maskison Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 When I first began talking to MM he told me he did a lot of fantasizing online. Does that mean a porn addiction? I'm nervous to bring it up because I don't want him to think I'm being judgmental. I've told him that if he is just looking to meet someone to screw around with then he can just be honest about that and not pretend that he has "feelings" for me (lack of trust on my part is obvious). Is it possible that this is just what he does? Maybe he meets women online and appeals to them emotionally so that he can get laid? Could he really put that much effort into it that he would exchange hundreds of emails every day? He says I'm different but...am I really??
happy stillmore Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 I understand why you be leery of this mm's intentions. He does seem to be fitted on sex if he admitted to his online activities. My gut tells me he is a player. Go with your gut.
Author maskison Posted December 21, 2013 Author Posted December 21, 2013 I understand why you be leery of this mm's intentions. He does seem to be fitted on sex if he admitted to his online activities. My gut tells me he is a player. Go with your gut. Yes, when I said once that I had a hard time believing me his reply was "why would I just say that? It makes me sound very vulnerable..." It read a little odd to me.
whichwayisup Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 When I first began talking to MM he told me he did a lot of fantasizing online. Does that mean a porn addiction? I'm nervous to bring it up because I don't want him to think I'm being judgmental. I've told him that if he is just looking to meet someone to screw around with then he can just be honest about that and not pretend that he has "feelings" for me (lack of trust on my part is obvious). Is it possible that this is just what he does? Maybe he meets women online and appeals to them emotionally so that he can get laid? Could he really put that much effort into it that he would exchange hundreds of emails every day? He says I'm different but...am I really?? Keep in mind, your MM is lying and deceiving his wife every day while he's been having an affair with you, so if you expect 'honesty' from him you're fooling yourself. The guy sounds like a player and enjoys all the attention he gets, on and offline. May I ask why you're settling for so little? And yes, your lack of trust SHOULD be there, all things considering. Feelings or not, this guy is not worth it. I hope you find it in you to end it. 1
experiencethedevine Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 Lots of men in sexless marriages turn to porn Lots of men in very sexually active marriages turn to porn..........it becomes an addiction. 2
Popsicle Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 (edited) Some MM just fantasize online and that's it. They like having women to talk to online, whether they meet them from Facebook, or other internet sources. They chat, email, text with them, and it will be both emotional and sexual in tone, but that's where it ends. It's just talk, they don't actually have real sex together, although they talk about/make promises to do that. You can call these affairs whatever you want and attach whatever moral judgement to them that you want, but those are the facts. Some men just like to fantasize online (or on phone) and that's it. Why, you may ask? Because it feels good. They like the feelings involved, both emotional and sexual (great for masturbation). It's addicting. It's different than porn, because there's a real woman they are interacting with. Other MM like to use online resources to meet women to do the above with, except they want to, knowingly or unknowingly, take it offline, as well. In other words, they want to have a PA for real, and not just talk about it or think about it. They are willing to take the risk involved to transition to real life once they meet a woman they like online. Meeting women online is just easier and more convenient for MM because of the ease and wide exposure to women and the extreme privacy. They have a fair amount of hiding to do. I don't know which one of these categories your MM falls into. You can not know that until you actually meet and make it happen. And, by the way, these categories apply to single men online as well. Some just like fantasizing online and that's it (usually because something is very wrong with them), and some like to use online as a resource to meet people for real life relations. Edited December 21, 2013 by Popsicle
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