Drunk ex said incredibly hurtful things

[CNE181]

I am currently stuck living with my ex due to financial reasons. We aren't friends, and we don't really talk, but things have still been okay. No real drama. The other night, he went to hang out with his friend and got really drunk. His friend calls me at 2:30 am saying how my ex was drunk and being really emotional, and that he (my ex) had somehow wandered off in the neighborhood. Not wanting something bad to happen to him, I get up to go look for him and he's outside our front door. He comes in, his foot bleeding (I assume he fell somewhere outside), and since he's in terrible shape I offer to help him get cleaned up. That's where the sh** hit the fan. He goes off on this rant saying incredibly hurtful things to me. He starts off saying that I ignore him and he hates that I don't say hi or bye or really talk to him. That he wants to talk all the time to me (quote "I want to tell you when I see cool things I think you'd like, like hey babe, I saw this cool thing that I knew you'd like") but that I act like he doesn't exist. Then he switches it up and says that he's been trying hard to get me to hate him so I can move on. I told him that I had already moved on. Then he tells me I am to blame for our breakup, that I broke up with him (he officially ended things) and to forget about him. The breakup happened almost three months ago, and to be honest, I had really moved on from it. This however really hurt and I am confused as to why he would still be harboring all these feelings and thoughts three months down the line. He waited almost 2 days and finally apologized today saying he doesn't remember what he said. He also apologized for being an ass during the relationship (which I don't know why he is just now doing).

[Why so consistent]

sounds like an excuses to me that he don't remember anything because he drunk ? i never drunk in my life because i don't drink but i took care a lot of drunk's friend and they remember not clearly but still some problem that put on me , if u have already move on do not go back ever and it might come back again to you with the drunk issue .

[CNE181]

He remembered me trying to help him get cleaned up but says that he doesn't remember what he said to me and thanked me for trying to help. He wanted to know what he said exactly so he could apologize for it completely or whatever, but I told him it was better that he didn't know, and it is. I figure it is better for him to be oblivious, but he says he'll still feel guilty. Either way, I'm not telling and I told him to just forget about it.

[headinthecloud]

Just because he ended things doesn't mean he doesn't love you, he just knows that you're incompatible and that you have no long term future together. Living together is horrible, neither of you are really moving on if you see each other daily and ignoring one another - pretending the other doesn't exist when you see them - ugh, brutal from an emotional aspect.

 

Leave it be. Forgive what happened and please hurry and stop living with each other. It's not fair to either of you. You're both hurting from the failure of the RS. Even if you have moved on (accepted its over), a daily reminder is torture. I'm so sorry for you both.

[JDPT]

never take it to heart, special when alcohol I is involved.

[HeartbrokenNewbie]

Im with JPDT I have said and been on the receiving end of drunken rants honestly dont take it to heart... alcohol is a b*tch x Ive not meant a word of things Ive said when Ive been intoxicated! x

[Haydn]

I think it depend on how `rat arsed` you get. A few drinks and self reflection is not a bad thing. 12 drinks a mobile phone and thats pretty dangerous. If i go for a beer, i am always with friends it helps. My ex would get hugely drunk and then say the most unbelievable things. Best to steer clear of the `sauce` if you are feeling weak