confusedsoul14 Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 Hey everybody! Recently, I have started to really like a guy, and it's my first time that I tried to communicate and get closer to the guy I like. When I started to learn more about him, I started falling for him even more because he has a lot of good qualities other than his good looks... Things were going great and I thought he was showing interest in me too. Then, suddenly a mutual friend told me she likes him a lot and she made her moves so fast that within months she became even closer to him than I was. Now, I think they are almost in a relationship and a lot of people are starting to notice them too. At the beginning, he seemed unsure and was sending me mixed signals. But now I think he is ignoring me altogether and is very happy with the other girl. This is being very painful for me and I don't even know what I should do! We belong to the same group of friends, so avoiding them is not always a good option. So what should I do? Should I try to remain friends with them or should I completely throw them out of my life. I'm really good at hiding my feelings and when we hang out in groups, noone can tell that seeing him with somebody else kills me from inside. I really want to stay friends with him atleast! Is it a good idea or will it only hurt me as usual? Please, help me think! Coz honestly I think it's only me who has been completely victimised by this situation
d0nnivain Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 The situation you are in is tough. I'd keep an eye on your so called friend because I see her as a man stealer. If she knew you liked this guy, she should have backed off. Because you & the guy weren't dating other people may disagree with me. That said, you have to let their relationship run it's course. You can distance yourself from them but I wouldn't throw them out of your life. You do all have mutual friends, so you could end up isolating yourself. If you have feelings for him, staying friends with him will be very painful. I'd avoid that. Really what are you going to do, give him advice about dating her? Yuck. 1
Author confusedsoul14 Posted December 21, 2013 Author Posted December 21, 2013 The situation you are in is tough. I'd keep an eye on your so called friend because I see her as a man stealer. If she knew you liked this guy, she should have backed off. Because you & the guy weren't dating other people may disagree with me. That said, you have to let their relationship run it's course. You can distance yourself from them but I wouldn't throw them out of your life. You do all have mutual friends, so you could end up isolating yourself. If you have feelings for him, staying friends with him will be very painful. I'd avoid that. Really what are you going to do, give him advice about dating her? Yuck. Yes really! Yuck! Well, you see my friend doesn't know that I like him too. So she is just following her heart maybe? I wanted to tell her the very day she told me. But, of course, I chose to hide my feelings instead... What hurts me the most is that I have to pretend that I'm happy for them when I am not. And I can't even blame the guy for anything because we didn't even get to start dating or anything. I can't blame my friend either because she doesn't even know I like him. She is so desperate to be his girlfriend that she doesn't even leave his side for a second. So, now if I try to do anything, people will call me a man stealer not her Really! How should I act in front of them? How much should I distant myself so that I still get to know what's going on between them without getting too involved?
Author confusedsoul14 Posted December 21, 2013 Author Posted December 21, 2013 And thanks for the reply!
d0nnivain Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 Reach out to other friends & spend time with them. Change the subject when she talks about him. 2
Author confusedsoul14 Posted December 21, 2013 Author Posted December 21, 2013 Thanks a lot. I will keep that in mind
stillafool Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 Did you tell this friend of yours first that you were interested in this guy romantically?
stillafool Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 Nevermind, I saw your answer. No, you can't blame your friend because she had no idea that you liked him too. I guess at this point all seems fair and you will just have to move along. Hopefully you will meet another really cool guy soon. 1
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