lioness75 Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 I have posted my story some days ago, while i was still trying to figure out how to become a priority in the guy's life. In the meantime the guy just disappeared. I do admit that there were red flags which i chose to ignore, I chose to believe the positives and ignore the negatives. So I have to blame myself for trusting and investing and not taking a step back when i saw the red flags. In my defence though i have to say that he always reassured me that everything is fine and kept planning things for our future, thus giving me false expectations of a future together. Now I have had breakups before and it wasnt always easy, but what made this extremely difficult was the fact that he just disappeared. He kissed me and hugged me and made plans for the next date and then the next day he just disappeared. While many of you gave me a lot of helpful advice and I did start to understand what happened, i was still angry. Angry because he misled me and then mocked me, angry because he threw me to the trash just like that, just angry! So in an effort to clarify what happen in my head, i started to write my story. And then i decided to put it on a blog. And then i edited the blog to accentuate some bad stuff about him. Then when i was about to send the blog to him it occurred to me that this is not enough. This is not stuff that he doesn't know, he simply does not care. So I have done the craziest thing I ever did in my life: I put in bcc all his colleagues from work. Why? because work is a priority and he cares what these people think. I wanted him to feel embarrassed, to wonder whi knows about this and who doesnt. I know what i did wasn't fair and I should not have mixed his private life with his work life, but when i clicked on send i was just so upset, so hungry for revenge, so eager to hurt him as he had hurt me. And it worked: he called me 20 minutes after sending the email. And again. And again. 6 times in one day. I never answered. And I do admit it felt good to ignore his calls, to make him see how it is to call and not get an answer. With each call i got more satisfaction. Crazy, I know. I still feel sad, but i am not angry anymore, I understood that it was actually for the best, he could have disappeared after 6 months or one year, and it would have been much worse. Im so much better off without him. But I do wonder: am I the only crazy person out there? Has any of you done something so crazy and extreme after a bad breakup?
MissyM007 Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 Ha!! Genius!! I love it! I would never do that but I love it. It's not gentlemanly or decent to treat a woman that way. It's disgusting what he did very cruel and just unnecessary. I don't think its because he doesn't care its likely because he's immature and doesn't have communication skills so he doesn't communicate at all. I think you had the final say. Its hard to know which men are genuine what I do is ask some questions early on rather than later. Taking things really slow and keeping busy in other areas of your life make for a high value woman. Take care
winny Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 Wow... I would never do anything like this... mostly because as soon as I am sure a guy doesn't like me, I do not believe in spending one more sec of my life even hating him. Even that is a wastage of my time and energy. That's how I am... What you did was crazy... I would say.. don't repeat it...
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