Sam23 Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 (edited) Do liars, cheaters, and players ever look back and have remorse for the carnage they leave behind? I fell head over heels for this guy I met last year. He was good looking, smart, funny, etc. He sent me mixed signals for months, so I finally walked away and things turned ugly. He didn't want to be with me, but he'd stare endlessly and got jealous when I'd talk to new guys. If he was friends with them, he'd say bad things about me and they stopped talking to me. He started dating a classmate at our college and I found out he'd lie constantly and he cheated on her and got another girl pregnant. He's with the girl he got pregnant, but I heard he tried to still hook up with several of his exes. When we used to talk, he'd talk about his first love, whom he dated for 6 years. I think it burned him bad when they broke up so he's been on a rampage of breaking every girl he comes in contact since. And he can't stand being alone. Do these type of guys ever look back and have any remorse? Do they eventually crash and burn one day? It always makes me wonder how guys like this deal with guilt and pain cause I'd imagine anyone with a conscience has to reflect on the past sooner or later. Edited December 22, 2013 by Sam23
Green Light Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Do liars, cheaters, and players ever look back and have remorse for the carnage they leave behind? I fell head over heels for this guy I met last year. He was good looking, smart, funny, etc. He sent me mixed signals for months, so I finally walked away and things turned ugly. He didn't want to be with me, but he'd stare endlessly and got jealous when I'd talk to new guys. If he was friends with them, he'd say bad things about me and they stopped talking to me. He started dating a classmate at our college and I found out he'd lie constantly and he cheated on her and got another girl pregnant. He's with the girl he got pregnant, but I heard he tried to still hook up with several of his exes. When we used to talk, he'd talk about his first love, whom he dated for 6 years. I think it burned him bad when they broke up so he's been on a rampage of breaking every girl he comes in contact since. And he can't stand being alone. Do these type of guys ever look back and have any remorse? Do they eventually crash and burn one day? It always makes me wonder how guys like this deal with guilt and pain cause I'd imagine anyone with a conscience has to reflect on the past sooner or later. Narcissists never look back with a feeling of guilt for that would require empathy.
Guitarisgood Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 When we used to talk, he'd talk about his first love, whom he dated for 6 years. I think it burned him bad when they broke up so he's been on a rampage of breaking every girl he comes in contact since. Don't blame him. Blame the system. The modern guy is raised as a 'white knight' chasing the disney romantic dream. Unfortunately when they meet 'that' girl and she breaks his heart, realism kicks in. He'll have his fun then settle down hopefully and continue on in life. I would not blame him after all, it was the girl that turned him into the guy he is today.
Eivuwan Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 You are assuming a lot of things about people you don't know. Was referring to guitarisgood
StanMusial Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Most people, if they have real regret over something, don't keep doing that thing. 1
Revolver Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 (edited) No offense but I will never understand why women get surprised when "good looking smart charming funny" guys are players. Like what do you expect? Lol Edited December 22, 2013 by Revolver
Mrlonelyone Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 No offense but I will never understand why women get surprised when "good looking smart charming funny" guys are players. Like what do you expect? Lol Most likely they see a man that makes them horny and think good things because he is attractive. All humans of it.
gaius Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 It's probably already your fault in his mind. Why would he feel bad for something that's your fault? 1
greenfairie Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 It's probably already your fault in his mind. Why would he feel bad for something that's your fault? That's true. My ex bf often put the blame on me for the entire break up since I was the one that "instigated" it but he was full of bull****. Even before the breakup, he talked about how he felt like there was something that needed a change or questioned if we should have taken a break or not. That feeling of him not caring about my feelings happened sometimes over those years of our relationship and I finally got fed up, blew up, and said, It's over! I was so upset and numb for so long after that, I medicated with large quantities of marijuana and pretty much pushed everyone away. Every time he met up with me after that, he'd always try to be nice, inviting me over and out on dates, question if we can get back together then after a while he got A LOT more cold than usual. In every conversation, he would always say Remember what you did. This is what you did. You did this. I was just like wtf.. dumbfounded. I just sat there quiet and felt stupid afterwards for not speaking up and cussing his stupid ass out. But maybe he was right, it was really my fault?? It kind of sucks when guys make you feel like that. Like it takes two to tango.. not just one person, guys..
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