spiderowl Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 I go to a staff restaurant at work quite regularly. I went there a few months back and there were few spaces so I ended up sitting opposite a guy. We got talking and he was at my workplace (it's a huge workplace) doing project work (building/design). I made an effort to talk to him but he was hard work so next time I went to the restaurant I wasn't in any hurry to sit with him again. Now it seems whenever I go there and he comes in after me, he ends up sitting close or in a direct line to me so if I look up he's there. One time, I sat on a two-person table in the corner and he came and sat at a two-person table nearby which practically imposed on my space (it was the way they'd arranged the tables that day, not very spaced out). I thought fair enough, the guy's eating in the same restaurant, we're bound to see a bit of each other, but now I'm beginning to feel annoyed when I see him because he's always there somehow. I'm not sure if I'm imagining this or if he's positioning himself so that I will see him, but it's bugging me. Why would someone do that anyway if it's fairly clear I'm not making an effort to sit with him and chat to him?
CrystalCastles Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 I wouldn't worry about it. If he's interested, he'll do something about it. If he happens to sit next to you, try talking to him again.
Author spiderowl Posted January 4, 2014 Author Posted January 4, 2014 Thanks for your reply. It's bugging me because I don't really want to engage with him or talk to him again. I'd be polite of course, but I'd just rather he kept away.
BlametheIrish Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 So, he likes you and you find that creepy... Awesome,.. What is a guy to do this day in age? You're damned if you do and damned if you don't. No the op tried making conversation with him initially but found it difficult and displeasing so she chose to not sit by him again. If he,is actually trying to sit by her time and time again and trying to get her to.notice him then he isnt creepy he just picks up his dating cues from high school boys. If I sit by her enough times tgen shes bound to talk to me again. Maybe if I stare at her when shes not looking it will get her attention, lol. You sure do paint a dour picture with your words. Sound like a woman hater
Author spiderowl Posted January 4, 2014 Author Posted January 4, 2014 I would have thought it was obvious to him I wasn't interested, if I sat somewhere else all the time. He even seems to be nearby when I'm sitting and talking to a female friend of mine that I lunch with sometimes. I almost feel like he's evesdropping. I'm trying not to feel irritated by it, but I've avoided catching his eye because I don't want to encourage him and yet every time I look up there he is!
Mrlonelyone Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 Your not reading to much into it. I'll bet he is positioning himself on purpose (maybe not even knowingly) so you can see him. Maybe he just likes to look at you.
mrs rubble Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 I would have thought it was obvious to him I wasn't interested, if I sat somewhere else all the time. He even seems to be nearby when I'm sitting and talking to a female friend of mine that I lunch with sometimes. I almost feel like he's evesdropping. I'm trying not to feel irritated by it, but I've avoided catching his eye because I don't want to encourage him and yet every time I look up there he is! Talk loudly about or on the phone to -your "boyfriend" everytime you see him till he goes away. 1
Author spiderowl Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 Thanks very much for your comments. I guess it bugs me a bit but it's not a big deal. I can't imagine why he would want to look at me, but maybe he's bored, lol. Actually, the suggestion about chatting to my 'boyfriend' sounds good - I might try that Now I just need a boyfriend. 1
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