KennyG25 Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 I met a girl at a Christmas party i hosted on Saturday night. We talked all night and at the bar she was beer pong partner and we were sharing drinks. I ended up getting her number and asked her to come over and hang out last night. At first it sounded promising, she responded "That's a possibility :)". We texted about random **** throughout the day. When i asked her later if she would be coming, she danced around the question and would not give a definitive yes or no. Fyi she is a dime and prolly a little out of my league LOL. I do fine in the ladies department, but have been shut down by girls on her level in the past. Anyway here is a snippet of the conversation we had last night followed by some important details and questions. Here is the conversation: Me: Were you successfully able to get rid of the hangover? Her:Currently on like water bottle number 10 Me:"Lol. Well i'm about to go rent "The Internship" from Redbox, and i sure hate watching movies alone... Her:Haha is this like a come over and "watch a movie" try... Me: Haha yep Her: Me:I was being serious about movie btw... Not exactly sure what you think my intentions are. But i'm assuming the emoticon thingy means a no go? Her:Haha I don't think you got my joke Me: Lol i don't think i did either. I am clueless when it comes to emoticons... Me:So will i be watching this movie alone tonight? Her:Sorry I definitely just passed out lol. My bad Me:Lol well your definitely missing out, this movie is funny as hell! Her: It looked funny! Important info: Here is where the situation gets a little bit sticky lol. She is a good friend if my roommates GF. I also found out that she went to school with a girl i have been casually hooking up with... And somehow she heard about it. (Most likely from my roommates gf) I told her that it wasnt serious, which is 100% true because the other gurl annoys the **** of me and i only hang out with her because she puts out and is a freak. Also i am going to south america right after the holidays and want to get something going before i leave. If i dont, i feel like it will be too late... Anyways this girl i met is a wifey type. A type of girl you would bring home to the family and would be proud to show off. I feel like i have a shot, maybe, but i dont want to **** it up! Questions: Do you think she i interested or just being nice? Wtf does the emoticon mean and what joke is she refering to in the text? How do i ask her to hang out again without appearing too needy? Do i text her today or wait for her to reach out? How do i impress this girl and make her be like "holy **** this guy is ****ing amazing!"? (Lol!) Im generally a nice guy that treats women in a way that momma would be proud of, but this girl is most likely used to dicks... So should i switch up the strategy? Thanks you for the advice! Any advice would be highly appreciated.
mammasita Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Regardless of the background info....my thought is you stop playing the little back and forth thing and just ask her out....on a proper date, not a movie at your place. I'm sure she assumed you wanted to get in her pants. I'm not even clear if that was your intention or not 4
Onethirtyeight Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Don't ask the same thing more than once its obnoxious. If you pester her like this shes going to get creeped out.
Author KennyG25 Posted December 22, 2013 Author Posted December 22, 2013 My intentions were not to get in her pants. Im a senior in college and poor as ****. Will be making 75k a year once i graduate... She just graduated and works as a medical practitioner.
Divasu Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Let's see: You asked her over to watch a movie for a first date and she knows you are currently "hooking up" with someone she knows. I can't imagine how that would be appealing to her. 6
d0nnivain Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 It's not about the money. It's about the venue. Pick something to do that's not in your house. Stop thinking of her as out of your league. Leagues are for sports events but if you defeat yourself you're done before you start. 3
dreamingoftigers Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 It's not about the money. It's about the venue. Pick something to do that's not in your house. Stop thinking of her as out of your league. Leagues are for sports events but if you defeat yourself you're done before you start. The title makes it sound like the OP wants to kick this girl out of his league. "No way! No one here wants to play ball with you, girl! Now go make yourself very unattractive!" 1
ThatMan Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 I'm not going to suggest that you are the bottom of the barrel, KennyG25, but how can you believe any of this would make for a good impression? It doesn't matter who you are speaking with. When you want to ask somebody out, try directly asking them out. 3
mammasita Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 My intentions were not to get in her pants. Im a senior in college and poor as ****. Will be making 75k a year once i graduate... She just graduated and works as a medical practitioner. Air is free. Invite her out for a walk through a park. ****, it doesn't take a genius. You're a senior in college about to make 75k, right? 3
ExpatInItaly Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 I don't think she's very interested, OP. Sorry. It may or may not have something to do with her finding out you're casually hooking up with someone else. She didn't respond very favourably to your movie invite; you could try asking her to a less intimate date (dinner?) and see what type of reply you get. Also, you've known her such a short time but believe she's a "wifey" type. How could you possibly know that already when you've met once? 1
StanMusial Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 what joke is she refering to in the text? You are the joke. 1
Versacehottie Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Oh I forgot in your other post to address the fwb situation. Ummm, yeah, knock that off. Makes you sound like a jerk. And if you think she is wifey material, and she really is, she will be looking at how you handle and have handled that situation. Hooking up with someone that you could give 2 sh*ts about and then having someone you do witness you treating another person like that reflects badly on you. Break it off with the fwb situation in as much of a gentleman way as is possible. To further analyze your situation, since someone figured out what the emoticon means, if she was still hungover in the evening, well then her interest in you the night before is suspect. She may have been seriously wasted. I agree with donnivan; if she just thinks you're a hook up type of guy and you've invited her to your house, she probably thinks you want the same thing from her. Show her that you don't by asking her to do something that requires more effort and not at home. 2
MidwestUSA Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Anyways this girl i met is a wifey type. A type of girl you would bring home to the family and would be proud to show off. Because your parents play beer pong? 2
MrCastle Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 My intentions were not to get in her pants. Im a senior in college and poor as ****. Will be making 75k a year once i graduate... She just graduated and works as a medical practitioner. Pussies still need dick man. Always say to yourself "why not my dick?" Income/financial status have nothing to do with it.
Mascara Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 the other gurl annoys the **** of me and i only hang out with her because she puts out and is a freak Im generally a nice guy that treats women in a way that momma would be proud of I'm going to let you into a secret here. We women take note of how you treat and speak about other women.... your mum, your sister, your FWB, your ex.... and then we make a decision about whether or not you're a "nice guy". A lot more women than you think would observe that you have a FWB, you don't even like her, you're not sexually available.... and conclude that you're a jerk, and most definitely not a "nice guy". So maybe that's what she's done. 6
InnocentMan Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 That text conversation was lame. Don't leave any ambiguity if your intention is a date type situation. While your fannying about renting dvd's, some other dude will be in there getting to the point. 1
CarrieT Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 If you think a girl is "out of your league," than you don't ask her to come to your place to watch a movie. You invite her on a PROPER date and wine-and-dine her. For the record, I don't believe in LEAGUES. Every person is on the same level - or can be - if you treat them as such. By just bantering with her and suggesting a get-together that is something other than a proper date is demeaning her. 3
Iguanna Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 How can she be a wifey type and like guys who behave badly? 1
Author KennyG25 Posted December 22, 2013 Author Posted December 22, 2013 Thanks for the replys everyone. I can see how it does reflect badly and i plan on breaking it off with this other girl. I also see how it was stupid to invite her to my house right after meeting her.... 1
jinandjuice Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 You should have just straight up called or texted her "Come over and lets watch this movie". Not beat around the bush. Dont ask but be assertive.
Maxtor Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 "Me:"Lol. Well i'm about to go rent "The Internship" from Redbox, and i sure hate watching movies alone... Her:Haha is this like a come over and "watch a movie" try... Me: Haha yep" lol She is not interested, because if she was, she wouldnt say that. If she wanted, she just would go for it. Even with that in mind 1
MidwestUSA Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 You should have just straight up called or texted her "Come over and lets watch this movie". Not beat around the bush. Dont ask but be assertive. Because a bonehead move is okay as long as it's done in an assertive fashion? :laugh: 1
FrankieFrank Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 "Me:"Lol. Well i'm about to go rent "The Internship" from Redbox, and i sure hate watching movies alone... Her:Haha is this like a come over and "watch a movie" try... Me: Haha yep" lol She is not interested, because if she was, she wouldnt say that. If she wanted, she just would go for it. Even with that in mind True. She saw through that attempt and called OP out. And OP kept on circling around it in subsequent conversation. It probably didn't sound very enticing and charming to her. Because a bonehead move is okay as long as it's done in an assertive fashion? :laugh: Works for some I guess? Never for me though.
soccerrprp Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 Im generally a nice guy that treats women in a way that momma would be proud of.... Lol! No you're not! Not even close, man! 3
RedRobin Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 I'm going to let you into a secret here. We women take note of how you treat and speak about other women.... your mum, your sister, your FWB, your ex.... and then we make a decision about whether or not you're a "nice guy". A lot more women than you think would observe that you have a FWB, you don't even like her, you're not sexually available.... and conclude that you're a jerk, and most definitely not a "nice guy". So maybe that's what she's done. I wanted to 'like' this 10X... 1
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