flight87 Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 (edited) this girl i met about 2months ago (off a dating site) i started to have feelings for her, and i could tell this from the amount i spoke about her to my friends. anyway we was hangin out, having fun, doing stuff together all that, even slept in the same bed on 2 separate occasions. we clicked really well, had alot in common, i thought was doing good. long story short: i did not tell her how i felt, as i wanted to do this in person i thought over text was not the right way to do it, id rather face to face to let a person know something like that.. anyway out of nowhere earlier in the week when i was textin her like we normally would, she says she is seeing this guy, not a relationship just yet tho, but seeing him.. it was really random. i had no idea of this and kinda shocked me.. shouldve i spoke up sooner or did i have no shot at all anyway? lol should i still say something to her before they gets serious (if she does) ? was it a test to see how i react?(do girls do this kinda thing? ahaha) Edited December 21, 2013 by flight87
salparadise Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 There really is no shudda-wudda-cudda to this. You met someone you like and she informed you that you aren't the only guy sniffin' around. It sounds sophomoric to say something like this in a text message. We don't have enough information to know if she's blowing you off, trying to create a competition, or just messing with you head... but definitely one of the above. So your option are to ask questions and figure out what the situation is, or just drop her like a hot potato and move on to someone who doesn't act like a child. Personally, I wouldn't spend another minute on someone who sent me a text like that, but it's your call. 1
Onethirtyeight Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 There really is no shudda-wudda-cudda to this. You met someone you like and she informed you that you aren't the only guy sniffin' around. It sounds sophomoric to say something like this in a text message. We don't have enough information to know if she's blowing you off, trying to create a competition, or just messing with you head... but definitely one of the above. So your option are to ask questions and figure out what the situation is, or just drop her like a hot potato and move on to someone who doesn't act like a child. Personally, I wouldn't spend another minute on someone who sent me a text like that, but it's your call. This is probably right and you have to decide if you want to put up with the last two options.
Author flight87 Posted December 22, 2013 Author Posted December 22, 2013 thanks for the replies! i kinda just want to know whats the deal, id rather know an answer to whats up than nothing, considering i like this girl (still).. she does still talk to me texting n all that, so i dunno to me it seems she is playing me or trying to see if il go after her.
Author flight87 Posted December 24, 2013 Author Posted December 24, 2013 GOT AN UPDATE!: i havent seen her for about 2 weeks now, but spoke through text couple times inbetween.. ANYWAY, today she asked me to come to her brothers house if i wasnt doing anything (which pretty much her whole family was there) and come watch movies.. i was down. so i went to her house first, we chilled for about an hour or so just us two and then we left to go the brothers. on the drive home we was just talking about random stuff, and she mentioned her new guy after i said what are you doing now when i take you home (he was going to hers to see her) i was like oh ye.. and she then told me she got told by him he loves her.. LOL i said damn, its been like a month.. i said hope works out she said she isnt fussed if they dont work out, taking it day by day, her words... anyway when we finally got back to hers, i said was good to see her and said "i know you missed me" she laughed and said i actually intended to text you a few times to catch up but things kept commin up.. i said its all good kiss on the cheek and that was it.. WHAT THE HELL?? lol... is she messing with me, making a competition OR just being a friend.. i dont think she is blowing me off why would she ask to hang out with me? i think coz she is "seeing" this guy my feelings changed a bit but still.. ANY HELP/ADVICE.
swenann991 Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 There really is no shudda-wudda-cudda to this. You met someone you like and she informed you that you aren't the only guy sniffin' around. It sounds sophomoric to say something like this in a text message. We don't have enough information to know if she's blowing you off, trying to create a competition, or just messing with you head... but definitely one of the above. So your option are to ask questions and figure out what the situation is, or just drop her like a hot potato and move on to someone who doesn't act like a child. Personally, I wouldn't spend another minute on someone who sent me a text like that, but it's your call. exactly! I have nothing to add
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