harimad Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 I can't believe I'm still even asking this at my age, but ... So, I recently met a guy at a bar. The first time, we only chatted briefly before my FWB showed up and we left together to, uh, benefit. The second time, I was with a couple other friends. I noticed him and remembered how cute he is, and involved him in our conversation. But he seemed to be flirting with my girlfriend before she gently let him know she's not available. After my friends left, we kept talking, and he jokingly asked where all the bars with "smart, single women" are (he's new to my city). I told him that he can meet smart, single women at the bar we were at since I'm smart and single and hang out there. He was very surprised and said he thought I had a boyfriend. I told him that that guy was just a friend. We were talking about fun stuff to do in our city and I mentioned that several of my friends were going ice skating the next day and invited him along. I assumed that it would just be a friendly outing. The next day, when I texted him the details, he asked if I wanted to grab a bite before. We went for a quick brunch - which he paid for. Then we showed up at the rink - and he paid for our tickets and skates. And at certain moments while skating, he seemed to be flirting with me. I introduced him to my friends and he got along well with everyone. After skating, we all went to a bar to eat and have a drink. He did not pay there, but we were in more of a group setting. But he still was a bit flirtatious. After he left, my friends immediately pounced on me. When I explained all of the above, they were divided on whether I'd inadvertently gone on a quasi-date. So, I'm really not sure what to think. Arguments for "it was a date": - He paid for everything we did alone - He flirted - He made light physical contact - He mentioned activities we could do together in the future Arguments for "it wasn't a date" - He was flirting with my friend before me - He is very new to the city and clearly looking to make new connections - He had the chance to meet up with us later in the evening and did not I know this is all a bit silly and high school, but hey ... it's kind of fun! What do you all think?
Onethirtyeight Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 I say it has to be prearranged to be a date, I'd call that a nice first meeting. Why worry about it though? Talk to him and see where it goes.
jinandjuice Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 I say it has to be prearranged to be a date, I'd call that a nice first meeting. Why worry about it though? Talk to him and see where it goes. This. If you want a date just hint it would be great to get some alone time.
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