robaday Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Its been nearly a year and a half since me and my ex gf split from a 3 year relationship. Ive moved on in that I have improved my life a lot am fitter, calmer, tougher, and have a lot more happiness in my life, and am currently dating someone (for last two months). Guess though Ive had the falling out/nastiness of our breakup in my mind for sometime and cant seem to shake it. Things were said by both of us in the months after that damaged any hope of reconciliation or of being friends and this animosity has weighed me down a little....for some reason I cant seem to shake it and really just want to let it go for good as its preventing me fully looking forward. I almost feel like apologising, or trying to make peace with her, although I doubt its a good idea. Shes tried herself to make peace but previously I was too messed up from everything to give her the time of day, or want to talk to her. How can I let go of these unresolved feelings for good? I dont want her back, I just want to move forward with my life
d0nnivain Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Send the feelings of peace or forgiveness or whatever you are trying to achieve out into the universe & leave it at that. Don't try to contact her. Like you weren't ready to hear her before, she's not inclined to listen to you now.
Mark-one Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Its been nearly a year and a half since me and my ex gf split from a 3 year relationship. Ive moved on in that I have improved my life a lot am fitter, calmer, tougher, and have a lot more happiness in my life, and am currently dating someone (for last two months). Guess though Ive had the falling out/nastiness of our breakup in my mind for sometime and cant seem to shake it. Things were said by both of us in the months after that damaged any hope of reconciliation or of being friends and this animosity has weighed me down a little....for some reason I cant seem to shake it and really just want to let it go for good as its preventing me fully looking forward. I almost feel like apologising, or trying to make peace with her, although I doubt its a good idea. Shes tried herself to make peace but previously I was too messed up from everything to give her the time of day, or want to talk to her. How can I let go of these unresolved feelings for good? I dont want her back, I just want to move forward with my life i have been in a similar position where unspoken feelings were preventing me from moving on with my new partner write your feelings out and what you want to say to her in a letter and read them back to youself you can either leave it at that if that gives closure or send it to her but don't follow it up, send it as though you have said it face to face to her and move on
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