached out to him MAYBE twice and received lukewarm responses. You know what that got him? Erased and replaced. I don't have any interest in time wasters, fence sitters, hot and colder's, guy's who act like they don't have to a thing but expect to reap all the benefits, immature guys, or idiots. I would never in my life ever chase after a guy who treated me like I was nothing. I'm WAY too cute for that. And any woman who knows her value and worth would walk from this situation as well. So this isn't a blanket statement that if you treat a woman like s.hit she will chase you. This should be called the "How To Guide For Attracting Women With No Self Worth" And what quality man wants to date this kind of woman??? Edited May 12, 2014 by KatZee 3
SJC2008 Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 People date those of similar emotional health. There are plenty of relationship dynamics but the "women love jerks" seems to be the most popular one. I can assure you there are plenty a men whos women keep their nuts in their purses!
Author nerdlingZA Posted May 12, 2014 Author Posted May 12, 2014 I just had a guy pull this with me. Acted all interested, we spoke daily for 3 months, and then poof. Gone. I reached out to him MAYBE twice and received lukewarm responses. This is exactly what I'm talking about, this is exactly what I've been doing successfully through out my life, Why did u reach out to him twice ?? Knowing a lot (since he performed that when u already signed up on loveshack) u wouldn't have even made contact...
KatZee Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 This is exactly what I'm talking about, this is exactly what I've been doing successfully through out my life, Why did u reach out to him twice ?? Knowing a lot (since he performed that when u already signed up on loveshack) u wouldn't have even made contact... Why would I reach out twice? Because as stated we were speaking every. single. day. for three months straight. Going out on dates. Phone calls hours long. I reached out when I didn't hear from him in about a day and a half, wasn't really a thing, so I initiated the conversation. He mentioned he was sick and was having a crazy busy time at work. Fine. So I texted again a few days later, he responded, said he was feeling better, things were going well... and the conversation dropped off. That's the last he ever heard from me. So by no means did I do any chasing. I just reached out as per usual, as we had been. It was obvious he was pulling back so I just mirrored him and did not chase or go after him or ask where he was, or why he wasn't talking to me. That was it. I just went away. He actually got in contact with me last night.
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