greenfairie Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 I'm starting to feel a bit crazy because my ex just came back into town from school and I really do not want to run into him. We ended things on super weird terms. He's now dating my best friend who I grew up with. I chose my friends wisely didn't I? I still don't get why this bothers me even when we ended things for real last year. Do I just miss our friendship or why is this still bothering me?
legion113 Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Probably because not only did you lose your boyfriend but your best friend as well. I mean damn, who do you turn to?
Author greenfairie Posted December 22, 2013 Author Posted December 22, 2013 Probably because not only did you lose your boyfriend but your best friend as well. I mean damn, who do you turn to? Yeah, she was the person I only turned to during the entire breakup. She kept lies from me for…. I would say about a good year before I found out thru other mutual friends. I was in shock and I was really numb, looking back. I wasn't really sure what was going on. I feel a deep sense of betrayal I don't think I can really ever get over. Sometimes I feel okay about all of this but there are just some times it consumes me like tonight I'm allowing all of this bull**** to consume me and its tearing me up inside that I lost two amazing people that I had so many good times with.. this sucks
legion113 Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 I would consider it as getting rid of two dumbasses in one shot. Just think, he obviously made a lousy boyfriend, and she made an even lousier best friend, and they're together. What are the chances of those two idjits making it work? Neither has a concept of loyalty, or lines that you just don't cross. I think you got lucky, your garbage and recyclables got picked up the same day. 3
Author greenfairie Posted December 22, 2013 Author Posted December 22, 2013 I would consider it as getting rid of two dumbasses in one shot. Just think, he obviously made a lousy boyfriend, and she made an even lousier best friend, and they're together. What are the chances of those two idjits making it work? Neither has a concept of loyalty, or lines that you just don't cross. I think you got lucky, your garbage and recyclables got picked up the same day. I guess you're right. Its just hard for me to see that clearly right now and sometimes I put the blame on myself. Like did I bring them together? We always hung out all the time so it makes me feel like he's been using me this whole time. I feel so dumb and naive.
calgaryhearts Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Of course it will suck when he's in town because it's a reminder of what you had. It is awful to lose both your best friend and your boyfriend - I'm so sorry. Do you have any other friends you can lean on? Are you doing anything for yourself to heal? Even just going for a walk or changing the scenery is good. Don't try and understand what happened - its not your fault and there's nothing you can do. There's no way you could have known and it sucks they did this to you, but it's not a reflection of your character at all. The only thing you can do is move on and change the future. The best thing to do is avoid them if you can and do things for yourself. Come back to the boards and write often too - it helps.
Robbyrob Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Any more thoughts guys? you are in the exact same situation as me. it seems you are still not over him or thinking a lot about him. My ex is back in town too, although I dont know whether she has a new bf or not. i shouldnt care. the feeling is just awkward cause we try our best not to see them and not to go to places where we could expect them. so try to avoid all these places. you cant change anything anymore with regards to your best friend, which now is hopefully an ex best friend. thats a no-go between friends. the only thing you can really do is, try to have a nice xmas time with your family and meet your real friends. and try to choose an awesome location for NYE and start meeting and flirting with guys. just enjoy life!!! you have to...ill have to do the exact same thing as I am in the same situation
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