first love dumped me,

[carriel]

It is not like me to be on one of these sites, so it says a lot that I came here for help. I trust all of your advice/experiences, so if you could give me some feedback that would mean the world to me.

 

I have had a few relationships before, but the one that meant the world to me just ended recently. He was a really nice guy and never did anything wrong to me while in the relationship. We were with each other about a year and a half and saw each other a year before making anything official. We go to college together and are from the same hometown/high school as well.

 

He dumped me recently and then told me a few days later he regretted it. However, within a few days he met some other girl, and within three weeks made her his girlfriend. I know he did not cheat on me because it was actually a mutual friend who first introduced them. They post pictures together hanging out with their families and they have been together only two months. They look so happy

 

It hurts a lot he found someone new so quickly, and since we are in the same social group, I see them all the time. They are both pleasant towards me. I'd love to think he's in a rebound relationship, but my gut is telling me he isn't.

 

I'm trying to get over it.. I took some time alone and now have been seeing other people. I've met some great guys but I feel like no one compares. I know I'll find someone new one day but its hard to imagine now. I'm so miserable. I work two jobs and go to school full time as well and its all I can think about. I still have hope we will get back together one day because I am still very much so in love with him.

 

Does anyone have any advice for me or perhaps similar experiences they can share? Its hard to find people in my actual life that can relate.

[d0nnivain]

Just take one day at a time. When you find yourself being sad, take a moment to recognize what's going on, then work to talk yourself though it & move forward.

 

You're doing good so far

 

Hang in there.

[rosedl]

So sorry, honey

 

Break ups are never easy, but the first real heart break is particularly tough.

 

We can all tell you that you will feel better in time, and you will meet someone else and feel love again. It's true but not much consolation when your heart is crying for someone and all you want is to wake up and think it was a bad dream.

 

Feel your feelings. Observe your thoughts but don't hold onto them or buy into them. We make up story lines in our heads about their great new life or how we will never meet anyone we love so much again, and we convince ourselves all this stuff we think is true. It isn't. You don't what is going to happen tomorrow. And, ultimately, it doesn't matter what happens with him and his life. You have the capacity to live and feel joy and experience a full life without him. It doesn't feel that way right now, but I swear, honor bright, it is true.

 

I have been through three major heart breaks in my life. None of them have been easy but I have gotten through two of them and working on healing the third. When I get really down, I try to think back to my last break up and how miserable I was and realize that I don't care at all about being with those people anymore and don't really miss them in my life. And, I was devastated by these losses at the time. Heartbroken wreck.

 

This latest one has been rough, but I see I am healing through it faster then before and with the perspective of my having been through it before. Since this is your first, let me share what I KNOW to be true. Life not only goes on, but comes around to happiness again. It may take some time. It WILL happen!