solostand Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 So I've read about the five stages of grief, one of which is anger. I have been feeling anger for about a week and I have to admit - I like it! Anger makes me think realistically, with no love blinders, about what a ridiculous affair person I chose. I think I'm just so docile and willing to please that I'll sleep with these types because they ask. Oh, he did put a little work in it at the beginning, some wooing and all. Also, at the beginning he actually said he was going to leave his wife! What a dumb dodo bird I was to believe this. Here's a few things that make me mad at him: I have never spent a night with him. Even when his wife went away on trips he said he was too scared it was a trap. He can't drive at night. I didn't realize it until recently, but our sexual trysts lasted exactly as long as one AA meeting. He cancelled a morning tryst 20 minutes before he was supposed to arrive because his wife was going to Weight Watchers, and that is in the same neighbourhood. He trotted me all over the beach in a bikini all summer, making sure he stopped to introduce various people and lifeguards to his "Trophy Girlfriend". Also, all over his hometown (not in a bikini though) He actually told me I could be a trophy wife for some rich man (obviously not him?) He only took me out to dinner ONCE. However, he was always throwing hundred bills at me to buy myself a nice dinner since he had to go home. I think of these things and more and I am happy to be free!!!!!! Yet, today I ran into a woman who was my mortal enemy and he and I used to joke about what we'd do if we ever ran into her. My first thought was call MM and tell him.Then I said, nah.
RickFox Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 I don't think you're prepared for the jumps from one stage to the other and back again. You can't rely on anger to get you through it all because it will not stay with you. the emotional roller coaster will throw you for a loop 2
AlwaysGrowing Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 For many, they do look back on the ridiculousness of the situation that they got involved in. And being angry..is a normal response. The next step...is figuring out why. It is a process...a process that takes time. Tap into what you have learned about processing from AA. 4
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