Wall E Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 i get a text from her saying, "who you are, should be consistent with or without me, thanks for hurting my feelings. hope you're well regardless, have a safe holiday." so what happened was that i added a girl on facebook, and this girl and my ex are like enemies. i'm friends with her so i don't see the harm in adding her when my ex broke up with me. she goes on to say "shows you have no respect for me. i see your priorities. If you didn't mean anything then this break up would be a breeze for me, but it's not okay? And your actions post break up isn't helping me at all. And all I want to do is heal and forgive and learn to accept it all. Have a long and loving life Walt.. Know that I did really love you. Bye." i'm confused, why would she even care still? she dumped me i don't owe her anything...
barky2 Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 i get a text from her saying, "who you are, should be consistent with or without me, thanks for hurting my feelings. hope you're well regardless, have a safe holiday." so what happened was that i added a girl on facebook, and this girl and my ex are like enemies. i'm friends with her so i don't see the harm in adding her when my ex broke up with me. she goes on to say "shows you have no respect for me. i see your priorities. If you didn't mean anything then this break up would be a breeze for me, but it's not okay? And your actions post break up isn't helping me at all. And all I want to do is heal and forgive and learn to accept it all. Have a long and loving life Walt.. Know that I did really love you. Bye." i'm confused, why would she even care still? she dumped me i don't owe her anything... She's fishing dude. She wants to you be like " ok sorry hunny" and delete the other girl. Chuckle a little bit. Don't u dare delete the other girl. Smile a little bit, because now I hope you can see the game being played. She's dangling a carrot, to see if you'll bite. DO NOT REPLY!! I'll hit you. Sit tight for awhile, I'm sure once she doesn't see any kind of reaction their will be more words and I'm sure she'll take a few stabs at you, but it's normal. Kind of like a child throwing a temper tantrum...only it's a ex gf...10x worse. Barky 4
chris21422 Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 are you still friends with your ex in fb??
Author Wall E Posted December 22, 2013 Author Posted December 22, 2013 are you still friends with your ex in fb?? no. she found out somehow..
chris21422 Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 she is a stalker man. Keep doing what your doing.. barky said it right just ignore it. She doesn't want to get back together she's just fishing for response.. no. she found out somehow..
JDPT Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 As states she is just lurking and dumping some guilt while she is at it. Stay strong, replying will be nothing more than a detriment. Continue on recovery you are all that matters from this point forward. 1
Author Wall E Posted December 22, 2013 Author Posted December 22, 2013 i want her back, i'm afraid i ruined things
chris21422 Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 No man you didn't ruined it.. You will ruined it if you respond trust me. i want her back, i'm afraid i ruined things 2
lil hoodlum Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 she goes on to say "shows you have no respect for me. i see your priorities. And where was her respect for you? And where were you as a priority to her? Hey tough titties girl, she broke up with you. She didn't have any respect for you and you weren't a priority to her, so what makes her think that she is entitled to the same? Hypocrite! 4
barky2 Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 i want her back, i'm afraid i ruined things Where do I begin with this statement. I'll keep it blunt and to the point. Deleting her " enemy " off your Facebook won't get your girl back bro. Try start with having a spine and a pair between your legs and don't do what she says, don't reply, and keep it movin. I mean that in the nicest way possible. Barky 7
EuTuBrute Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Listen to barky... He knows what's up. I to had a carrot dangled in front of me with my ex... Except I took it and got rejected again. Don't respond, you win that way. From my experience talking with other people in my situation, exs always "care" what you are doing, it's human nature, but it's doesn't mean they want to get back together 3
Mr me to Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 (edited) Dude she just wants to control you. She lost the right to have any sort of input when she walked out. You responding will be nothing but a ego boost for her. Your fragile at the mo, put yourself first and that starts and ends with no contact. Trust me you will only regret responding. Ive been there and done it... Edited December 22, 2013 by Mr me to 2
legion113 Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Here's my take on it "who you are, should be consistent with or without me" (I happen to like myself better WITHOUT you, always have, hey, guess that makes me consistent, thanks) "thanks for hurting my feelings" (When did you go insane? YOU"RE feelings?!?!?! I'm still trying to pull the dagger out from my back when you dumped me) "hope you're well regardless" (I'm going to have to check my car for bombs or the brake lines being cut, because somehow I don't think you're being sincere) "have a safe holiday." (Since I'm not in the vicinity of YOU and any sharp objects or things that go bang, I think I may just make it thru Xmas) 4
Author Wall E Posted December 22, 2013 Author Posted December 22, 2013 what i don't get is that she's still getting mad like if we're still together or something. if she dumped me, wouldn't it all be over? does she still have feelings?
Kevin_D Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 i want her back, i'm afraid i ruined things If you really want her back, I'd say this is a rather good sign. She keeps track on what your doing and now she wants to see if she can control you. Which she can't, right? However, you need to be careful. Chances are that she'll trick into trying again, just to dump you a week later.
legion113 Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 what i don't get is that she's still getting mad like if we're still together or something. if she dumped me, wouldn't it all be over? does she still have feelings? If she seems mad then yes she still has feelings for you (as we know, the opposite of love is actually indifference, not hate) but it still doesn't mean she wants to get BACK with you. That's a pretty important point. 2
EuTuBrute Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 (edited) What legion said is very true... I have posted on other threads that my ex wanted to get coffee with me and then changed her mind after I liked someone's status on facebook and that "upset" her and should have defended her lol... The opposite of love is indifference. If they didn't care they would have no feelings at all. They all seen to "care" about your actions after the break up, but they never want to come back to the relationship till 1) they get their heart broken 2) can't find someone better Edited December 23, 2013 by EuTuBrute
Jord Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 yes i want her back. i just don't know how to get her back after this.
legion113 Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 Sounds to me like she's grasping at straws to justify to herself why she dumped you. "Know that I really did love you..bye" Give me a freakin' break. If she really did love you she wouldn't have broken up with you. This chick is confused, disoriented, and cruel. Hopefully she'll stick her head where the sun don't shine, and I don't mean the sand. In the meantime, feel free to ignore her..that's the only way she'll come back to you. 1
Jord Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 Sounds to me like she's grasping at straws to justify to herself why she dumped you. "Know that I really did love you..bye" Give me a freakin' break. If she really did love you she wouldn't have broken up with you. This chick is confused, disoriented, and cruel. Hopefully she'll stick her head where the sun don't shine, and I don't mean the sand. In the meantime, feel free to ignore her..that's the only way she'll come back to you. i know, i shouldn't be too available to her anymore. the times where ignore her, she'll text me for days... 1
Mariposa10 Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 You just created a huge mess and drama. Let's be honest, OP. Did you want to get her attention? Are you really really friends with the other girl? Who added who? I don't like this situation at all. From the outside it all looks very immature. She shouldn't have texted you, but I don't think you should've added this girl just to get attention from your ex. Now if this girl and you were like best friends before but because of your ex you couldn't talk to her or something then it's ok that you added her. I guess it all boils down to why you added this girl, your intentions behind it. I was once the girl you added, and it was a complete mess. The guy did it to get his ex's attention and it only backfired. what i don't get is that she's still getting mad like if we're still together or something. if she dumped me, wouldn't it all be over? does she still have feelings?
cavalier99 Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 I just think you should go and stay NC. Stop adding her friends. In fact. Delete them. Do you want to get better?. Block her on everthing and disappear like a ninja. All this other crap is just BS that will delay your recovery a lot. Cav 2
fancy feast Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 You haven't ruined anything. Keep living your life, be friends with whoever you want.
EuTuBrute Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 Human nature bud... They will always have feelings for you, but don't get confused it doesn't mean they want you back 1
Author Wall E Posted December 23, 2013 Author Posted December 23, 2013 Human nature bud... They will always have feelings for you, but don't get confused it doesn't mean they want you back well thats that sucks, we both have feelings for each other, yet she doesn't want to be with me.
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