BrunetteBabe1005 Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 This is a different guy, if you have been following my posts, but he always expressed that he liked me. He did show jealousy of other guys, but it wasn't that bad, but it seems to be worse now. Like I never had sex with him, but I helped him out a lot when he was stranded, his problems, other situations etc. He seemed appreciative of me, and he always called and or texted me a lot, but he was starting to decrease in texting and calling me, and I was going through a period with him where he barely talked to me. However, I saw him in November and he was really drunk and he said "You are my girl" Well recently I did a favor for him I picked him up when he was stranded, and I said to him that I have 100% loyalty to him but I have 100% loyalty to all of my friends. I even said that, and ever since that he has acted creepier with me. He is touching me more, he is calling me more, texting me more, and I told him that some of my friends were mad at me for talking to him, and so he posted on Facebook saying that he is engaged to me and that we're having a baby. It was all fun and games, but he is literally acting like I am his girlfriend. He even walked in my house and said to my mom "Meet your new son in law!" He hugged me and said "Do you feel my boner fiancé" I laughed, but he is acting like we are in a relationship without Facebook, and he even said to me "We should drag this out and I should take you to a bridal store and I'll take a pic of you in a bride dress, and I'll take you to like a Zales and take a pic of you with a engagement ring on your finger" Like, it's funny, but he is seems to be more possessive of me or something, like he texted me at midnight on Friday night, and said "I hope you aren't doing drugs and having a orgy" I LOL'D at that, but I think he is joking on a square. He also texted me again cause I didn't respond, at like 10:30 the next morning saying "I hope you weren't at a punk rock concert with a bunch of weird dudes" Like it's getting strong, and a little too much, and I don't understand? I don't know if I should be worried? or if he is just infatuated/ has a crush on me. I don't know if this behavior is dangerous? Tell me your thoughts, thank you.
rockmanmegaman Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Okay, at first when i read your post, I thought he's just an insecure person who thought of you as his best friend. Insecure people or anyone tend to get angry when they feel that their friend is leaving them out. Anyway, as I read further, it seems like he just doesn't know his boundaries. Have you told him that he's being to invasive and that you don't like that behaviours? If you did, and he's still doing it, then just avoid him.
preraph Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 ^Yeah, I do think he's going to be a problem with not taking no. He's "joking" to see how far you'll let him act like you belong to him. You probably need to really think about whether he can handle just being friends and I'm thinking at some point you'll have to say no and get away from him if he doesn't move on to someone else. By the way, keep introducing him to other females and maybe he'll get distracted. Not anyone you really like though. Hah.
natwilliams Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Yeah seriously have you thought about introducing him to other girls? Im gonna go out on a limb and say you havent because on a very small way you might be a teeny bit jealous if it were to work out with one of your friends? So you have to also be willing to grow out of this and let him find other girls. Offer to be his wing at a party, invite him to your girl night events, etc. dont stoke the fire anymore because guys spend a lot of time thinking about texts. So every text convo you have with him is one less he could be having with a new prospect. Think about it. Its not as easy for guys as with attractive girls which i am guessing you are by this situation.
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