nerdlingZA Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Well I wouldn't say "jerks" jerks. But what I'm experiencing right now and the past years u would say women love guys who give them **** attention , there's a girl who had tried to use as a rebound to forget about my Ex but it felt wrong so I left her( didn't dump her nor did we date , I just showed her iam into her for one week" than I saw I still loved my Ex , well this girl now chases after me in an clingy and desperate unattractive way , she's soo into me but most of the time I ignore the crap out of her , she calls me nearly everyday asking me how I'm , how was my day , she's basically showing the same symptoms I had when my Ex left me , NOW this girl is NO loser , she gets hundreds of likes on facebook , and the comments( guys complimenting her) I see makes me stand out (I don't compliment , I show ZERO interest), This is the same thing that happend with my Ex GF before I dated her , I showed interest for a month and left her , she came chasing me after 2months. Conclusion : I'm not happy of this and imma block the girl out of my life before I get hooked up on her (I don't wanna date or be seriously , she's too mainstream of relationships). I'm not saying be a jerk guys , all I'm saying is if u like a girl shows interest and leave her , she will chase after u.
Keenly Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Games are no way to get a relationship. I mean unless you like mentally unstable people. 17
CrystalCastles Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 I'm not saying be a jerk guys , all I'm saying is if u like a girl shows interest and leave her , she will chase after u. That's not even advice. Do you know how exhausting it is to be the girl in the picture you've described? I've been there. It's so annoying, and I wish "men" like you would stop wasting our time. Not interested? Cool, stop the games then. 10
Onethirtyeight Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 That's not even advice. Do you know how exhausting it is to be the girl in the picture you've described? I've been there. It's so annoying, and I wish "men" like you would stop wasting our time. Not interested? Cool, stop the games then. I don't think he's playing games though. Just ignoring her because he doesn't want her. To the OP its not that girls like jerks and guys that ignore them. In my experience its that many women are more than willing to put up with that if its coming from someone they want. Couple that with no one wants someone who is clingy and it appears that women like men that treat them badly, really they just put up with it. No one wants to chase someone... 1
winny Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Stop being a jerk and tell her you are not into her. Women don't love jerks.... The day she will realize how u are... She will go... Everyone looks for love... Somehow u made an impression on her... N she is following after that illusion. Not the real you. 3
Author nerdlingZA Posted December 22, 2013 Author Posted December 22, 2013 Games are no way to get a relationship. I mean unless you like mentally unstable people. Nah I don't play games , like a mentioned , I ignored her cos I was still into my Ex. I didn't intend to make her chase me
Author nerdlingZA Posted December 22, 2013 Author Posted December 22, 2013 That's not even advice. Do you know how exhausting it is to be the girl in the picture you've described? I've been there. It's so annoying, and I wish "men" like you would stop wasting our time. Not interested? Cool, stop the games then. Do you know how annoying it is for nice guys who are into a women whose busy chasing a jerk ? 2
Author nerdlingZA Posted December 22, 2013 Author Posted December 22, 2013 i don't think he's playing games though. Just ignoring her because he doesn't want her. To the op its not that girls like jerks and guys that ignore them. In my experience its that many women are more than willing to put up with that if its coming from someone they want. Couple that with no one wants someone who is clingy and it appears that women like men that treat them badly, really they just put up with it. No one wants to chase someone... agree!!!
ltjg45 Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 I have a hard time trying to date women when I keep seeing guys with their underwear easily seen in public with a woman and with kids, no doubt. So, yeah, there is a reason why I never dated.....and frankly, can you blame me?
Onethirtyeight Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Do you know how annoying it is for nice guys who are into a women whose busy chasing a jerk ? Though I don't see how a nice dude can get that annoyed with it. Either she likes him or she doesn't and he moves on. If she feels like dealing with an ******* that's her problem.
Author nerdlingZA Posted December 22, 2013 Author Posted December 22, 2013 I have a hard time trying to date women when I keep seeing guys with their underwear easily seen in public with a woman and with kids, no doubt. So, yeah, there is a reason why I never dated.....and frankly, can you blame me? Lol owm
hotpotato Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 So you wanted to "use" her to make yourself feel better. How kind.
hotpotato Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Do you know how annoying it is for nice guys who are into a women whose busy chasing a jerk ? I've come to understand that many nice guys are very passive aggressive. When things dont go their way they become cruel. Sound familiar? I could say the same thing about men. My past ex left me for a girl who openly admitted she was crazy and loved thugs. The one before left me for a girl who stabbed him. If someone doesn't want you, let them go. At some point you have to stop complaining and work on yourself. 5
ponchsox Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Unstable women love jerks. Normal women love normal guys. The hard part is if finding one. 5
Blade96 Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 well I don't like jerks. That's why I'm not still with the one I had. Because he was a jerk. If there was a nice guy who wanted me I'd date him. Trouble is, Guys only see me as a friend.
fujidabruin Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Well I wouldn't say "jerks" jerks. But what I'm experiencing right now and the past years u would say women love guys who give them **** attention , there's a girl who had tried to use as a rebound to forget about my Ex but it felt wrong so I left her( didn't dump her nor did we date , I just showed her iam into her for one week" than I saw I still loved my Ex , well this girl now chases after me in an clingy and desperate unattractive way , she's soo into me but most of the time I asking me how Iignore the crap out of her , she calls me nearly everyday asking how I'm , how was my day , she's basically showing the same symptoms I had when my Ex left me , NOW this girl is NO loser , she gets hundreds of likes on facebook , and the comments( guys complimenting her) I see makes me stand out (I don't compliment , I show ZERO interest), This is the same thing that happend with my Ex GF before I dated her , I showed interest for a month and left her , she came chasing me after 2months. Conclusion : I'm not happy of this and imma block the girl out of my life before I get hooked up on her (I don't wanna date or be seriously , she's too mainstream of relationships). I'm not saying be a jerk guys , all I'm saying is if u like a girl shows interest and leave her , she will chase after u. Sorry OP but, if you use poor grammar, your words do not make sense and you may not be taken seriously. If English is not your first language then I apologize and you may want to declare it so readers will be aware . I get the gist of what you are saying here but your conclusion seems like nonsense..... What I hear: You are trying to ignore/block someone who you believe is chasing you. Then you give advice to men about being "kind of a jerk" so that women will chase them??? WTF?!?!?! I feel like somebody owes me time back for the last 5 minutes of my life..... 2
Mrlonelyone Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 I agree with this to an extent. When I was going around with my latest ex there was another young woman throwing herself at me. I would pay her extra attention whenever my ex would ignore me. It drove the ex up the wall. At the same time I knew if I ever paid my main attention to that other woman she'd loose interest. Women so love jerks that someone as non-traditional as I can attract their attention based on how I act..
jba10582 Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 The message should be that insecure women, or women that do not necessarily see the guy as husband material will go for jerks, possibly to fill a void because even through his domineering, controlling, possibly unstable, or completely indifferent attitude, the jerk may be seen as very attractive, very fun, protective to make her feel safe from external things like a dark alley, but not safe in the sense that she knows he will not later abandon her, which may later make her feel bitter or weary towards future interactions with guys of similar nature. The healthier females looking for a long-term relationship or husband material, probably actually do not want want a jerk. They do want a guy that has some of the same qualities of the "jerk" such as the attraction, fun, need to feel safe, not only in dark alley. But they also want a guy that is emotionally stable and mentally strong to feel safe in the sense that they can be comfortable enough to feel their opening up to him in a deeper connection and to let loose, be themselves, have fun, and to feel safe knowing that they can express themselves, their emotions and that he will be able to handle it and know that he will not abandon her later, but will love and appreciate her for who she is. So, I personally think a lot of what you are saying can be true, but, a lot of the females here are probably talking about their current husband/boyfriend or their ideal man they want to marry someday, not the void they may have once filled. 1
Mrlonelyone Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 The message should be that insecure women, or women that do not necessarily see the guy as husband material will go for jerks, possibly to fill a void because even through his domineering, controlling, possibly unstable, or completely indifferent attitude, the jerk may be seen as very attractive, very fun, protective to make her feel safe from external things like a dark alley, but not safe in the sense that she knows he will not later abandon her, which may later make her feel bitter or weary towards future interactions with guys of similar nature. The healthier females looking for a long-term relationship or husband material, probably actually do not want want a jerk. They do want a guy that has some of the same qualities of the "jerk" such as the attraction, fun, need to feel safe, not only in dark alley. But they also want a guy that is emotionally stable and mentally strong to feel safe in the sense that they can be comfortable enough to feel their opening up to him in a deeper connection and to let loose, be themselves, have fun, and to feel safe knowing that they can express themselves, their emotions and that he will be able to handle it and know that he will not abandon her later, but will love and appreciate her for who she is. So, I personally think a lot of what you are saying can be true, but, a lot of the females here are probably talking about their current husband/boyfriend or their ideal man they want to marry someday, not the void they may have once filled. The thing that you forget is that young men don't want to wait and be the guy these women marry once they have given their best, tightest, moistest smoothest years of sex to jerks. Young men want to be the sexy, funny, jerky, yet dark, unstable, manipulative jerk... who gets to have dirty nasty drunken sex right now. It is not a plus to a young man to hear that he'll be what women want in ten more years. 2
jba10582 Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 people go through life, make mistakes, and hopefully learn from them as feedback and learnings rather than interpret them as failures.
InnocentMan Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 lol@ judging this woman's value by the amount of Facebook likes she gets. If you tell a woman clearly that there is zero chance of any future, only the messed up ones will continue to pursue you. Same for both sexes really. The problem, more than likely, lies in the ambiguity of the break up. Some people don't make it clear, because they probably enjoy the ego boost of someone chasing them, even after an apparent rejection. Using other people's emotions to boost your self-esteem, is pretty low.
fabulous Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 women don't like jerkish behavior, they like attractive men who are jerks (sometimes/often)despite of their behavior, not because of it. A bad boy is just an attractive man who doesn't mind using his allure to abuse women. How do you think bad boys are created? They are usually tall, handsome, muscular dudes with an entitlement complex who realize they are in demand and take advantage of it. There is a reason no bad boys are 120lb nerds. You can't just flick a switch and metamorphosis into a bad boy if you were once a nerd, cuz' you still need the ability to generate raw sexual attractive in women. Women aren't going to hang around a mean ugly man just 'cuz he treats them badly or acts alpha. 5
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