Why so consistent Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 She message me 3hours ago after she notice that I bought something for her while we still in contact , and I just say to her i wanna talk to her tonight about how I carefully and been thinking in the past 2 day with no contact with her. Should I say the thing from my heart that how I wanna change and get my crap straight or any advices from u guys ? Since she let me call her tonight . And she state it clear 3 days ago and mind straight because I always push thing... Thank you guys
Zoe Lilith Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 I wouldn't talk to her. She will use you as her "doormat", walk all over you all over again, and then say that you were too pushy and she couldn't handle it...Seriously consider what is it that YOU want and what is the best thing for YOU. 2
Author Why so consistent Posted December 21, 2013 Author Posted December 21, 2013 I wouldn't talk to her. She will use you as her "doormat", walk all over you all over again, and then say that you were too pushy and she couldn't handle it...Seriously consider what is it that YOU want and what is the best thing for YOU. Sorry my English is bad , I mean she state it clear that don't want anything from me anymore because I promise not to push thing but I did .
Zoe Lilith Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 Sorry my English is bad , I mean she state it clear that don't want anything from me anymore because I promise not to push thing but I did . Don't contact her, remain no contact..There is no point of having any conversation or discussions 2
chris21422 Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 Yea man it doesn't work like that. You still want her she doesn't. You just gonna make it hard for yourself. 2
flitzanu Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Sorry my English is bad , I mean she state it clear that don't want anything from me anymore because I promise not to push thing but I did . pay attention to what she is saying. she's telling you she doesn't want anything from you, so all you do from here on out isn't going to change that. 1
Author Why so consistent Posted December 22, 2013 Author Posted December 22, 2013 pay attention to what she is saying. she's telling you she doesn't want anything from you, so all you do from here on out isn't going to change that. yeah thanks zoe , chris and flitz but im stubborn guy and i did talk to her about everything. And now all the thing i wanna tell is done and she said "now all i will give u is time and nothing else from me" the reason why she said that because i really lost myself during the time i date her , she tell me to hang out with friend dinner with company and i didn't just went home be with her all the time over thinking and control. does that mean this will effect how i change ? im not gonna lie what happen today is really because what i constant did it to her in the pass year , by proving myself will change ? since she said give me time to change myself .
chris21422 Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 The thing is she will give you time to change yourself.. those things doesn't really work man.. Problems will just pop up over and over again. It's a temporary fix If you want to change for the best.. Do it for yourself not for her man.. You do that by being apart with her and working on yourself. You can't do that if she's around. also what if she meet someone else while she's waiting for you to change? we never know man. It's also good that you are changing for yourself not for someone else. yeah thanks zoe , chris and flitz but im stubborn guy and i did talk to her about everything. And now all the thing i wanna tell is done and she said "now all i will give u is time and nothing else from me" the reason why she said that because i really lost myself during the time i date her , she tell me to hang out with friend dinner with company and i didn't just went home be with her all the time over thinking and control. does that mean this will effect how i change ? im not gonna lie what happen today is really because what i constant did it to her in the pass year , by proving myself will change ? since she said give me time to change myself .
Author Why so consistent Posted December 22, 2013 Author Posted December 22, 2013 The thing is she will give you time to change yourself.. those things doesn't really work man.. Problems will just pop up over and over again. It's a temporary fix If you want to change for the best.. Do it for yourself not for her man.. You do that by being apart with her and working on yourself. You can't do that if she's around. also what if she meet someone else while she's waiting for you to change? we never know man. It's also good that you are changing for yourself not for someone else. yes chris i already understand all the situation about these and i have decide myself from next week on spend more time with friend and out door instead of more into her , im not holding up any hope and yes i do it for myself and not for her since we are LDR there will no engage problem (because i clearly know what's my problem and i need to get rid it this for my sake). weather she's gonna take me back or not i already take this NO HOPE relationship just chinese ppl like me are stupid stubborn always born to fight instead of move on.
chris21422 Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Good to hear man. wish you all the best!!
flitzanu Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 there is nothing wrong with you wanting to fight and be stubborn about it, we are just telling you that in this case, it probably is not going to help. she is telling you to back off, and give her space, and you have to listen to her. if you keep pushing her, she is really going to disappear for good. 1
Author Why so consistent Posted December 23, 2013 Author Posted December 23, 2013 there is nothing wrong with you wanting to fight and be stubborn about it, we are just telling you that in this case, it probably is not going to help. she is telling you to back off, and give her space, and you have to listen to her. if you keep pushing her, she is really going to disappear for good. Yeah flitz , Zoe already give me her answer and I'm done with her now I'm ready to move on also NC is really needed for heal ? I mean completely delete her and stuff because I believe myself once I wanna let and I will also u believe we can be friend those kind of line ? Just curious
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