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Came home from tour in Afghanistan and my girlfriend is with somebody new.

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Well as the title says, I finished my final tour of duty in Afghanistan were I was for 6 months and my girlfriend and I were sending each other letters and the occasional phone call, we had been together for 4 years. On the day I was returning home I called her to tell her that I had to do guard duties in Buckingham Palace in London. She then told me she would drive down to London to meet me, during my break I called her to see where she was. She told me that her mother had fallen sick and she couldn't make it so I thought fair enough and I told her that I would be home for Christmas.

 

At the end of my guard duties in London for 2 months I made my way up to North England which is a 5 hour train ride from London where I lived with my girlfriend just outside of the countryside and it was 2:00am in the morning and I have to walk over a huge field in the dark and cold carrying my bags which I had been on tour in Afghan with so I knocked on the door and there was a man with her, so I asked who he was and she told me that he was just a friend who had been keeping her company for 8 months while I was away fighting a war. Not satisfied I carried on questioning her for her to then turn around and tell me that they are dating and she no longer wanted to be with me simply because I am a soldier and I am always away and she didn't like the fact that I was apparently 'killing innocent civilians for oil' which her now boyfriend had been filling her head with bull**** information. I then lost my temper and got into a fight with her now boyfriend. She called the police and after I told them what happened they then took me to my parents house were I am now living and spending Christmas with before I return back to London for parade ceremonial duties for the New Year.

 

Not only that but during my first month in Afghanistan I lost my brother in a road side bomb in a patrol who went before us, now I have lost a brother for Christmas now my ex girlfriend who I loved and bought her a present for.

 

Can anybody give me some advice or tell me what to do?

 

Thanks.

HeartbrokenNewbie Established Member

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Oh man that's harsh :-( x there's not a lot u can do but cut her out completely & try to enjoy Christmas with your family x u will get through this x

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I feel for you mate, what you been though, what you are doing. But let her go and go No contact. You must respect her decision and dont get baited by this other guy. Ignore and you will come through it. You have gone through harder ****! Guards Division? Take care.

 

 

 

Well as the title says, I finished my final tour of duty in Afghanistan were I was for 6 months and my girlfriend and I were sending each other letters and the occasional phone call, we had been together for 4 years. On the day I was returning home I called her to tell her that I had to do guard duties in Buckingham Palace in London. She then told me she would drive down to London to meet me, during my break I called her to see where she was. She told me that her mother had fallen sick and she couldn't make it so I thought fair enough and I told her that I would be home for Christmas.

 

At the end of my guard duties in London for 2 months I made my way up to North England which is a 5 hour train ride from London where I lived with my girlfriend just outside of the countryside and it was 2:00am in the morning and I have to walk over a huge field in the dark and cold carrying my bags which I had been on tour in Afghan with so I knocked on the door and there was a man with her, so I asked who he was and she told me that he was just a friend who had been keeping her company for 8 months while I was away fighting a war. Not satisfied I carried on questioning her for her to then turn around and tell me that they are dating and she no longer wanted to be with me simply because I am a soldier and I am always away and she didn't like the fact that I was apparently 'killing innocent civilians for oil' which her now boyfriend had been filling her head with bull**** information. I then lost my temper and got into a fight with her now boyfriend. She called the police and after I told them what happened they then took me to my parents house were I am now living and spending Christmas with before I return back to London for parade ceremonial duties for the New Year.

 

Not only that but during my first month in Afghanistan I lost my brother in a road side bomb in a patrol who went before us, now I have lost a brother for Christmas now my ex girlfriend who I loved and bought her a present for.

 

Can anybody give me some advice or tell me what to do?

 

Thanks.

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anglosaxon New Member

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I feel for you mate, what you been though, what you are doing. But let her go and go No contact. You must respect her decision and dont get baited by this other guy. Ignore and you will come through it. You have gone through harder ****! Guards Division? Take care.

 

Cheers mate, appreciate it. And yeah, Coldstream Guards mate.

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Guards division is the bollocks mate. keep up the great work and dont f...... contact her! Try to have a quiet relaxing xmas, catch up with the squadies for a jar or 2. But stay away from her!

 

 

Cheers mate, appreciate it. And yeah, Coldstream Guards mate.
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anglosaxon New Member

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Guards division is the bollocks mate. keep up the great work and dont f...... contact her! Try to have a quiet relaxing xmas, catch up with the squadies for a jar or 2. But stay away from her!

 

Thanks for the kind comments Hadyn much appreciated. I'll take it all in to prevent any trouble or her showing signs that I'm jealous and still interested in her. Thanks again!

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What a b*tch. Good riddance. Sorry about your loses. NC all the way. Cav

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I am so very sorry for your losses. I can't imagine what you and your family are going thru. I also want to say a huge THANK YOU from way over here in the USA, for your service to your country and to Global freedom.

 

Hold on to your family and your self. This woman didn't love you, and as much as that hurts now it also means you can move forward and that movement will bring the RIGHT woman closer to you. Dont contact her. She squandered her chance.

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Wow. First, as an English man i want to say thank you so much for you courageous and brave services sir. Im so sorry to hear about your brother dying man, thats god awful.

 

What your girlfriend has just done to you is un ****ing real! And i hope you slapped the **** out of that new guy.

 

You are a real man, a hero, and that dumb bitch just cheated on you and left you for some hippy dip****?

 

I know its very hard man, but i think you gotta be the bigger man now and walk away. Those two idiots deserve eachother. Let them go tree hugging or whatever it is they want to do.

 

I suggest you go strict no contact and dont look back. You are worth a million times more than those two put together.

 

You have done your country and country men proud. Hold your head up high. She aint worthy of you bro.

 

Sorry to hear your pain.

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How you doing today m8?

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Hey brother, you don't want be with a girl who isn't committed to you. You're brave and can survive. She's a coward and is too weak to live on her own. I doubt she even likes the new guy and is just using him for her own needs of being afraid of being alone.

 

Just remember you stood by her while you were in the sh*t with RPGS, fear of Green on blue helping the ANA and police who are sometimes worse than the Taliban, and the worst IEDs. She couldn't handle you being away and got to be all cozy in her place back home, while you ran the possibility of dying.

 

I was with my ex for a long time and and I'm in the US Army. I found out I got into Pilot School which I will gone for over a year, and got dumped a week after I found it. Its tough to lose a girl to the military, bc there's nothing much you can do.

 

Just try to remember that you're back in England and not in the 'Stan. I'm sorry for all the trauma you have had to endure. Its definitely the toughest part of the profession. Especially with people at home pretty much not doing anything to support the troops. (in the US its mainly just people with "Support our Troops" bumper stickers on their cars, and they go about their daily lives.

 

I highly suggest sticking as close as you can to your deployment buddies, and living it up in London.

 

Going through a tough breakup is almost like a deployment (nothing is really like a deployment), You're stuck in a sh*tty place you don't want to be, its a rough couple of months, the first few are the hardest, then you start to see the light at the end.

 

And seriously you probably dodged a bullet with her, shes the other guys problem now, I'm sorry her true colors were shown to you in such a terrible way and at a tough time.

 

I wish you the best and thank you for your service.

 

From an officer on the same team across the pond.

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Wow, what happened to you completely sucks.

 

She is a completely and utter absolute bitch. She is not worthy to be in your life.

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