gregt10 Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 Hi all, 1st post here & its a long one so apologies..! Your opinions would be welcome! I've worked with a girl at work now for just over a year, we have always got on pretty well. The past couple of months we have become much closer, to the extent that we have been out together 2 times now. She just seems happy whenever she sees me, always the first to say hi with a great smile.. Always loves to tease me with cheeky little comments which she knows will make me laugh. She was the one to get my phone number and also text me first, she was the one who wanted to organise when and where. We were out together for 6/7 hours both nights, having a laugh, full of talk.. she also got very touchy with me during these 2 nights (holding / stroking my hand / waist, even my hair!). Called me various names including cute & also told me a lot about her and her family. She also has a nickname for me which she uses every now and again, again just to wind me up. (i think) We do get a few comments at work of people commenting about the fact that they tease us about each other. The last time we went out was 2 weeks ago & while it has been mentioned by both myself and her that we need to do it again (both seem up for it) it hasnt happened, mainly due to her being "busy". To be fair, she works 2 jobs, does various things after work and I do know that she is busy. When we are texting each other, it is never a simple answer, it is always a answer which is full of questions, she likes to use emoticons and faces a lot in the texts. Although she does takes a while to reply, could this be because she is thinking about what she is writing?) Things she does which makes me feel like she does like me more than just a friend: - She is full of laughter, (laughs at basically everything i say) - Playfully teases me - Smiles whenever she sees me and whenever i catch her looking at me. - Tries to catch my attention when she is near me. - Long eye contact between us - Always seems interested in what i am up to & who with - Always willing to get close to me (especially when we were out together) - She seems to want to see me again.. but timing is difficult with our lives at the moment. (brings up the topic) - Has actually introduced me to her mother (is this a good thing? - was the first night we were out together) - Starts random conversations so that we talk to each other (dont get much chance to talk at work so it seems that whenever we are near each other she seems interested) - when we went out, its clear to see that she put a lot of effort in to look great. - she flirts But then there are also a few things which make me feel like she is just being nice.. - She is a nice person.. she is kind and smiles at other people also - "busy" like i said, i know that she is busy. But surely if she was interested she would try her best to make time to see me, even if it was only for a short time? - texting.. i know this isnt a major thing but she takes a while to reply (think im looking too much into this) - we (mainly me but she has also asked about this) have tried to organise the next time we go out but it hasn't happened as of yet. Do you guys think there is anything in this? or am i just a friend to her. She is a very attractive girl, I've always found her attractive, most guys would to be honest. but I've never thought of her as being anything more until the recent times when we have gotten closer. But the more i have gotten to know her the more i have started to like her. Just trying to figure out where i stand, so any comments would be good. (positive / negative) Comment ahead.. Thanks, Greg.
Versacehottie Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 i don't think those signals are mixed. She likes you 1
Author gregt10 Posted December 21, 2013 Author Posted December 21, 2013 thanks, that's nice to know! another thing which i previously forgot to mention was i do have to start 2/3 of the conversations we have when we are texting each other. (in person is different) but surely that is normal? - guys have to the the majority of the ground work .. The main thing which is making me feel unsure is when she says she is busy. (she does give a reason but still..) surely if she does like me, (i know this is a busy period) then she would do her most to see me? even if it is only for a short time. I do see her most days at work, but i thought she would want to spend time together...
CrystalCastles Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 But then there are also a few things which make me feel like she is just being nice.. - She is a nice person.. she is kind and smiles at other people also - "busy" like i said, i know that she is busy. But surely if she was interested she would try her best to make time to see me, even if it was only for a short time? - texting.. i know this isnt a major thing but she takes a while to reply (think im looking too much into this) - we (mainly me but she has also asked about this) have tried to organise the next time we go out but it hasn't happened as of yet. Do you guys think there is anything in this? or am i just a friend to her. None of these things are even remotely issues. She's obviously interested in you so get on it! Before she changes her mind because she starts thinking you're too much of a pansy. I would never ask a guy for his number unless I was really into him. 2
Versacehottie Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 thanks, that's nice to know! another thing which i previously forgot to mention was i do have to start 2/3 of the conversations we have when we are texting each other. (in person is different) but surely that is normal? - guys have to the the majority of the ground work .. The main thing which is making me feel unsure is when she says she is busy. (she does give a reason but still..) surely if she does like me, (i know this is a busy period) then she would do her most to see me? even if it is only for a short time. I do see her most days at work, but i thought she would want to spend time together... I think that she lets you start most of the conversations is normal. I would do the same thing. About being busy, are you being specific when you ask her to do things? Specific in terms of date, time. If you are just being vague or open about it, then I understand her response. She may not want to seem too available, same as with letting you initiate texting conversations. She may be particularly cautious because you work together and want to let it start a little slower. How did you make those two times you went out alone happen? 1
Author gregt10 Posted December 22, 2013 Author Posted December 22, 2013 I think that she lets you start most of the conversations is normal. I would do the same thing. About being busy, are you being specific when you ask her to do things? Specific in terms of date, time. If you are just being vague or open about it, then I understand her response. She may not want to seem too available, same as with letting you initiate texting conversations. She may be particularly cautious because you work together and want to let it start a little slower. How did you make those two times you went out alone happen? the first time she text me asking when we were going to be going out. (we had mentioned the idea at work but it was only a brief suggestion whilst passing by each other at work) so i responded asking when she was free the following week, she suggested a couple of days so we went out on one of those days. the second time we spoke at work a little more, again, both suggesting that we go out again for a second time. i text her after work asking if she would like to go out again sometime soon and asked if she was free at all the relevant week. (she was working her 2nd job so i didnt see the point of ringing her as i knew she wouldn't be able to answer). she replied later that night saying she could do a certain day but only that day, so after she had some family things to do we went out again. Recently, again we have been speaking about going out again at work. (more of her asking me rather than me asking her in person). I responded to her that if she let me know what days she was free then we could organise something, she suggested she might be able to do a couple of days but "i will have to let you know" so i understood as i've said, i know just how busy she is. i text her asking if she knew if she could make any of the suggested days and she said that she couldn't and then suggested that we could do the next week possibly. (this being the week just gone). so i said ok, again.. let me know what days you could do and we could try to organise something, last week being the same in that she couldn't make it due to her being too busy at this moment in time. Suggested that we could go out saturday if she has got all of her things done in time for xmas. called her yesterday and she said that she just couldnt make it as she had soo much to do for xmas still. (yet she seemed happy to hear my voice) But she did promise that she would be more free after xmas so we could go then. could she just be really busy or is there something else involved here?
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