Do Not Greet Them On Christmas!!

[chris21422]

Good job man! Just don't reply nothing good will came out of it..

 

Your ex is lucky she have a way to contact you.

 

My ex is blocked in all ways of communication. She might need to send me a greeting card through my mail in order to contact me LOL!

 

 

My ex texted me this:

 

"This might be weird, but I wish you a merry christmas. Are you spending it with your family as usual?"

 

I got furious. What the heck? If she wants me to wish me a merry christmas, fine, but there's really nothing friendly about this message. I said I was going to respond earlier in this thread, but I want to it.

 

My idiot friends also keeps me updated on what she writes on her FB, which really helps me with my healing process. A couple of nights ago she wrote something like this:

 

"And so it happened, that on an ordinary december night, <tagged herself> found herself kind of very much in love".

 

A few weeks after ending a 6.5 year relationship. Really classy. Seriously, my own friends would lose all respect for me I had done something simular. This girl is supposed to 24 years old, but somehow she seemed more mature when she was 17.

 

I'm beginning to believe in GIGS after all. The guys made fun of her during high-school, her mother was in total control and then she met me at the age of 17. I was her first everything. I was dumped out of the blue and it was rather obvious that there was another, more exciting, guy involved, even though she assured me that this wasn't the case.

 

Anyway, I won't respond this time. I wanted to be mature, but her behavior is totally unacceptable. She's throwing breadcrumbs, asking me random questions, wants to meet up for coffee, writes on her Facebook how much in love she is... No, I'm not going to be a part of this anymore.

 

I'm going to let her have her "fun". I'm pretty sure that she will come crawling back on day, but I'm already starting to lose respect for her. It's still hurting like crazy though.

 

Anyway, merry chrimstas all LS:ers!

[Coping17]

I have been broken up for a little over five weeks and in no contact for 30 days.

This situation is easy for me, I will not be reaching out to her and am positive I will not be hearing from her. Merry Christmas Everyone!!

[mysteriouschic]

I've been so tempted to text my ex merry christmas as a friendly gesture not because I want him or anything as I don't just being friendly thats all.

Since I've ignored all of his apart from one message. The last I heard from him was early December. He generally leave 4-5 weeks before attempting to contact me although the last time it was a 5 day gap. In order to stop me texting him or replying to him. I moved whatsapp to a far page on my iphone since he was the only person I really spoke to on it I've also turned off the notifications so I won't see any message if I do get one on Christmas and will I be checking.

 

This quote is keeping me strong moving forward

"You need to see that life is not always perfect. We will not always get what we want. And through it hurts a lot, what should've happened, happened. Who should've left, left and whatever's thrown you off course will always bring you to where it is you need to be."

[legion113]

I've been so tempted to text my ex merry christmas as a friendly gesture not because I want him or anything as I don't just being friendly thats all.

Since I've ignored all of his apart from one message. The last I heard from him was early December. He generally leave 4-5 weeks before attempting to contact me although the last time it was a 5 day gap. In order to stop me texting him or replying to him. I moved whatsapp to a far page on my iphone since he was the only person I really spoke to on it I've also turned off the notifications so I won't see any message if I do get one on Christmas and will I be checking.

 

This quote is keeping me strong moving forward

"You need to see that life is not always perfect. We will not always get what we want. And through it hurts a lot, what should've happened, happened. Who should've left, left and whatever's thrown you off course will always bring you to where it is you need to be."

 

 

That's a nice quote, where'd you get it?

[mysteriouschic]

That's a nice quote, where'd you get it?

 

I googled it the other day searching for quotes can't remember what I typed in I know it was one of the first pictures which came up. The picture was quite nice too. I'll post a link up if I find the picture.

[faithfully]

I got the xmas text from my dumper,

 

Him: merry xmas (my name) hope you have a great day x

Me: same to you x

 

 

Didnt even think about him today till he texted me, wasnt really expecting anything from him yo be honest.

 

Is that a bad respond??

[Robbyrob]

So I texted her first. Guess she wouldnt have initiated it anyways !

 

9pm - me: Merry christmas to you and your family! Enjoy it

5am - her (after partying): Thanks Im wishing you and your family a merry christmas too!

 

I did not respond anymore. Ive said what I wanted to say, didnt influence me in a good or bad way!

Im looking forward to meeting a new girl in the new year !!!

[Haydn]

My ex texted to one of my friends 1 hour ago. (I blocked her long ago)

 

Petra, Please wish Haydn and E (My daughter) a happy Christmas. I hope you and him are happy together!

 

 

(no i am not with Petra) But my ex always thought i was shagging every woman i knew.

[Lennon]

so got a merry christmas message from her this morning, her 6pm, she's living 10 hours ahead now. Saying merry christmas hope you have a good day. Also mentioned her mum got her a new silver chain for the silver pendant i got her as a gift as the one i had gotten had begun to tarnish as she wears it everyday, never takes it off she tells me. ( That was bloody expensive, f**kin jewellery store ripped me off, was meant to be real silver )

then she also mentioned i don't mind if you don't reply and she just wanted to send the email anyway,

 

i haven't replied to her last few emails and blocked her for the last time on facebook, i've finally taken on board the golden advice given on here and stopped breaking NC, all contact does is lead you to more heartache and facebook is the god damn devil when going through a breakup, but guys facebook isn't real, how many of us put up pictures of ourselves sitting sad crying and alone up for all to see, we only stick the good times up there and sometimes your smiling in those photos but your not happy.

 

Its christmas day, I'm alone in a foreign country where i don't know enough of the language to have a half decent conversation with anyone, buying my brand of cigarettes is tough enough as theres like 5 different versions of them. Just had a crappy microwave hotel meal which is costing me a bomb and I'm working from 6 to 3 am tonight which i don't mind. Oddly enough I feel okay, no sense of doom or hopelessness, some periods of light depression but not too bad, its just the isolation due to the language barrier. If i wasn't working tonight i would get slightly sauced in my hotel room and watch movies and be okay with it. I'm getting better mentally, fogs beginning to clear, i really think i had an emotional breakdown, like maybe a mental illness of some sort. It was harsh but i learned and am learning from it.

 

I WONT BE REPLYING TO HER EMAIL

 

. I know it would just set me back. I'm glad she sent the email though but I'm am far too confused by her mixed signal messages and i'm sick of it. If i replied i know i would just be sitting on tenter hooks awaiting another disappointing non meaningful message. Ignore and NC. Move on. Maybe she'll come back but right now i just can't wait for a new girl to walk into my life and sweep me off my feet ( yes us men should be swept off our feet too and treated like princes). Stupid language barrier is holding me back here though, the girls here are gorgeous and I can't speak to them, help. :]

 

Merry Christmas people

[FortunateSon]

I have not heard from my ex, I really don't think I will. I have no plan to contact her either. It is the first Xmas I haven't spent with her in 6 years, it has been tough. When she contacted me earlier this month she said she is dating someone, I am guessing she will be spending the holiday with him. I have a lonely day ahead of me, my son is leaving for his mom's in a few hours and most of my family is out of town. I guess it is tough times like this that put things in perspective and make you appreciate the good times. Merry Christmas everyone!

[David87]

so got a merry christmas message from her this morning, her 6pm, she's living 10 hours ahead now. Saying merry christmas hope you have a good day. Also mentioned her mum got her a new silver chain for the silver pendant i got her as a gift as the one i had gotten had begun to tarnish as she wears it everyday, never takes it off she tells me. ( That was bloody expensive, f**kin jewellery store ripped me off, was meant to be real silver )

then she also mentioned i don't mind if you don't reply and she just wanted to send the email anyway,

 

i haven't replied to her last few emails and blocked her for the last time on facebook, i've finally taken on board the golden advice given on here and stopped breaking NC, all contact does is lead you to more heartache and facebook is the god damn devil when going through a breakup, but guys facebook isn't real, how many of us put up pictures of ourselves sitting sad crying and alone up for all to see, we only stick the good times up there and sometimes your smiling in those photos but your not happy.

 

Its christmas day, I'm alone in a foreign country where i don't know enough of the language to have a half decent conversation with anyone, buying my brand of cigarettes is tough enough as theres like 5 different versions of them. Just had a crappy microwave hotel meal which is costing me a bomb and I'm working from 6 to 3 am tonight which i don't mind. Oddly enough I feel okay, no sense of doom or hopelessness, some periods of light depression but not too bad, its just the isolation due to the language barrier. If i wasn't working tonight i would get slightly sauced in my hotel room and watch movies and be okay with it. I'm getting better mentally, fogs beginning to clear, i really think i had an emotional breakdown, like maybe a mental illness of some sort. It was harsh but i learned and am learning from it.

 

I WONT BE REPLYING TO HER EMAIL

 

. I know it would just set me back. I'm glad she sent the email though but I'm am far too confused by her mixed signal messages and i'm sick of it. If i replied i know i would just be sitting on tenter hooks awaiting another disappointing non meaningful message. Ignore and NC. Move on. Maybe she'll come back but right now i just can't wait for a new girl to walk into my life and sweep me off my feet ( yes us men should be swept off our feet too and treated like princes). Stupid language barrier is holding me back here though, the girls here are gorgeous and I can't speak to them, help. :]

 

Merry Christmas people

 

You are lucky, I didn't get a text or an email from my ex, I know now that is over for ever..

[julzfromsa]

I have not heard from my ex, I really don't think I will. I have no plan to contact her either. It is the first Xmas I haven't spent with her in 6 years, it has been tough. When she contacted me earlier this month she said she is dating someone, I am guessing she will be spending the holiday with him. I have a lonely day ahead of me, my son is leaving for his mom's in a few hours and most of my family is out of town. I guess it is tough times like this that put things in perspective and make you appreciate the good times. Merry Christmas everyone!

 

Well after 11 years of been in a serious relationship, my ex fiance and all her family never contacted me. Except her grandfather which doesn't count, he is a Jehovah Witness (i didn't respond).. Kinda hurts as I was family but i have a feeling that she has told everyone to BUT out. I know its actually better that way but cmon it sucks still. Anyways, I have the feeling that if she contacts me, it may be in a year or 2 time, or if something terrible happens in her life. Otherwise i expect nothing. I will NOT contact her either, not for anything. Almost 3 weeks NC. Blocked, deleted! Good luck to all you!

Edited December 25, 2013 by julzfromsa