jakeyjake Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 Hey guys, am new to this website and this may be a long spool but I really need some advice on what to do as I can't move on from my ex girlfriend.. So here my story: I'm 25 and my ex is 22. We dated for a year and a half. It ended 5 months ago. We had a good relationship (is was both our first true love). We had our ups and downs like any relationship but always got along really well.. The only time we ever really fought was when she was drunk sometimes, causing arguments. We loved each other a lot and had a lot of fun during the time we spent together. To cut a long story short the best I can, I mad a terrible decision to break up with her as I went overseas travelling for a few months. We were fighting a bit before I left for my travels (mainly because she wasn't happy I was going travelling, and I don't blame her). I also felt as though I wasn't as physically attracted to her as much as I used to be. Looking back now it wasn't a well thought decision and I can't even believe I broke up with her. I went overseas and had an awesome time seeing the world.(it was my dream as a child to travel the world solo). I didn't really think too much about her at all straight after the break up, maybe because I was distracted by the fact I was overseas having an awesome time. I just put it to the back of my mind and enjoyed travelling. When I got returned home after travelling, I sent her a text saying I as home and that I hope she was doing well. She didnt reply so I just left it at that. After about a month of being home the holiday high had worn off and I really started to miss her. Started feeling really lonely and that maybe I had made the wrong decision. I realized how much I still loved this girl. Then a month later she sent a message asking if she could come around to pick some things up that she left here. So she came over and told me she was doing really well and ha moved on. This killed me to hear this and to even see her! She looked beautiful and I just wanted her back. But she said she moved on so I left it at that and didn't contact her. A month later she text me asking how I was. I replied to her then there was a few texts back and forth for a few weeks (not a lot but maybe 10 texts each) just general chit chat and a tiny bit of flirting. I started numbing into her a few times too. It got to the point where it was too much for me and I had to try and get her back. I wrote her a letter begging that I made A big mistake breaking up with her and that I loved her so much and wanted to make it up to her. She called me a few days later saying that there was nothing left and that she had moved on and was in such a good place right now. She said we weren't meant for each other. I asked her why she started texting me out of the blue and she said that she was thinking about me a lot and there were still feelings there and that's why she texted me.. This really confused me as she said she ha moved on but still has feeling and thinking about me... Anyway, I had to respect her decision and try and move on but I can't. It's so hard and I'm in so much pain I love this girl so much. I took her for granted and made a bad decision. I'm finding it really hard to move on. I have decided to go NO CONTACT to help me get over her and have more of a chance of ever getting her back. I keep hanging onto this hope that maybe she will come back to me and it is so tempting to chase her but I know that begging will just push her away further. I can't forgive myself for making the bad decision of dumping her.! And feel that I will never find someone like her again! So, should I keep the no contact? Do you ever think she will come back? Or should I just try and accept it's never going to be a relationship again and try to move on? I really need some help here guys it's killing me What should I do?
iworthmore Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 keep going NC. anything else you do will not help. she knows how you feel and how sorry your are for making that decision. set her free. it up to her to make her mind and sort things out. meanwhile try to live normal life and don't build any false hope. sorry for that bro.. good luck
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