liloldlady Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 I am deeply in love with my ex, and sometimes he's open to communicate with me, other times, not so much. Last week, he told me he's going vegetarian as one of his New Year's resolutions. This man had never had a veggie burger until I came into his life (and subsequently, kitchen) Imagine my delight when after a period of estrangement, he said he still buys the veggie patties and describes to me how he prepares them. He's mumbled sometimes "I took your advice and..." on other matters as well. I think he thinks of me a lot more than he lets on. Compound our complication with distance. Long distance relationship. Our first time around, I travelled to him 98% of the time (he's a workaholic who needs to be close to home base). I think I should start travelling to his town on the weekends, give myself a mini vacation and if he wants to, he can come and take a study break with me Am I imagining his upcoming vegetarianism vow has something to do with me? This man was a hardcore carnivore, ate things I never have...!!! Thoughts? Congratulation sentiments also welcome, LOL.
2fargone Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 You imagine too much. It will result in hurt. Unless he sais he's doing it for you, don't assume. I have changed aswell, thanks to my ex. It doesn't mean I want her back, it just means I have come to some conclusions thanks to her having been part of my life. Basicly, you still want it too much, create expectations, and we all know what that leads to.... Dont do it.. 1
Author liloldlady Posted December 21, 2013 Author Posted December 21, 2013 You imagine too much. It will result in hurt. Booo.... Hope you're wrong. I have changed aswell, thanks to my ex. It doesn't mean I want her back Well, yeah, ex & I have a lot of history. I wouldn't blame him for one heartbeat if we don't get happily married: his decision. He's in a position (opportunity, we both agree) to forgive a lot in his process of spiritual evolution right now. We have discussed this. This does not happen overnight. What will be will be, but I will always keep his best interests at heart to the best of my ability. Love him. Basicly, you still want it too much, create expectations, Not quite, but thanks for your feedback. Dont do it.. Don't do what? OK, thanks.
FitChick Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 If you are doing most of the traveling, he should pay half of your expenses. Why don't you live in the same town? Who plans to move where? 1
Author liloldlady Posted December 21, 2013 Author Posted December 21, 2013 (edited) If you are doing most of the traveling, he should pay half of your expenses. He's rich. I can't have him think I want him for his money. Last week I mentioned how I think he likes the business side of me. And he said... I LOVE it. He says: "I know you're a business woman." He loves it. Yay!! Why don't you live in the same town? Who plans to move where? We're so not even there yet. And I know he needs to be where it's quiet. And he said of the town I presently live in, his hometown, I'd have to "convince" him to come back here so -- I will move. I really don't care where we are. I just want to know if we're compatible so...time shall tell! Edited December 21, 2013 by liloldlady
FitChick Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 He's rich. I can't have him think I want him for his money. I've dated rich men. They've paid for my travel if they wanted to see me. Otherwise, I could not have afforded to see them. We are talking plane fare. Nothing to do with being a golddigger, just a practical matter. Rich men don't really care as much as poor people think they do. Keep that in mind if you are strapped for cash. "I really can't afford to see you now because my car needs a new radiator, I need car insurance, medical insurance, buy xyz for work, " whatever. Why should you do all the work and pay all the expense? If he made the same amount of money as you do, you wouldn't like it, but he's rich and can afford it and you can't. Not a very equitable relationship.
Keenly Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 You are projecting your inner feelings onto him.
Author liloldlady Posted January 24, 2014 Author Posted January 24, 2014 Why should you do all the work and pay all the expense? If he made the same amount of money as you do, you wouldn't like it, but he's rich and can afford it and you can't. Not a very equitable relationship. I hear you, girl. I don't know if he's found me on this website or not (highly unlikely) but he made a point of telling me recently: I'm not rich. Like, he said it twice. That being said, I'm still going to go out to his town in a couple of months and have me a blast at the resort, whether he joins me or not. (But he said he's looking forward to seeing me.) Thanks for your feedback!!
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