andycraig Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 Basically I was with my ex for 3 and a half years, bought a house tgether etc, we used to be so happy and in love, we started having silly fall outs, she said I became grumpy, went to work one day and by txt she said it was all over, got home that night she had transfered money to my account, I stayed at the house that night she stayed at her mums, the next night she went out got drunk and slept with a stranger and came home with him ringing her etc, then I was pretty much forced out the house into a flat I didn't want to live in, I lost my job, girlfriend, cheated on, and my house all within 3 days... since then we spoke on and off, then I slept with her one night, 3 weeks later she went on the holiday alone that we booked and met a guy who she travelled 3 hours to go and see and sleep with wen she got back home, I didn't know about this till after, I left her alone then she contacted me after 5 weeks to basically say she's with a new guy, again left her 4 weeks later she rang me up saying she ad been thinking of me, I fell fr it she came round that night we ad sex all night she txt the guy she was seeing and ended it.. she said I was the only guy she wanted, got back together lasted 2 months nows she's ended it again, 3 wk bfore xmas, and now shes not contacting me cos she said its better for me.... so she's calling all the shots, shw said she will be single for the next 9 month to get over us properly..... i I'm a really nice guy and she's hurting me so badly, wot should I do to let go or at least turn the tables in my favour... she won.. worst thing is I love her
Kevin_D Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 she won.. Dude, the only thing that she "won" is the reputation of being a cold-hearted, narcissistic slut. Be proud that you are a better than that. You know you deserve better than that. The thing I've realised is that it doesn't really matter if you want her back or not. The only way to turn the tables is to become a confident and indepedent, so that she realises that she should be the one worrying about losing you. The good thing about this is that it's also the best way to attract other women. So there's really only one thing you can do: Work to create happiness on your own. She'll probably be back one day, but my guess is that you don't want her back when it happens. 2
2fargone Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 This isn't about winning. You saying that makes it an ego-thing. She might have genuinely reached a point where she started thinking about herself and her feelings. Then again, it might all be bull**** and she is seeing someone else again. Point being, at this point in life at least she is no good for you. There is nothing wrong with loving someone. Yet loving someone also sometimes means you have to be able to let her go. She might come around some day but it won't be soon and you should try and live like it will never happen.
aero2008 Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Dude, the only thing that she "won" is the reputation of being a cold-hearted, narcissistic slut. Be proud that you are a better than that. You know you deserve better than that. The thing I've realised is that it doesn't really matter if you want her back or not. The only way to turn the tables is to become a confident and indepedent, so that she realises that she should be the one worrying about losing you. The good thing about this is that it's also the best way to attract other women. So there's really only one thing you can do: Work to create happiness on your own. She'll probably be back one day, but my guess is that you don't want her back when it happens. Thanks for this. This really seems to be true of my situation as well.
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